Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 6. ALL welcome!

[Sunbird24]

If you’re going through this, you’re not alone. I’ll post some links to support organisations shortly, but feel free to post, or just read, whatever you need.

@Sunbird24 I'm not sure what to say when I have my d&c ? Do I ask for them to do tests on the baby & then ask for them to refer me for further tests ?
I previously chose to miscarry at home with meds but it was horrendous.
I'm not sure about trying again as it's such a traumatic time. I just want some answers.

Has anyone got any children at all , older ones ? C

@Phoenixwings1989 you are totally valid to feel the way you do. Just give yourself time to grieve and don’t have to make a decision any time soon. It’s just totally shite though isn’t it? My doctor keeps telling me how common it is…1 in 4!! And I’m like yeah ok shut up… I’m 2 out of the last 2!!

@CocoLady do you already have an appointment for the surgery? I’d make sure they know you want them to do genetic testing (or karyotyping if you can remember that word!) before the day so they can put it on your notes. The blood tests can be done after, but there’s one for a clotting factor that they can do both before and a couple of weeks after the procedure (when your HCG is back down) to compare the levels. The EPU should be able to help with all of this, and if they have a recurrent miscarriage clinic you should be referred to it. The results from the genetic testing can take around 9 weeks, so you can wait for those before trying again, but even if there was a genetic issue with this one it doesn’t necessarily mean there will be next time, it just gives you an answer for why this baby didn’t make it, but you may find that helpful.

Even just feeling like you’re doing something proactive helps sometimes, as this is something that very much happens to us and we have so little control over it.

Thanks @Sunbird24 so much helpful info ! I will ask at the appointment this week . She has also provisionally booked me in for the surgery this Thursday if she said I measured a certain mark? Not sure what she meant by this they do have a miscarriage unit as far as I'm aware. I just feel like I may not be entitled to any help as I already have a child x

And as in help I mean why I keep having miscarriages not ivf etc

@CocoLady already having a child makes no difference when it comes to testing for recurrent miscarriages as far as I’m aware.

How is everyone
Just out of surgery after my d&c wow feel like I've been hit by a bus and v emotional

Hi all I had a missed miscarriage at my 12 week scan. I had a D&C two weeks ago. I had very light/minimal bleeding after for about a day which was very red so I imagine more to do with the procedure. Yesterday and today I feel like I'm getting my period and have very small amount of brown spotting. I am still showing positive on a pregnancy test which I know is normal. Do you think this could be my period or just still an after effect of the D&C? I'm hoping my period makes a quick appearance so we can try again. Would I even get a period if I am still showing as positive on a pregnancy test. I track my ovulation through BBT but typically thermometer broke just as I had the procedure done.

Sending hugs! I think I was completely numb until I had the surgery give yourself the emotional time to grieve ❤️ I'm two weeks post surgery and it gets better but there are still random things that set me off

Thank you 🙏🏻 @mummatara
It comes in waves one minute I'm fine next crying mess
As it's our 3rd miscarriage the pregnancy will be sent off for genetic testing (not holding my breath, as they said half are inconclusive )

And I will be referred to the miscarriage clinic. Has anyone been referred? X

@CocoLady @mummatara how are you getting on?

@Sunbird24 better thanks ❤️ hosp asked me to take a test at 3 weeks which was today and it was still positive they've told me to retest in two weeks just hope body kicks in soon so we can try again

Ok, have they said what the plan is if it’s still a bit positive? If they haven’t, and it is (fingers crossed it’s not!) you want a scan to check if you’ve got anything still retained that would be stopping your HCG getting back to normal. If there is something there then you can try misoprostol, and if that doesn’t work they can remove it surgically - this is the process I went through in March after my Jan MC didn’t complete properly. Hopefully you won’t need it, but just knowing can help sometimes. 🤞

@Sunbird24 yes they said if it's still positive in two weeks they will do a scan I'm hoping it won't be as it just prolongs it 🙈 I already had surgery so hoping that I won't have to go down that route again 🤞🏼I track my bbt anyway which has dropped right back down so I'm hopeful that body is just retaining some hcg and not thinking there's still tissue in there I would have thought if there was tissue temp would still be high on my chart

