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hi ladies
well i think its about time we had somewhere where we can all come to reflect on our lost angels and help us to move on towards the future and support eachother through the bumps in the road in the meantime
love and hugs to you all
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vm no harm in being careful. BTW I was just looking back at the knicker checkers thread and I didn't even realise that we were chatting on there while I was going thru my mc. I looked back as a reminder to how far I have came and seen your name. My head was everywhere at the time but can't believe that i didn't recognize you on this thread. I certainly won't be letting that happen again, could never forget you know).

That was supposed to be now not know, doh.

mm, don't worry, wouldn't blame anyone for not recognising anything under these conditions, believe me! Couldn't forget you now either!

Poor you, 4ever, being on painkillers... my AF after the mc was surprisingly normal painwise but I have to say that I'm having the most excruciating ovulation twinges today. It feels as if my plumbing is exploding on both sides - more like AF than the AF was!! Take it easy...

4ever yes it is a great day, one to remember. At last America gets it right, been having a lot of debates with family in the States but smiles all round at the result.

Hello all, i have left work early because im so poorly, both with the flu and period pains, im now sat resting and hopefully will be able to catch up on some must needed sleep later, as i only managed three hours last night!
My af has gone again so i guess im just spotting until it should arrive in a few days, so i dont count that as cd1 right? [confused face!]

Scamper i hope you found the time to catch up, we realy do write alot dont we?

curlywirly i really hope that today went ok for you, we are here for you when you return home.

4ever im glad your af turned up, ill be just a few days behind, but like you i cant remember the pain being so bad!

mm if you are not sleeping i really hope you are resting

vm how are you my (young) chat buddy, i hope tntc isnt to hard for you this month....

well im here all day and day off tomorrow so happy posting!
Oh yeah i got my hospital appointment through today its on the 27th, im sure you have one then vm is that right?

barbie you get some rest until you feel better, I tried but failed today and I'm working tonight aaarrrggghhh, no rest for the wicked I suppose - it's going to be a long shift. Wish I could give you some answers regarding your af, mine only lasted 3 days and was very light still not even sure if it was her or not. It would just be so good to get back to normal now. You take care hun and get yourself better, hugs and waves xxx

Just remembered to tell you all - work are carrying out a risk assessment on me today! When I returned I pointed out the fact that after 3 mc no one had even bothered to carry one out, (our industry can be notorious for mc in certain areas), I certainly put the frightners up them and have apparently arranged 3 different assessments to be carried out today. I think they know they have screwed up and are now trying to cover all bases. Tbh they are letting me know on a need to know basis atm. I will definitely be mentioning the industry I work in to the consultant when I see him. Will let you know the results when I get them.

Hey there. Thanks for all your lovely messages. I turned up for the EPRC today at 8am only to be told at 12:30pm that I had been bumped off the list and they might be able to squeeze me in after 5pm but I would have to stay overnight. After mass hysteria and tears from me (dear god - what has happened to me!) they let me go home and we'll try again tomorrow morning.

Feeling a lot more positive now - especially having made up for fasting with cheeky trip to McDonalds on they way home. Highlight of an otherwise rubbish day was also the nurse's avoidance of using real words to describe what she referred to in hushed tones as my "private bits". Poor thing went bright red when she described where I had to put the pessary - bless her heart

Hope you feel beter soon Barbie. It's great that a few of you are getting a visit from dear old AF though! That must feel like a real turning point

curlywurlee at them making you wait! i had two trys of medical management which failed so i was told to in on the monday, so when i went in i was told i would have the operation by mid day, didnt have a choice by that time, luckily i hadnt eaten but the same happened to me, i had to wait until 6.30 by which time i was starving and then had to stay in overnight Relax tonight and take time for yourself and dp, try not to think about tomorrow so much but if you need to ask anything ask away, im here on the sofa doing nowt else

Thanks Barbie. I'm glued to the couch myself tonight but being well looked after - I could get used to it!

Hope you are better tomorro so you can enjoy your day off

Oh curly what a horrid day, hope you are taken early tomorrow but to have to go thru all that again. Glad to hear you are being taken good care of, you deserve it. Good luck for tomorrow.

barbie how are you feeling hun.

hello mm! feeling awful but the chocolate cake helped somewhat! Cant sleep due to feeling hot then cold, if i lie down then i cant breathe and if i sit up i cant sleep period pains have gone, just a browny discharge.
Tried to take my temperture this morning to start keeping track, however i didnt realise you have to hold it under your tongue for a full 60 seconds, i really couldnt breath and ended up having a coughing fit and the bloody thing sho out of my month across the bedroom floor i didnt even get to see the temp

barbie you need someone there to take care of you, sending you some hot lemony drinks to make you feel better. Sorry but you made me laugh at you taking temp, chocolate cake always makes things seem better hmmmm.

im glad i made you laugh, but seriously i cant hold it under my tongue for that long??? I thought i would of had a really high temp due to this fever but from what i could gather on second (shorter) attempt my temp is lower than normal? Do you temp? Im going to try again tomorrow but prehapes i will hold in this time just in case

I have one of the thermometers you put in your ear, actually bought it for dd but we have used it ourself, can you hold it in your armpit I have seen them used like that as well, just a thought.

