Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 4 xxxxx

[littlebellsmum]

Less sadness, more joy but always lots of lovely people who understand

Just thought - there's no link to the "Emmsys onwards and upwards" thread on here now we're on part four. It's very good for keeping your spirits up! It's where you go when you graduate from this thread. Either when you're trying to conceive again after a miscarriage, or just thinking about it, or maybe just contemplating the idea of thinking about it! We'll all need a bit more support next time we get pregnant and no one is better than the friends we've all made on Emmsys. Most people lurk on both threads for a few months because like Curly says "there is no such thing as onwards and upwards after a miscarriage. It's more like onwards and upwards then downwards and sideways, and hopefully onwards and upwards again!"

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/705069-Emmsy-39-s-onwards-and-upwards-xxx

Have a look ? it?s a good reminder to us that we will feel a bit better eventually, from the people who?ve been there.

BlueMoon - sorry I can't help much - I've not had spasms since my miscarriage, just felt generally odd across my whole abdomen. Have you had an AF since your miscarriage?

I'm on day 15 since I last stopped bleeding (it was on and off for a few weeks) and getting pains today. I think I might be ovulating. DH works away and isn't around so at least the decision of whether to try again or not is taken out of my hands.

Gracie yes a couple of weeks ago and it was a horrible experience that no one thought to warn me about - i bled so much it was really scary and was in a lot more pain than normal and just generally felt very out of it. I think i'm ovulating too, i've got some cramping pains which i always used to get, so we are making the most of it, or if i'm not ovulating then we're having fun practising anyway .

Do you have any children already or are you still trying for your 1st?

I've just been reading your link to onwards and upwards, very inspiring but still makes me sad that it feels like it won't ever be me.....

Going to see my Mum tomorrow for mothers day, will be the 1st time i've since her since mc as she lives a couple of hours away. Hoping i can hold it together when she hugs me! She did tell me though that she had a mc before she had me and my sister, so there is definitely hope

Blue I'm still trying for my first child. You never know, maybe we'll all be Mums by next Mothers Day. Enjoy your time with your Mum tomorrow. I'm sure she'll be fine if you don't hold it together when she hugs you. My Mum had a missed miscarriage too at around 20 weeks after having 2 healthy children.

The Onwards and Upwards thread was started around the time we both miscarried, I kept reading it everyday for a few weeks before I posted on it. They are good if you have any queries on miscarriage or TTC.

My AF wasn't as painful as I was expecting but was really heavy, just felt dizzy all the time.

Evening ladies - can't comment on the cramps, mine sort of passed when the bleeding stoped and my af was pretty normal. Short if snything and pain free - not what I was expecting after reading about everyone elses.
Thanks for the link, Gracie - I do lurk there occasionally !
Bluemoon - have a lovely day with your mum and I wouldn't worry about holding it together - it is your mum and it sounds like she might know exactly how you are feeling ( even if it was some time ago, I can't imagine the memory fades completly).

It's funny but only once I'd had my mc did I realise just how many of my friends had had them either before or between their children. It is definetly at least 1 in 3 and they all have children now ( most have more than one),so, there is most definetly hope, Bluemoon

Fingers crossed Gracie for next Mothers day

I know my Mum wouldn't mind if i lost it, i just kind of feel like i'm a grown up and i shouldn't have to rely on her anymore.

Evening littlebellsmum yes i never knew how many people had mcs before their 1st child, and still go on to have healthy babies, there is hope for us all even though it might not feel like it at times

You're not relying on your mum - you've had a shitty experience and it's nice to have her support.

I do feel a bit bad - I saw my mum the day after my mc and whilst she kept asking what was wrong with my eyes ( 24 hours of bawling is not attractive), I lied and said I'd poked something into them. Part of me wishes I'd told her but as she didn't know I was pregnant or even contemplating it, I didn't want to deal with the shock. Also - as we already have two dc's and are not exactly flush with money, I'm not sure she'd be too pleased at the thought of no 3 arriving, much as she loves her grandchildren. I think I underestimated her, which I feel pretty bad about as we are close

Evening everybody. Blue Moon, I've not experienced delayed cramps after either of my miscarriages. Small blessing though it was was both did progress without complications and AF returned without any problems after the first mc.

To all of us who are or will be ttc again soon lets hope that we are in a better place next year

Hi girls

I hope you dont mind me gatecrashing your thread

I lost my little boy to stillbirth 5 years ago and therefore know the pain of a mothers day without the child you so desperately wanted and loved

I will be thinking of you all tomorrow

gatecrash over..

fm wanders back to whence she came

hugs to you all. Remember that you are mummys, keep your little angels in your heart. the love is still there.

Well I thought i was doing ok til yesterday - yet another scan, apparently my uterus lining is 23mm thick when it should be 7mm so surgery it is Just want it over with now, sodding hell six weeks of it is seriously pssing me off now...

have read the last page of the thread, I'm off to read all of it. Good luck girlies, hang in there I'm thinking of all of you pretty much all of the time, sorry I'm a tad erratic with the posting.

welcome frasersmummy feel free to join us and sorry for your sad loss.

