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Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 2 xxxxx

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barbie1 · 08/11/2008 21:50

Hello to everyone coming over from the previous thread and for all the new girls who will sadly be joining us...
You will not find a better bunch of girls to help you through such a hard time, we will get through this with the help of each other xxxx

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Jools1 · 26/11/2008 18:15

Hope it goes as well as these things can Heebee

Still at work - am now sat at the desk of someone with a piccie of a newborn baby boy on the desk The girl sat next to me is chatting away to a colleague in another office who has just announced her pregnancy - due in April

Caved in and told my new boss what happened - went OK and I'm glad I did now

Off to the hotel for a blub in quiet, followed by wine and a nice meal (maybe pudding aswell !!)

VJay · 26/11/2008 18:34

Oh jools it is so pants sometimes. I try and think to myself in these situations that it will be my turn soon enough. You go and enjoy your wine and definatly have some pudding.

Heebeejeebee · 26/11/2008 19:03

Jools - its awful, isn't it? Currently 3 of my close work colleagues are pregnant. Fortunatly they are all ahead of me, but it is going to be awful watching them go on maternity leave. Vjay is right - all you can do is look forward to the day it will be you.

I think you did the right thing telling your boss - it will take a lot of pressure off if you're feeling a bit low.

I'm joining you in a glass of wine - and I would DEFINITELY go for the pudding

daisysmummy · 26/11/2008 19:31

hi all hope everyone ok today

barbie1 · 26/11/2008 19:37

jool there is a 19 year old who feel pg by accident her due date is three days after mine, she insists on showing me her scan pics and bump i did try to tell her not too as its too hard but the patronising little madam said you will be excited about your own one day!

I have been to the gym again and this time did two work outs. i was feeling a little lonely today so spent more time at the gym just to be around people

Thankyou ladies for your well wishes concerning hospital tomorrow, silly me i googled what they would do and now im getting slightly nervous, i have everything written down so the docs wont be getting off that easy
VM ill be thinking of you tomorrow as well xxx

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Jonesy68 · 26/11/2008 19:53

Good luck for 2morrow barbie and heebee.. jools hope you enjoy your dinner, wine and pud!

I went to the gym today (don't work Wednesdays) for 1st time in 3 mths (since found out was pg) and MY it was hard! Usually do 30 min run but managed just 10!!! Have to say it felt good to get back in there and sweat again tho.

Missed blue's encounter with fame darnit! Tried the link but can only see tonight's. Well done tho...!

Jonesy68 · 26/11/2008 19:54

Also had haircut SHORT today...! Change is as good as a rest s'what they say isn't it?

Jonesy68 · 26/11/2008 20:09

barbie have uploaded pic of wrist tattoo. It is ds's initials..

barbie1 · 26/11/2008 20:12

wow its so cool! when did you get that done??? well done on new hair, i just had a really good trim
ps you ds is soooo cute

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scamperT · 26/11/2008 20:29

hi ladies, got back this morning and trying to stay awake as long as poss to stave off jet lag. Spent some time catching up with you all, had a bath, and now back on again as DH is watching Top Gear. Can't see the computer screen currently as Arthur the cat is sitting right infront of it. No sign of his brother Ransom yet, but hoping he's ok.

Loved New York - thanks to all for lovely messages and suggestions - we stayed with friends and did lots of sightseeing, and ate our own body weight in diner breakfasts. Somehow ended up in Santa Land in Macys store, very surreal with crowds of employees dressed as elves, beaming at us and wishing us merry christmas, we even got to meet santa who was clearly about my age but with a fake beard! When he asked me what I wanted for xmas i only just managed to stifle the phrase "two blue lines on a clear blue pg test please."

barbie will be thinking of you tomorrow. Hope you get some answers to make sense of things. I always feel underinformed at hospitals, just remember that part of their jobs should be to make it understandable for you, after all, its your body. Can't beleive that stupid girl showing you her scan pics!! Am always impressed by your gym workouts though!

daisysmummy I am really sorry to hear about all you have been through this year . I hope you get more support from the crisis line. Did you see the female GP and was she any better? Sounds like you don't need books but support in human form. In the mean time, there's us, and I'm sending another (((hug))) to add to the others.

sabs how gutting about the visa! Has that been sorted out yet? I know you were looking forward to that trip a lot. Will you go somewhere else if India is off the cards? Sorry I haven't joined you yet on new thread

jools babies seem to be everywhere just when we need not to be reminded We went to see the New York Rangers ice hockey match and out of the whole stadium where did the really young couple with the really cute baby sit? Yep, right in front of me. DH kept telling me off for not watching the game but couldn't take my eyes off the baby. Hope you are tucking into pudding and wine by now. Have a glass for me

heebee will also be thinking of you tomorrow. Just remember all these ladies giving your hand a squeeze (or giving you a big bear hug) when you get to the hospital. Take plenty of rest after and don't go back to work til absolutely ready

lionstar glad you were feeling brighter today. We will all pull through this, and 2009 will be a positive year in more ways than one for us all I hope.

there are so many more of you I want to say a personal word to, but DH is really going to kill me if I don't get off the computer. Will end by saying massive congrats to blue for BFP!!

Am sure this will have cross posted with someone, so apologies in advance, more tomorrow, scamper waves to all and goes to make a large bowl of porridge with honey before settling down in front of the tv xxxx

Jonesy68 · 26/11/2008 20:48

barbie thnx for compliment on ds - am proud as punch!!!

Had tattoo done in Brighton summer b4 last. Part of mid-life crisis! Have 2others and contemplating a 4th.... If do have another lo will of course have to get initials somewhere too!