@Sunbird24 thanks so much for askin hun ! Where do I start ? I'm on antibiotics for a uti still bruised from the cannulas they stuck in me last week from my d&c. Everywhere I go I see a baby or pregnant women. I just feel utter shit. & angry.
I'm back on the pill too which I didn't want to take but me and dp won't TTC again until we've had some tests done which I'm not very hopeful with as I'm in wales & apparently wait time is longer. Gp said if I don't get a letter within a month to ask him to chase it up. I was thinking in the meantime to ask gp to do basic thyroid test & any other ones maybe.
I didn't want to wait again as to TTC as I'm 35 now but I'm hoping if 6+ months won't matter too much in terms of my fertility!
My gp said I'm very fertile to get pregnant 3 times in 18 months for my age! Just haven't got my baby yet ! so that's me right now sorry to moan on ! Hope everyone is baring up xx

warwick.ac.uk/fac/sci/med/research/ctu/trials/cerm/informationforpatients/

@CocoLady I’m too old for this clinical trial that Tommys are doing but you’re well inside the age bracket, if you want to have a look. It’s totally normal to be angry for a while, it’s part of the grief process, and this whole thing is bloody unfair.

Hi all

I’m sorry to hear about your experiences.

I’m having a bad day. I had a missed miscarriage early May at 8 weeks (measuring 6 weeks). I’ve then been through 2 rounds of medical management, plus an MVA for retained tissue (during which I passed out before they did the last scrape). I’ve now been bleeding constantly for 6.5 weeks and it’s really getting me down. I was told the bleeding after the MVA would likely last up to a week but it’s been 2 weeks now, and it’s recently got heavier (more than a period). I’ve taken a pregnancy test this morning and have a very light positive.
I’ve been to the EPU numerous times and phone them regularly to tell them I’m still bleeding but as it’s mostly light they say it’s ok. It doesn’t feel ok though and I can’t move on. They told me to test and ring them back after 3 weeks but I’m going on holiday tomorrow for 2 weeks so even if it is positive next week and I’m still bleeding there’s nothing they can do. I don’t want the bleeding to ruin my holiday but it’s really getting me down that it”s been going on for so long. I’m also 40 and this was my first pregnancy so I don’t feel like I’ve got much time.
Thanks for reading

Hi all - quick question. How long did it take you to ovulate after you miscarried?

My miscarriage started 25th May and I had an MVA on 6th June. Had a 5 day bleed on 18th June which I thought was a period but it looks like it was still miscarriage as not ovulated yet. Really want to try again but not sure on timescales. Can anyone offer any advice? X

@41andtryingforfirst looking back at my app it looks like I ovulated 18 days after my MVA in Feb, and got my period 29 days after the MVA. With my second miscarriage I think it's been more like 9 days after the bleeding stopped, but as that one was natural with no procedure I think my body has reacted differently. My cycles were all over the place after my MVA so it did make it a bit harder to predict things, make sure you're using the sticks and pay close attention to CM, and as soon as egg white shows up, get on it!! Fingers crossed for you ...

Hi all, joining this thread just for a sanity check. Second MMC in a row, this one got to 10 weeks and got confirmed 2 days ago. I'm scheduled in for surgical next Wednesday and low and behold started spotting yesterday.
I'm desperate to hold on as last time it took 6 weeks and was beyond traumatic. I just want it over with. It's a weird thing to wish for but here we are...

Thanks so much @Tor88 for your response that's really helpful. I'm really sorry for your losses and hope you're ok x

@alvaryder totally get that, with 2 of mine I started bleeding 1-2 days before my surgery - feels like our bodies are just betraying us even further at that point. Whether it stops at spotting or actually goes the whole way, I hope it’s all over and done for you soon with the least drama possible.

@Sunbird24 I'm hoping that even it kicks in that they can just do the surgical still if it's not finished. Obviously if I get "lucky" and it all happens over the weekend then so be it, I'm just dreading another long drawn out bleed with multiple hospital ER trips.
Nature really is a b&stard sometimes.

Hi all, just joining for the virtual support. Had a MC today at 7+2 weeks, had very faint positives on pregnancy tests so had bloods taken and were very low (but increasing?) last week so knew it wouldn’t be viable. Started spotting Saturday night so had a scan with EPU today who deemed it Pregnancy of Unknown Location. Couldn’t rule out ectopic so took more bloods, came home and passed what I’m fairly sure was the ‘tissue’ part and lots of clots. Will have to go back in 2 days for bloods to check HCG again. Feel so emotional about it all and the waiting has felt like torture so there’s a part of me that’s relieved that it’s probably over. I’m very lucky to have 2 DS’s but didn’t think I’d be going through this for the third time (TFMR before and after DS1), but it seems I can only have rainbow babies.
@alvaryder i can totally sympathise, I have been willing my body to get it over with. Hope you’re ok now x