Missed miscarriage

[Armdjm]

Hello, I am just looking for any advice (preferably from NHS experience) as I know no one who has gone through this to ask.

I am 9 1/2 weeks pregnant, had a private scan yesterday which confirmed heart stopped at 6+4. I had a gut feeling (hence the scan) I can’t explain why as I still have all my symptoms.

I rang my local unit and went today for a scan who again confirmed the same as the private scan but are making us go back in 14 days for a re scan before I can have any medical management.

it just feels cruel and I have so many worries.
Will it happen naturally when it stopped so long ago?
can I end up with an infection with it just left there?
Will the NHS offer surgical management over tablets?

I just feel tortured

thank you to anyone who has read this!

Hello lovely. I’m really sorry to hear this, I think a molar pregnancy looks very different on the scan to a normal pregnancy (though it would be good to check this). I think it’s unlikely that they had made a mistake. Maybe you could follow up with your concerns anyhow if it is upsetting and worrying you? It is very quick to arrange a d&c , it must have all happened so fast.

I am sorry this happened to you too. It’s heartbreaking to think all is fine and find out later something has changed. Sending love.

Thank you, it wasn't a molar pregnancy in the end but, I always think what if they made a mistake and I always blame myself xx

Thank you, it wasn't a molar pregnancy in the end but, I always think what if they made a mistake and I always blame myself xx

How are you feeling now? For what its worth, I don't think you should blame yourself. I think it's unlikely they made a mistake, but if they did - the blame should be on them. I hope you are recovering okay, sending lots of love. I have been there and its an awful feeling. <3

Hi thank you for your message. I had a really bad day yesterday for some reason but apart from that I've been plodding on. Xx

So, just to keep this post honest. December 2024 we discovered we had had a MMC and went through treatment after treatment to resolve, it was honestly one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through in my life emotionally. But, fast forward to December 2025 and my little boy has just been safely born into the world 😭 it is the most full circle thing I have ever witnessed but just wanted to provide a happy story in the midst of what felt like one of the hardest things to go through to provide hope and a bit of positivity to others.

Hope everyone is doing well 🥹

@KT199 congratulations, such wonderful news 💕
All being well I’m going to follow your pattern. I had surgery for my MMC in January 2025 and I’m due my baby girl in January 2026! It’s amazing how things work out sometimes x

Amazing!
my LO is also due in 5 weeks but section booked in 4 weeks ❤️

@KT199 this is amazing news! Congratulations, I hope you're feeling well.

@Confusedmermaid1 that's amazing that your little girl will be born in the same month as you had your surgery. That's very full circle!

@Sunshine8537 oh, how exciting! You must all come back and update the thread.

I'm due my second little girl in April 2026 all going well 🤞🏻

So exciting to hear about all of these babies @KT199 @Confusedmermaid1 @Sunshine8537 @SureLook !!!

I realise I never updated this thread, but after a MMC in September 2024 and another MC in December 2024 my baby girl was born in September 2025 and is almost 3 months old!

It really is a very odd full circle experience. I was prepared for her birth at almost exactly the same time of year as I had the MMC and the anxiety never really went away for the whole pregnancy. But as soon as she was here, it just evaporated.

I feel like it’s a full circle for me too. There is a very good chance my baby will be delivered on the day I conceived the baby we lost

Congratulations!

such positive stories for those who need hope 🩷💙

Same! Very likely I will deliver on the day we conceived the baby we lost

So lovely to hear the stories of hope..I had surgery for my MMC in July 2024 another MC in Feb 2025 but now I am due at the end of Jan just a week before my original pregnancy due date. So this baby will likely be born a year after my first would have been. It does seem cyclical.
Sending everyone hope and congratulations on your new pregnancies.

I feel like the only one who hasn't had success yet 😔 we lost our little girl at 22 weeks pregnant in September due to a freak infection (had to induce her to save me). This was after 4 missed miscarriages, at least 2 of which were just unlucky. We start IVF next year.

