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Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 2 xxxxx

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barbie1 · 08/11/2008 21:50

Hello to everyone coming over from the previous thread and for all the new girls who will sadly be joining us...
You will not find a better bunch of girls to help you through such a hard time, we will get through this with the help of each other xxxx

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gingermumi · 15/12/2008 11:13

Thanks so much, had a really good day saturday, big family day out to see santa. I was dreading it but it was great. ds had the best time ever. Thought I was doing really well but got all weepy on way home. I think it was because it was exactly one week fom mc and I just started to think of what might have been. Also felt guity for not thinking about it for a while, silly really. This is probably TMI but I have to tell someone because i keep thinking about it but when i had mc i passed the lo complete in the membrane sac, it was so sad to see it like that. I took it with me when i went to the hosp in a flannel, poor little thing . I had to sign a form at the hospital to 'authorise the disposal of foetal remains'. I wish i hadn't now but if i had bought it back home i don't know what i would have done with it here. I can't get that picture out of my head. Sorry to talk about it but i don't know who else to tell.

Also I still get very very tired (as i i was prgnant) is that normal too?

On a lighter note am so impressed with the stamina of some of you guys! I think I'm getting old!

VJayMerrilyOnHigh · 15/12/2008 16:14

Hi ginger the tiredness is normal. I saw a very clear scan of my baby when it had died, and that image has haunted me a few times, I find it very hard to think about it. I'm getting upset now writing this.

I seem to be getting quite emotional lately, either because af is coming or I'm pg, but I haven't thought about my mc's for ages, then these last few days it's at the front of my mind. I'm worried that if I am pg then I'll be in hospital again soon. I spoke to DH about it today, and he said at the end of the day there's nothing we can do but to just get on with it, harsh, but true, and strangely comforting. I'm rambling now, which I do when I'm stressed.

VJayMerrilyOnHigh · 15/12/2008 19:46

I've de-stressed now, and I'm calm again.

Santa has just driven past our house on his float, and dh ran ds outside to see him. I've never seen him smile soooo much, he was so excited....and it's given us more bribing power

JingleJools · 16/12/2008 10:06

Good morning ladies

I hope the 2WW'ers are feeling positive It has been very very quiet on here lately

Gingermum - hope you are still doing OK ?

I have a question to those of you that have had your first AF post MC - what was it like ? lighter, heavier, just as normal ??

I'm asking because I'm having a really wierd stop / start light bleed that has been going on for 48 hours now - never enough to colour a pad and reddish pink mixed with (TMI I know - sorry lots of what looks like EWCM ?? No brown blood, no mini clots that I would normally expect with AF - very odd.

If I had sore boobs, I'd have wondered if it was an implantation bleed, but I don't, so think this is probably just a wierd AF but can't help hoping ....

Any thoughts ?

wannaebemum1 · 16/12/2008 12:03

Hello everyone

I hope you don't mind me joining into this thread. A nice lady recommended this as I have just returned from the hospital this morning having found out that I have lost my baby. I was just over 6 weeks, they think I have had a total miscarriage but needd to check blood again in 48 hours before they can be certain.

I have been bleeding heavily since saturday evening does anyone know how long I can expect the beeding and clotting to conitnue, its breaking my heart every time I go to the toilet?

x

gingermumi · 16/12/2008 12:37

Oh wannabe you poor thing, i was told you can bleed from 2-6 weeks, for me it started with light bleeding for about 5 days and then heavy bleeding lasted about a week or so, it has just stopped and the actual loss off my baby was about 10 days ago (about 4 days after light bleed started...rambling on..sorry but i hope that helps. The waiting for tests and scans is awful, you constantly hope they've got it wrong and you have to keep going through those initial stages of grief over and over. Lots of support here though. Take care.

gingermumi · 16/12/2008 12:39

jingle not sure about your dilemma, is it worth doing a pregnancy test?