Hi All
Curleewurley - sorry this is happening to you too, the delay in ERPC must be really hard. I found ERPC very quick (about 10 min) and only felt very mild period pains after (but bit of dry throat the next day). I had it the same day I found out and think I was lucky here, but shock of it hit me next few days (to be honest after a few weeks it still hits now), but coming on here helps: you're not alone and can b completely honest here Hope you have lots of people in RL to talk to too.

Congrats for all the missing AFs! I'm still not sure what I had, and still haven't had feedback follwing ERPC. Has anyone else had feedback, if there was no reason do they just say this? I had signs of Molar preg, but was just told to wait for feedback (and def not TTC in meantime), but not sure if I should chase this up?

I thought I'd share some of the comments I've had lately, I'm lucky I can see 'funny' side (as in what the f**k!) and I'm not as vulnerable as at first:

1. "Well at least your fertile" (literally first comment on hearing what had happened). 2) "What if you need a hysterectomy, will you be happy with 1 child?" (er, bit premature to think this far...) 3)"You have had an experience I'll never have in life" (gee...thanks!)

Anyhow, there have been others, but I can't summarise here, you just had to be there. I know it's not on purpose, and is well meant, but some comments are just wrong! Anyone else have some 'classics'?

Hope all wellx

oh ill have a look! maybe i need a childs one too...i hope your shift passes over quickly for you, i think ill try to sleep now, day off tomorrow so i can lie in, the dog will just have to cross his legs for a while sweet dreams xxx

Hi lilac the funny thing is people don't even realise they have put there foot in it. Glad you can see the funny side it does make it easier. I think I would defo chase up the feedback especially regarding poss molar preg, if it is you need to know before you can try again. Not an expert on this but if you look back monkeysbumsmum had a molar preg and will need to wait before ttc again.

lilac hello! was meant to be sleeping but cant breathe! i had the classic line from my cow boss....she said this week, 'your figures are brilliant, so much better than the last manager this time last year cue smug face from me, until she added its a good job your arent still pregnant because you would be what 6 months now? and this would all be too much for you and the figures would go down!!!!
Gee thanks

Barbie, I'm that thecow your boss said that! Some people should just stick both feet in their mouth and give up communicating with those around them

barbie what a bitch, just wait till you are 6 months preg. You take care and try get some sleep and if you cant sleep I'm here all night.

mm - thanks, I'll look back at MBM posts re. molar preg. I did find a site about it, but that suggested the results came back v. quick (after 2 weeks) if Molar, and my friend knew after about 2 weeks, (I could ask her more, but she's preg with dc2 and I don't want to remind her as she had a MC too before preg, I may see her soon tho so may ask).

I wondered if anyone else has had councelling for MC/MMC? My dh has suggested councelling as there are periods where I still feel v. low. But I have said I have family to talk to, should be talking with him, and have Mumsnet! Also, is early days.

I think if this happened again, or if we have trouble TTC, I may give this a go. My DH and I went to RELATE after problems communicating and it did help, but not sure how it work with this, i.e. what I think would help would be to know I could TTC and then go onto TTC successfully. But I wondered if anyone else had found it helpful?

lilac - go chase those results so that you can set your mind at rest and know when you can ttc safely again... Haven't had counselling myself for mc but I believe all talking cures are good! Glad you're getting some of your old spirit back.

barbie, oh no, the employer from hell strikes again! Unbelievable! Really sorry to hear that your AF is behaving strangely too. Maybe wait and see if the full flow arrives in a day or two and then count that as cd1? I'm glad you're getting checked out. I also have a hospital appointment (scan) on the 27th and will be there with you virtually...

curlywurlee, how frustrating and upsetting to have to go home again - but nearly there now! Hope that it's all over by the time you read this!

Well, I was convinced I actually ov'd at 4pm this afternoon as my twinges hit a peak of agony at that time and have tailed off since. Just as well that dh and I aren't ttc as we had an argument this evening and are now sulking in opposite corners of the house! So barbie (to answer your question) tNtc is remarkably easy tonight! Pooh! and pah! to him! [sticking out tongue emoticon]

mm, which industry do you work in BTW? x

vm lol at you and dh trying not to conceive, are you sure the argument wasnt part of your project being serious now i do hope its nothing serious and that everything is ok? I will count the first day of cycle the day i get a full blood flow before noon (read this somewhere) however im still going to keep all this marked down for the hospital...Im having a scan and an x-ray what about you? Polycystic overies have been mentioned as my periods were/ are so irregular so i guess im being checked for that too?

barbie, I've wondered too if I'm picking fights as part of my project... it's nothing serious; I got cross because he was home late from work. How's that for acting like a mature woman of ancient years? (But he is even older so he should know better! Argh, now I'm getting cross again!) Guess I will have to go upstairs soon and make up (but not too ardently).

I'm having a scan to check that everything really is back to normal and that there's no sign of the fluid they found on my left tube after the mc. It was clear at the last scan, but my consultant is paranoid now because I bullied him so much (hmmm, do I maybe see a pattern here with the men in my life?) It's good that you're keeping a record for the hospital - that will help them. I'm sure they'll do a detailed report on your ovaries and check for PCOS too. I found seeing inside my repro system and that it was all OK quite a relief; until then it was all guesswork. I really, really hope you get all the answers you need too. Let me know how you are tomorrow? x

Hi VM, yes thanks I'm feeling stronger now (most of time). Even off to bed soon and may sleep.

Hope making up with dh goes well (but perhaps wear a bin bag or similar atire so not so well )

Barbie - hope you feel beter soon.
MM - hope work is ok.

Nite all x