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emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels xxx

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EisAHandbagaHolic · 15/09/2008 22:26

hi ladies
well i think its about time we had somewhere where we can all come to reflect on our lost angels and help us to move on towards the future and support eachother through the bumps in the road in the meantime
love and hugs to you all
{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}
xx ei xx

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lilacpink · 07/11/2008 20:30

Hi All, has been really busy over past few days on here! (Thanks for replies to my earlier query about councelling, I think I would def try it if this happens again or probs TTC.)

It's good to see that although MC/MMC is awful, we can still find +ve too, and sharing the -ves help make them seem smaller too

Just think, maybe fingers crossed by this time next yr we'll all be preg! On that note, I'm trying not too not thinking about how it will feel this time (if it happens again). I made the mistake of saying once that preg was like an esculater 'once on your stuck to the end'. Can't believe how I moaned before, and now like all here would be v.happy to have lots of symptoms

Re. TTC, I hope we'll try in Feb, but still waiting for results, so may be longer. A new TTC thread sounds great and I'd love to hear of BFPs from MNs on here!

Curlywurlee · 07/11/2008 22:16

Hey there. Love the new name. I'll be bringing my fluffy slippers and gallons of icecream to the cave (mmmm icecream)

I think we'll aim to start TTC in January. Part of me wants to start sooner but I don't think I would handle comments from well-meaning friends over xmas and new year if I'm not drinking alcohol. Lilacpink, I was thinking the same thing about this time next year, fingers crossed.

Have a great weekend everyone. I'm off to Southampton to watch the mighty saints in action against Bristol city! After nearly three months with no drinking, I'll be on the floor before the game even starts

barbie1 · 07/11/2008 22:23

have a good weekend curleywurlee have a drink for me!

Its very quiet in here tonight! i hope you are all enjoying rl, i do wish i had vm book for tonight

mm1509 · 07/11/2008 22:41

Hi barbie hope you are good tonight, sitting having a glass of wine atm, medicinal of course helps me sleep after working nightshift, thought I'd check and see how you are.

barbie1 · 07/11/2008 22:46

hi mm im fine thankyou my lovely...had a lovely bath and sat relaxing now, dh called earlier and it was nice to laugh and relax with him, all be it be telephone. I find out tomorrow where i will be next weekend and if any plans etc, dont worry if you are too busy i can always make another trip! Any excuse for a day trip out

mm1509 · 07/11/2008 22:50

If you have some time over the weekend I will make sure I am free so we can meet. Let me know and I can do some rearranging.

barbie1 · 07/11/2008 22:55

i will let you know by sunday at the lastest, i promise! hope the wine is good, my book should arrive tomorrow, did you order one too? I do hope vm is busy on her next novel and somewhere in it it will feature a barbie and a un named person known as mm1509! By the way what does that stand for???

mm1509 · 07/11/2008 22:58

Yes I did order the book, looking forward to a good read. mm1509 is my initials (Michelle) and anniversary date, I know a little soppy but who cares.

barbie1 · 07/11/2008 23:03

ah bless tbh its the day of my operation thought it might be the day of yours too? im glad its for a much nicer reason though Im off to bed, work tomorrow and then a evening in watching x factor with my chocolate dog (and maybe some ice cream !}

mm1509 · 07/11/2008 23:08

Oh barbie will have to consider a name change, tbh we didn't have the best of anniversaries this year. Don't work too hard tomorrow and will be joining you for the x factor I am afraid I am now hooked. You take care hun xxx

barbie1 · 07/11/2008 23:11

no no no dont name change, really, i didnt notice it until just then, i want it to be a happy day!!! I dont want you to name change

I like you just the way you are xxxxx

barbie1 · 07/11/2008 23:13

Gosh i keep putting my foot in it lately dont i? First outting VM and then putting mm off her name

Ill hang my head in shame .....

Night night all, happy weekends to each and everyone of you xxxx

mm1509 · 07/11/2008 23:15

OK name stays the same for now and it normally is a happy day just this year were waiting to have the mc confirmed. I am looking forward to seeing out this year now, we have said it before but roll on 2009.

Jonesy68 · 07/11/2008 23:19

Evening....! About to go to bed shortly but wanted o check in and see how everyoe's doing tonite - looks like a quiet one...

Mine too s DS has gone to his Daddy's for the w/end. Have been relaxing with a large glass of wine (did miss that the last couple of months) and sky plus.

Reading lilacpink's post earlier about being stuck on an escalator it made me think about how cross I got the other day when I saw a telly prog about drug addicts who are parents and how some of them have awful lifestyles and been so ill with their addictions to class A drugs, but have carried more than one child no problem and given birth to addicted babies. And here I am, perfectly well and healthy and can't seem to carry a pg at all anymore. Seems unfair and cruel. I realise this could sound short-sighted and selfish but I can't help feeling angry like that sometimes. Hope I've not offended anyone...

rant over....

mm1509 · 07/11/2008 23:22

Never, never, never hang your head in shame on this thread my lovely friend. You haven't put me off my name just didn't want it reminding you of a sad time. Hope you have a good weekend hun and I am happier knowing you will not be by yourself next weekend. Sweet dreams xxx

barbie1 · 07/11/2008 23:23

mm you might keep that name forever more, you might just get a bfp and be due on that date.....you have a month or so to put into practice....

mm1509 · 07/11/2008 23:27

jonesy68 don't worry about your rant I feel the same anger and frustrations you do about our bodies not doing what they should even though we do everything right. Going to bed now but our bodies will get it right again we have to believe that, take care xxx.