@WildFinch @Sunshine8537 @KT199 @Confusedmermaid1 @InvisibleDragon @SureLook SO MUCH good news and hope in this thread. HUGE congratulations to all of you on your new little ones. ❤

After a missed miscarriage in January 2025 we are also expecting again - due late Jan 2026 (but likely to be a week earlier via c section).

In case it helps anyone else, we were reading about microchimerism the other day. It has brought us so much comfort to know that I’ll likely forever carry a little DNA of the one we lost (& this new baby may well do too!).

@Moosey898 I’ve been thinking of you often after everything you went through. I hope IVF brings you some hope after everything and you will have a baby in your arms soon 🤍

Thank you. It's so sad that it's become "if" we have a baby not "when". Trying to keep some hope x

@InvisibleDragon congratulations on your little girl. That is amazing. My anxiety has decreased since we've had the NIPT and I can feel movements now. But it's very much still there. I'm so glad it disappeared once your little one was born.

@Sunshine8537 oh wow, that is very full circle and will be very special. I actually had another loss after my MMC and a friend said to me that my little soul is up there just waiting to come down to me. I actually discovered I was pregnant with this baby on what would have been my MMC babies due date 💕

@WildFinch congratulations to you, too. Another full circle scenario!

@LovingFawn more congratulations! I've read about that too and it's a lovely thought to think you'll carry them around with you forever ❤️

@Moosey898 you are frequently in my thoughts. I really hope the IVF works for you and your little baby will be with you very soon 💕

@SureLook thank you. I'm glad noone else here has had to go through what we have, but it's tough being the ones still struggling with no idea if things will work out or not xx

Sending love, that must have been so hard. <3
I hope you get your rainbow baby.

Hi all,

just wondering if anyone has felt like this

I feel that I haven’t enjoyed this pregnancy for many reasons. One being it followed a MMC in March. I’ve gone for an elective c section due to mY anxiety, risks and baby being breech - I go in tomorrow 8/1. My concern is that it still doesn’t feel real to me and im
paranoid about post natal depression because of it. I have waves of excitement around seeing baby with its sibling however I feel there’s a lot of anxiety around it being healthy. It still doesn’t feel real to me.

can anyone relate?

Hey,

I can absolutely relate. I found pregnancy such a worrying time. I had an elective section too exactly a month ago tomorrow. There was a lot of anxiety in the build up to the section too, hoping and praying when he was delivered he would cry and all would be ok. I will say I was ecstatic and the happy hormones defo flowed following my section but once they dropped I struggled with anxiety about him getting sick.. I put a lot of it down to time of year and the nasty bugs about as I have really struggled with the idea of someone giving him a cold or the flu. Thankfully all is well and my worry did level out about 2 weeks PP but from day 4-14 I was very up and down. All that being said all it takes is one look and cuddle of my baby to feel happy and blessed. I really have never known a love like it and I am completely obsessed with him. My hormones are a lot more stable now and I am thinking rationally definitely don’t think I have any PP depression just relief and love on reflection that he’s fine, here and mine.

Yes, I felt really similar - did minimal baby prep, didn't tell most colleagues about the pregnancy until about 30 weeks, couldn't bring myself to imagine life with 2 little ones and was anxious about something going wrong right to the last moment. I was crying throughout my (planned, elective, calm, lovely) C-section because it just felt so unbelievable that my baby would be here safe. Thankfully my DH and the anaesthetist were great at banal chat to keep me focused on the here and now.

I can honestly say that the moment I saw my DD healthy and screaming 2 seconds or so after being born, all the worry evaporated. She is a lovely nearly 4mo now and the difficulties I have are the normal difficulties of parenting a very lively 3yo and a baby.

Hello. I'm now 26 weeks pregnant and don't have answers, but also thinking about an elective C section due to trauma/anxiety caused by both my MMC in July 2024 and TFMR in July 2023. I'll be watching to see what others say!

I hope the c-section went well. <3