JingleJools · 16/12/2008 13:08

Hi Wannabe - so sorry you've had to join us

From memory, my blood loss from a natural mc was extremely heavy (resulting in a visit to A&E) for 3 hours, then like a very very heavy period with lots of clotting for 2 days. It tailed off into normal AF flow after that and was pretty much done after ten days. I was further along than you though..

Can you not get them to scan you to confirm that everything has gone ? They did that for me ...

look after yourself and rest - you will be very tired and emotional for a few days.

Gingermumi - I know a pg test would not be positive yet if this is an implantation bleed - think I will have to wait till Sunday to test. Not sure what to think at the moment !

bluechristmasbauble · 16/12/2008 13:22

oh wannabe big hugs and welcome. As ginger has said you can bleed for up to 3 weeks. I had natural mc at 8 weeks and bled horrifically the first day, slightly less the next then much less day after and that continued for 2 weeks.

ginger hope you felt better writing down about you seeing your lo.. I wrote my whole mc story on a thread asking for similar experiences and it did help. I think I knew when I passed my lo too, I didn't see it though but (TMI) heard it plop into the toilet (everthing else slithered out) but was too upset to look.

jools my first AF after mc was only slightly heavier than normal but lasted 18 days!

Mollie - sorry to hear your card experience x

MM - glad to hear your feeling positive. How was your DD's nativity, were you quietly sobbing into your hankie or did you go for full frontal crying?!

Vjay - we had Santa round our way last week on his float and DS got a wave - he nearly expired with excitement!

VM - mother nature is a bisem* as pg symtoms can easily be AF symptoms and vice versa. I was convinced AF was on her way as I was grumpy, spotty and even had the pre-AF nippy feeling in my nether regions. The fact your feeling crampy this early on to me is a good sign Thanks for asking after me, I'm just lying low feeling sick as a dog, taking it each day or even each toilet break at a time. I'm 7+3 today and will be the same stage I was at when I mc on Christmas Eve.

barbie - hope your not working too hard. My Mum's getting me the Night serum for my Crimbo so I expect to look fabulous in the new year .

sabs - I too was glad Alex won but really liked JLS in the end and was secretly rooting for them on the night! Beyonce blew Britney out the water. I like how Dermot (swoon) announced that she was singing live!

scamper - dancing to 5am - yowser! You can't beat a good girls night out to raise the spirits. Hope your friend found comfort at the carol concert x

VJayMerrilyOnHigh · 16/12/2008 15:46

Hi ladies, and welcome wannabe, sorry you've had to joins us, make sure you take plenty of time to talk and cry and just let it all out. Do things as and when you feel ready to do them. Sending you lots of {{{{hugs}}}}.

I'm off to ds's nativity tonight, he doesn't want to dress up and will be the only child in his school uniform, (due to his autism), but we don't care, it's just great that he wants to join in....as with miscarriage, it's small steps

christmasBarbielovesSanta · 16/12/2008 22:31

i started my christmas shopping tonight and finished it too bar 2 things happy days! hello to everyone im still here but so busy, day off thursday so will catch up then, special hugs to mm vm and mollie and of course to everyone else too x

Sabs1981 · 17/12/2008 09:08

barbie you sound really busy! good to hear your dad is on the mend...

scamperT good to hear the old scamper is coming back! sound like youre being a right party animal!

gingermumi How you feeling hun? Sending you lots of hugs

jinglejools I have had 2 AF's since my mc and both of them were much heavier than my normal periods. Not too sure if this is normal either. I am due my 3rd AF in the next few days so will see if that follows the same pattern or goes back to normal

wannabemum sorry you have had to join us, but the support and advice the ladies give out on here is amazing and really helped me to get through the dark times.

Sabs waved to VJay* blue and everyone else

Well not much is happening with me at the moment, just looking forward to going India next week, and also my next AF in the next few days, so i can start ttc again...