MollieMooma · 08/11/2008 09:18

Barbie Bless you I love the way you stalk me! Have been a little up and down over the last couple of days and really busy at work which is when I usually catch up
How are you after your little episode on the beach, have you had anything like it since? I go to a spiritualist mtg each week and after 1st m/c I was given a msge that it was a boy and that he wasn't ready yet for this world, I found comfort in it but DH would rather not think of it as a boy/girl, each to their own. Are you still temping? It's probably not worth it while you have a cold as it will probably be slightly higher and as you've found out harder to keep your mouth shut Do you do it first thing when you wake up? It should be done whilst lying in bed before you move, also mm it needs to be a thermometer that can be used orally or "down there" I did start temping after first m/c but got a bit obsessive but any quests happy to help x
VM I see you have been making everyone cry again Loved your thoughts on your new book, and I have to say will be ordering your first one today, we will have to start a book club You had some really good reviews, I googled you It explains how you get everything down in words so well, you are one clever lady!
Sabs So glad your visit went well with SIL and niece, it should get easier for each time now
Scamper I agree with you regarding being more open with people in RL after sharing on here, somehow it feels more acceptable as you know your not alone, I think my mum is fed up of me going "and there's this girl on MN who..." blah blah
Curly Hello and welcome, sorry you had to join us and at your frustrating time so far! Cannot believe the comments from the recovery nurse!
Jonesy Another newbie but glad you have found us and are getting lots of advice and support
Circular I echo your thoughts about trusting another BFP, as I'm still trying for my first I knew no different first time round and just accepted what symptoms I did or didn't have, then had mm/c. When I got pg 2nd time I had really bad symptoms and everyone kept saying what a good sign that was, we had the early scan offered and saw HB but mm/c at dating scan at 11 wks, followed by CP a month later. So now I have no idea what to do next time whether to scan or not to scan! Also I have decided that I will tell the world right from the beginning as I won't be able to hide the worry and stress and can't see the point, I've kept it quiet before and it's ended badly, so what the hell!
MM How are you hun, by the way I don't think that's a soppy name at all, I think it's lovely using your anniversary date I'm named after the cat!
I'd like to book an advance place for the hibernation cave please, loving the sound of that!
Waves to Vicky & Lilac apologies if I've forgotten anybody and sorry for the long post, but I had to catch up with you chatterboxes

VickyJane77 · 08/11/2008 09:36

Will catch up with posts later, just wanted to let you know that my book arrived this morning, thanks vm for telling us about it xxx

VillageMum · 08/11/2008 10:25

VickyJane, oh dear, I hope the book is OK and doesn't send you to sleep (or maybe not? Quite useful to have something sleep-inducing when we're not feeling our best!) I'm incredibly touched that you got a copy, thank you!

barbie, yup, you are going to have to be my agent in Dubai ... can't believe you've been chasing up the book in Smith's! They'll stock the paperback in the spring but don't do the hardback. Have been thinking that I should really dedicate the next one to all of you!

mm, I'd guessed you were a Michelle, don't ask me how... I'm sorry you had to spend your anniversary in such pain. Our baby was due to be born on our wedding anniversary next year. Maybe, as barbie says, something will happen to redeem all these dates for us.

Mollie, hello! and Jonesey, lilac,curlywurlee and 4ever if she is out there, thinking of you all. Must go and do a load of laundry now - yay! xx

mm1509 · 08/11/2008 11:22

Morning everyone,

Well I went to the service of rememberance..........it was so hard but I now feel better that I went. I knew how it was going to affect me but felt it was the only service I would get to remember my babies, I had to go, in tears again atm. Lit three little candles and just so sad that's all we have. Need to go have to pick up dd from dancing.........taking lots of deep breaths to regain some composure. Will be back later to chat xxx.

MollieMooma · 08/11/2008 11:29

MM Very proud of you for plcking up the courage to go and glad you don't regret it. Of course you will be emotional and probably will be all day, but hopefully we'll see you later with a little smile on your face. Sending you a big tissue and a hug x

VJay · 08/11/2008 13:29

Hello I've just got back from doing some Christmas shopping, please don't shout or throw things at me!!
I've named changed, was VickyJane77, as I've been spotted by someone I know on another thread, and my nickname hid nothing, she doesn't know me on here so I should be safe telling you, I wanted VJ, but settled for VJay.
mm I hope you feel ok, and well done for going to the service, I think it's very brave, and a very nice thing to do, {{{{{hugs}}}}}.
vm not started your book yet, I'm waiting until ds is in bed, then I'm going to open a bottle of wine and your book, I can't wait.

VJay · 08/11/2008 13:30

PS I can't wait until we all move into our cave

mm1509 · 08/11/2008 13:55

Hi I'm back and feeling a bit better, I knew today would get to me but just felt that I had to do go. Swimming lessons today for dd after dancing so rl kicks in again, probably a good thing. Determined to have a nice family weekend so going to do my best not to dwell too much. Dh is away out for a run but when he comes back in I think I will suggest we take dd and go do something together.
Thanks for the much needed hugs mollie and vjay the tissues came in handy too. - small smile mollie
Sorry it's all me today, big hello's to everyone xxx