DS at his dad's and DP out at his sisters. Home alone...! Enjoying large glass of wine, telly & doing my nails...

Is quiet on here tonight, apart from Jools who's out njoying nice meal, what's everyone up to?

Sabs1981 · 26/11/2008 20:48

Yay scamperT is back...I missed you!

Jonesy tattoo is fab!

Sabs1981 · 26/11/2008 21:08

ScamperT good to hear you had a good time in NY.
barbie good luck for tomorrow..silly little work colleague very impressed with your gym workout. Need to take a leaf out of your book. My clothes are getting tighter and tighter
Jools feel for you. I know of 2 work colleagues who are due around april, and another close friend who is due in feb..but like heebeejeebee said it will be us soon!
Heebeejeebee wishing you all the best for tomorrow..sending you lots of hugs. Will be thinking of you.
lionstar good to hear you're feeling positive

Sabs waves to mm, VM daisysmummy and everyone else

I am now getting even more worried about my visa for india, as there has been lots of shootings and casualties in Mumbai today. The shooters have been targeting British and american tourists apparently. They still holding people hostage

barbie1 · 26/11/2008 21:16

sabs oh dear, will you still go if you do get your visa?

heebee was meant to send you hugs for tomorrow, you will be fine, take it easy after though, plenty of time to come here to see us!

scamper nyc rocks! i love it and im so at you having just been...buy anything nice?

jonesy i have just painted my nails too, and faked tanned. I smell like biscuits Im going out on sat for the first time in months.....well since my bfp however im looking forward to it v much, although not the hangover on sunday

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Jonesy68 · 26/11/2008 21:37

scamper spooky - was just talking about NYC today (to hairdresser who's just split with her dp and thinking of going off to NYC for a while to get some fun factor back in her life). I've been 4 times and LOVE it. Also v ...!

barbie Smell like biscuits...??? LOL! Thnx for that! Am also out on Sat night for 1st time in AGES! We will be nursing hangovers 2gether on Sunday...

barbie1 · 26/11/2008 21:40

brilliant jonesy ill bring the sick bucket, and some chocolate for later, you can get the sunday papers and we can chillax on the sofa together! Dont you ever tan and smell like biscuits?
Oh dear prehapes barbie should embrace being pale and take a bath, this tan stinks

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Jonesy68 · 26/11/2008 21:44

OK, I'll get the papers and also the Nurofen and Lucozade!

Haven't ever done fake tan or sunbed as have foreign blood in family somehwere (Portuguese I think...) so am a bit brown all the time ... realise this may make you so will go get biscuit tin from kitchen and cover self in digestives so I too smell like biscuits.... Actually can think of worse things to smell like.....

bluesatinsash · 26/11/2008 21:48

Hey everyone

scamper - great to hear you had a ball in NY - its just amazing isn't it? v at the thought of all that lovely food.

barbie - I wish my fake tan of yore smelt like biscuits, it used to STINK and I had to sleep in old pyjamas to keep the smell in. Sadly I'm a bit lacking the FT dept. and only do my legs if the sun is shining. You'll be a golden goddess for tomorrow. Talking of which I hope it goes really well and you get some answers and a way forward. What sort of jobs are you applying for in Dubai?

Hi Jonesy - you go girl with your tattoo and short hair and going back to the gym!

lionstar - was lovely to read your post, you sound very positive x

Jools - hope you had a nice meal and glass of wine tonight. Sorry that you had some encounters today. Fingers crossed for bd next week...

Heebee - will be thinking about you tomorrow

VM - hope your appointment goes well too

daisy - how are things with you? We're all still thinking of you x

Hey MM, sabs, VJ, Mollie and everyone else.

I'm off to bed as I'm knackered! night all xx

barbie1 · 26/11/2008 21:49

oh dear i nearly wet myself laughing! im thinking that i dont want to go bed smell like a hob nob....v at you, dh is the same, i will go to dubai and burn, peel and have sun stroke while he looks like a greek god... well so he likes to think

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barbie1 · 26/11/2008 21:50

meant to say smelling like a hob nob!

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Jonesy68 · 26/11/2008 21:59

Saw from your pics your dh also has 'olive' skin thing going on - no pressure for you then??!!! My ex-dh used to get so mad as he would lie in sun all day on our hols and after a week be what I thought was quite a nice shade of pink but after about half an hour I'd look like someone from a 3rd world country....

Console yourself that on Sunday you will just be pale, I will be olive green.....

Jonesy68 · 26/11/2008 22:01

PS. Have just had to go get biscuits - dammit!!! Was doing so well today too...

barbie1 · 26/11/2008 22:04

who cares what colour you are at midnight blind drunk hey?
Enjoy the biscuits

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mm1509 · 26/11/2008 22:31

Evening girls,

Tried to get on earlier but rl really been taking over the last few days, only get to sit down at this time of night and back to work tomorrow aaaarrrggghhhh. Trying to quickly catch up but not much time atm. Good to see scamper had a great hol, and everyone seems quite positive atm..........all getting ready for a great 2009 for us all.

barbie sorry I didn't catch up earlier but had to come on and wish you lots of luck for tomorrow. Glad to see you are armed with your list, just remember we are all there in spirit with you and I will keep an eye out for any update tomorrow. If you need to talk phone or text me after 7 tomorrow night, you know how to find me hun. xxx

Big hugs to you all and sorry I can't catch up with everyone in person, vm still missing our chats and sorry I have been awol the last few days but will try and post at work tomorrow.

mm1509 · 26/11/2008 22:32

barbie sorry I meant to say I am working until 7 tomorrow in case you are wondering.