Hope everyone has a good day

christmasBarbielovesSanta · 17/12/2008 11:51

who is going to do the honours of starting a new thread?????

christmasBarbielovesSanta · 17/12/2008 11:54

me again!

Lippy1 · 17/12/2008 13:04

I'm hoping there's someone who can help me, whose maybe had a similar experience. I found out at my 12 week scan that I'd had a missed miscarriage at 6/7 weeks. I'd had no bleeding or anything, so it was a real shock. My hubby and are are both devastated, as it was my first pregnancy, but trying to get back to normal I chose to have a ERPC, which went ok. But two days after the op, I started to have really severe pain, accompanied by bleeding. Scan showed that I have a blood clot, hence the pain, and they said it will pass. But it hasn't yet, and I'm worried that my cervix has closed up. Has anyone had similar experience?

Lippy1 · 17/12/2008 13:06

I'm hoping there's someone who can help me, whose maybe had a similar experience. I found out at my 12 week scan that I'd had a missed miscarriage at 6/7 weeks. I'd had no bleeding or anything, so it was a real shock. My hubby and are are both devastated, as it was my first pregnancy, but trying to get back to normal I chose to have a ERPC, which went ok. But two days after the op, I started to have really severe pain, accompanied by bleeding. Scan showed that I have a blood clot, hence the pain, and they said it will pass. But it hasn't yet, and I'm worried that my cervix has closed up. Has anyone had similar experience?

VJayMerrilyOnHigh · 17/12/2008 13:38

Hi Lippy, I'm so sorry for your miscarriage.I had an ERPC with my first mc, but I didn't experience the physical pain you are experiencing, are you sure it's not an infection? I hope whatever it is clears up soon for you, but in the meantime just give yourself some time get over the emotional side of it all. A good cry, or many, works wonders xxx
This thread is nearly full now and a new one has just opened up, it is Emmsys part three.... come and join us over there xxx

lixanismapolium · 22/12/2008 13:18

Hello There ..... long time no chat!

I was on here in late September following my mmc at 11 weeks, and I also remember some of you from the April 09 thread.

I disappeared in October as I needed some time to myself to recover, but desperately wanted to track you down to tell you my good news as you were so supportive when I needed a friend.

I got a BFP this morning!!!

EDD is 1st September, so very very very early days yet. I'm feeling quite scared, but very very excited. I'm considering going to bed for the next 3 months to keep my little bean safe!

Fingers crossed for all of you girls. This is proof that it can happen again quite quickly!

Littlebig · 02/03/2009 09:16

Hi,
I had a miscarriage a week ago, I was 12 wks. It was my second pregnancy and my husband and I are really devastated. Just wandered how people coped really cos still find myself getting weepy at the silliest of things and the guilt is that norrmal I feel like I should have picked stuff up earlier, but could doctors do anything that early on even if I did speak to them?
Stopped my bleeding after a few days but it started again has anyone else had this?
I was taken into emergency but they couldn't do anything except give fluids. then had to go for scan next day in which my husband and I had to wait with other mums who were looking at there 20 wk pictures and giving us strange looks, then had to go for anti-D injection and was sent to wrong place they sent us to labour ward!! was called back and then had to wait agin, was there for 3hrs!! Like some form of NHS torture!
Would love some advice on how to deal with emotions, my todler thinks I'm loopy at the mo.
Was thinking about planting a rose or smtng to mark my little one? At least would have a place to go as it is so hard to explain a loss like this to people who haven't been through it, I mean I felt it moving from early on.
xxx

VJay · 02/03/2009 18:43

Hi littlebig, so sorry for your mc. There is another emmsys thread part 3 now.
It is so hard, and when you feel weepy just have a really good cry, don't hold back. It is so bad that you had to sit with the other pg ladies, I had do that too and it was horrible. Join us over on the part three thread, you'll find other just going through what you are going through xxxxx

Littlebig · 05/03/2009 09:17

Thank you VJay xxx

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