FrasersMummy - Come back!! All waifs and strays welcome on this thread! (as long as you bring chocolate!)

Giggle big hugs to you, we don't mind you being erratic with your posting. Sorry you have you have surgery.

Chocolate??? Right, I'm staying then.

Frasers Mummy- yes, please don't go. I also have a friend who lost her daughter to a still birth last march. She was comforting me the other day and I was still upset for her loss too.

Blimey Giggle you're easily bribed!

Gigglewitch - what a total bummer. At least after surgery, it should be over finally ( fingers most firmly crossed)
Everyone else - remember , Mothers Day is just an excuse for the card companies to make money, over commercialized tat... Didn't work? No didn't really expect it to but thought I'd try

Hi everyone thought I would join this thread. Had my 3rd MC 2 weeks ago tomorrow
got my first appointment to see a specialist on thursday feeling a bit worried but hopeful at the same time that they will discover the problem but also know there's a strong possibility they won't find anything wrong. It's good to look on here anyway and chat to people who are going through the same thing

Welcome Kay, sorry to hear you've had your 3rd miscarriage. We'll keep you company on this thread.
You might want to look at the Onwards and Upwards thread too as quite a few on there have had 3 or 4 miscarriages and are currently undergoing investigations.

Hi,
That letter really made me cry but it was good to hear other people thinking in the same way, thank you.
Can anyone help me out with some of the initials being used, I'm not really up on them so cant always follow what people saying, sorry.
Thanks xxx

Had MC about 4wks ago now but still find if I try to put old troussers on although they fit compfortably they must apply to much pressure to my lower stomach area even though I am not squeezing into them and I have a sort of painful ache for the rest of the day (around where you would have period pains normally), sometimes makes me have small amount of spotting, has anyone else had this? Maybe my uterus has not thinned out and shrunk down again properly yet?, (I was over 12wks)
xxx

Hi Little big - welcome to our cave
I didn't know the abbreviations but this page helped .
If there are any you still don't know - just yell.
I can't help on the strange pains - my stomach seems completly back to normal, plus a few pounds as I had to eat to get over the m/s ( I was 10 w + 5) . I am having the weirdest af mind, heavy but not painful for three days, stopped and then dribbled for the last two days. Not normal but then at the moment, what is

Evening everyone, hope you are all ok today.

littlebig hello - i can identify with some of the things you are saying. I mc on 4th Feb but even now my stomach feels bloated sometimes, and i have 1 pair of trousers i dont wear anymore as they are a bit snug. The main thing i have found is that i cant sleep on my stomach anymore as it feels a bit like a knot or something is there, hence part of the reason why i cant sleep anymore. And today my whole stomach is very achey, right from my ribs to where i'd usually get cramping quite low down. Very weird, and it upsets me too as it reminds me of the pain during my mc.

Been a long day for me so off to bed soon ready for work in the morning speak soon girlies, hugs to all xxxxxxxxxx

LB, me too, mine was 5th feb and I am still preferring to wear slouchy pants not 'proper' trousers, very tight and uncomfortable. I know what mine's about tho - it might be worth you nagging to get a scan to check it out

Evening ladies!

Am feeling a little wobbly this eve as got to go for scan tomorrow as they found a cyst when I had scan when I miscarriaged.

Was a bit peeved when DH said he couldn't come with me tomorrow, but think he feels guilty now particularly when I pointed out that I didn't exactly want to go back to the same place for a scan on my own , seeing as it all still a bit too raw. Anyway am hoping a good friend will come with me instead.

Have had a nice day today, so that's good and hope you all have too.

Will be returning to work on Tues after having had 3 weeks off so feel a little daunted about that but am sure it'll be ok.

Good evening all, mind if I gatecrash this thread? I've been lurking for ages and thought it was time to introduce myself. For a long time I just felt too fragile even to post anything... I mc'd on 28th Jan at 10 weeks - it was a mmc, so my LO had died weeks before that and all they saw on the screen was an empty sac, although I had constant nausea, sore boobs, the works. It was my first pregnancy and I was completely devastated. Before I got pregnant I had such a casual attitude to getting pregnant, I wasn't worried at all - and although I wanted a baby, I also felt that my life was already very full and I wasn't sure how the baby would fit into it. Then after the miscarriage, it was as if everything that used to be important (work, social life) just paled into insignificance, and there's really no way to get back to that carefree place. Now there's a big baby-shaped hole in my life... it feels like the only thing that will fix it is getting pregnant again, but some days the anxiety that that may never happen (which I've no reason for, since i conceived very quickly) gets so bad it feels suffocating. Anyway i will stop going on now... This seems like a very supportive 'place' and it helps to tell people how I feel since I don't talk about it much in RL... no one really understands what a sad day mother's day was for me today... but I see that most of you actually share my feelings about that. Thanks for 'listening' and sorry for all your losses x