Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 8 ALL welcome!

[Sunbird24]

Exactly as the thread title says.
Some links to online resources that may be useful to anyone currently or recently going through this awful experience:

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/
www.tommys.org/
Www.miss-support.org.uk/support/
www.blr.lifecharity.org.uk/
www.petalscharity.org/

www.miscarriageformen.com/

You are not alone - please post whatever you need, or just read if you aren’t ready to talk.

Link to previous thread:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/miscarriage/4732386-support-thread-for-those-experiencing-or-recently-experienced-a-mcmmc-thread-7-all-welcome?page=1

So sorry to hear this, it’s such a difficult time and a really hard time to make decisions in too.

It is complete personal preference. I have had MC at home and as traumatic and sad as they were, they were over quickly in terms of initial passing of larger tissue. This time I did opt for surgical but I passed the baby on my own whilst waiting.

Sending love xx

@Nicole90134 How did the appointment go? I hope you feel better soon - i know its hard but i started trying straight after my surgery bleeding stopped. You know you feel a bit better that you are past all that and now you are looking forward to some hope. Good thing to think about is that if i got pregnant once it mean i can conceive and there is no problem hopefully. do you see what i mean?
Praying for you x

Hi @Faz19 i am feeling hopeful and much better than last week. No idea what to expect tomorrow when I take the next tablet but it is a means to an end. Did you wait for a negative test? I am planning on trying straight away as well. Yes I do I spent two years worrying I can’t get pregnant so at last now I know I can x

Hi, I had surgical management on Monday and while I bled for about 12h after, just lightly, I haven’t had any blood since. Is this normal? With my first SMM I had light bleeding for about a week, a break, then another week of it. Thanks

@CurlyWurly1991 I was the same, I hardly had anything on a pad and it was really only there when I wiped for a day if that.

@Nicole90134 Exactly now you know you can get pregnant and i am sure 100% our next one will be a successful one. To be honest, I did not wait negative test but it was a very faint line (almost negative). As soon as bleeding stopped(which was on 9th) i started trying again then after 3 days bleeding (veerrry light) started again which lasted for 4 days (like spotting for last 2 days)after which pregnancy test was also negative. then we started trying again along with ovulation tests.

Thanks @jellyfish2 I hope your recovery is going OK? I remember last time the emotional side took a few weeks to hit me and I expect the same again. There are other complicating factors this time that mean it is probably going to be even harder but I need to remember it is a process and the emotional pain won’t last forever.

@CurlyWurly1991 yeah recovery is fine, it's the emotional side isn't it. I think about that baby everyday. Mine was Feb so I'm going TTC next month, another week before my fertile window though.

@jellyfish2 Are you doing anything to mark the loss of your baby? I meant to buy a plant last time, something that bloomed in August which was the last due date. Now I have a Nov one as well, so I might head to the garden centre and choose something that can be a lasting memory. We will never forget them xx

I hope you meet your rainbow baby soon xx

@CurlyWurly1991 we got to bring our baby back home. The hospital gave us a lovely wooden box with a butterfly on it so we buried it in the garden and have scattered seeds over it which are starting to come up now. I go over there most days and end up having a little cry and find myself saying sorry I couldn't hold onto them.

We definitely won't forget them. I'm so sorry you're going through this pain again. A plant that blooms around the due date is a lovely idea. My little one was due in August too 🩷

@jellyfish2 💕 💐 xxx

@CurlyWurly1991 not much to choose from in November but a evergreen jasmine may work or a Winter viburnum. Xx

@H20202 thank you xx I was going to get a hydrangea bluebird for the autumn baby but now I might just get a big acer to mark both losses.

Hi everyone, hope it’s ok to join here before it fills up. I was on this a number of threads ago and unfortunately back again.

Just as a bit of a back story, I’ve been TTC our third since Dec 22. I had a chemical then, followed by a mmc in March 23. Then had a mc in Sept/Oct 23 followed by a chemical in Jan 24. I’ve been under recurrent miscarriage so when I found out I was pregnant again in March I thought this might be the one. I had my scan around 2 weeks ago to confirm the pregnancy was in the right place and started daily clexane injections. I’ve been on progesterone and aspirin from 3dpo. My follow up scan on Monday showed that the pregnancy had grown but not as much as they would expect. I am 8 weeks but there was no heartbeat etc.
I’m back in next week where it’s expected to confirm I’ve miscarried so it’s now just a bit of a waiting game.

As I’m sure a lot of you are feeling the same, just a bit confused and angry and not sure where to go next.

There’s lots of chat for me to catch up on but sorry everyone finds themselves here and will be nice to chat xx

I’m struggling. Been in hospital for 6 hours now waiting to go for surgery. The nurses can’t confirm that it will get done today. All I want to do is be at home & cry about how unfair this is. Instead I’m trying to be brave sat on my hospital bed & having a cry when I go to the toilet. And googling about chances of having a successful pregnancy after 2 losses 😔

@Figtree11 that's awful you are still waiting. I really hope you get the procedure today. Are you still waiting?

@xxcxdonxx sorry to hear you're miscarriage history and what you're currently going through. It's just so unfair.

@jellyfish2 yes still waiting 😢 Been here since 7.30, and still not sure if it will happen today. Finding it hard being here now

Just been sent home 😔 back in tomorrow to try again

@Figtree11 I’m so sorry. That’s awful. Were you having to fast the whole time as well? When I had mine I was warned the surgery would be delayed if there were emergencies, but it should have been same day. Hope you get seen first thing tomorrow x

@Figtree11 I can't believe you've been sent home. I forgot about the fasting too. Hope you're ok and get seen quickly tomorrow.

@CurlyWurly1991 @jellyfish2 yeah I’d had nothing to eat since yesterday. They were allowing me to have some water. Just had a McDonald’s on the way home!
I know it can’t be helped with emergencies going in, but it just feels like another thing to deal with again tomorrow before I can start to try & move on

@Figtree11 shit, I’m sorry 💔 I know they do their best but this just really adds to the trauma and stress of it all - absolute last thing you need. Really hope you get seen tomorrow, keep us posted and enjoy your super earned McDonald’s xx

@Figtree11 im so sorry to see you on here 🥲🥲 it’s just so shit. I’m sorry you have been sent home, bug fingers crossed tomorrow is more straight forward. Please know that you are not alone. I often find that I can be more truthful on here than I can with my own family and friends.

iata been 6 weeks since my second miscarriage and sometimes I feel like nothing had ever happened. The it will just hit me like this bolt of sadness. I’m trying to put all my energy into myself. I’ve lost almost a stone in 5 weeks (healthily) I’ve started a vitamin regimen and I’m thinking about the future. We have decided not to start trying until we have had input from miscarriage clinic

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/miscarriage/5066473-support-thread-for-those-experiencing-or-recently-experienced-a-mcmmc-thread-9-all-welcome

new thread as this is now full I think

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