Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 5. ALL welcome!

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Hi everyone, I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks 3 days on Wednesday. It happened when I was in a&e, I had a lot of abdominal pain and was starting to bleed bright red. Sadly the waiting time was so long that I had my big bleed in the waiting room, and didn't realise until my name was called and I realised I had bled through my trousers onto the (thankfully) plastic coated chairs.
I went to the early pregnancy unit for my first scan a few days later (not the scan I was wanting) and they said there is still a lot of blood to be passed.

In some ways I'm glad it happened in a&e so I didn't have the stress of cleaning blood from furniture/bedding, and a gyno could check me over- but to have such a private devastating experience in a waiting room is awful.

Sorry for long post, definitely still in the long grass with my emotions.

Hi @Tofu35 sorry to see you here, recognise you’re username from the June 2022 thread I think. Look after yourself, make sure you surround yourself with supportive people and take all the time you need to grieve if you want to talk or just write down your feelings I’ll be here reading!

I’m a week on from my miscarriage and still having mixed emotions - the weekend was hard as that’s when I started miscarrying the week before and I kept thinking “this time last week I was still pregnant”. I feel really sad at times but mostly trying to keep my mind off it. Still not back at work, I had last week off sick and I’m on annual leave this week anyway but I still don’t think I would have been ready to go back. The guilt is real though as I work in a hospital and had lots of messages today about how bad the staffing is!

How is everyone else doing? Sending everyone love and good wishes

Hi @juniperandtonic yes I thought your name looked familiar, while I'm glad this space exists, it is always a shame to recognise names that we have spoken to in happier times. I'm so sorry you're feeling guilt about taking the time off, I hope your team at work have been supportive xx

@Tofu35 it really is I’ve found a lot of comfort reading others stories though and knowing I’m not alone, it helps for some reason as miscarriage is not an easy thing to talk about!

Luckily I have a supportive manager, no one else at work knew I was pregnant although I’ve told a couple of people since so I have the support when I go back. It’s just me - when you spend your days caring for other people you forget to look after yourself sometimes so I hate being off sick!

EPU today confirmed a MMC. Scan showed no growth since mid week 6 and no blood supply. Surgery booked for Friday, and they said it may happen naturally before then. I hope it does, to be honest.

EPU also said that although progesterone has been shown to help women with recurrent MCs and bleeding, they are not authorised to prescribe it at the hospital yet?

I've found a private place nearby that said I can go for a consultation and then potentially prescription of progesterone.

Has anyone here taken it - was it worth going down the private route/ cost?

Has anyone been prescribed by their GP?

My GP has allowed me to pick up some blood forms to do at another hospital (I'm registered to a GP surgery I've gone to since birth; now live on other side of the city to it but because my husband and I rent, I've never changed surgeries), so I have been told I can pick these up in 2-3 weeks and go and do the blood tests then. I think they mentioned something to do with thyroid - is that right?

Again, has anyone's GP allowed them to do blood tests and if so which ones did you do? Just to make sure I'm asking for the right ones!

Many thanks, and again, I'm so, so, so sorry this has happened to others.

Typically, I typed a big long reply then lost it! 🤦‍♀️
@WorriedGirl91 yes thyroid function is one of the blood tests you want, it’s good that the GP will do those for you. Ref the progesterone, I had it last time, but turned out baby had a chromosome defect so I could have not bothered as the outcome would have been the same either way. If you do go for it, I’ve been told to get the clinic to give you the prescription but then go and actually get it from Asda as it’s cheaper.

Hi all. Unfortunately I’m joining one of the worst clubs to be a member of.

Had our 7 week scan last week as pregnant after IVF. Told it wasn’t viable but had to go to EPU to confirm. Scanned a week ago but EPU policy is that they have to have two scans to confirm so rescanned yesterday. Rescan confirmed it’s definitely not viable based on my IVF dates but has grown so they are making me wait another week.

I know it’s over as we should be 8 weeks but it’s looking more like 5 weeks. Due to the IVF there is no doubt over our dates.

Has anyone else been left in limbo for so long. I don’t feel like I’ll be able to start healing until I stop having pregnancy symptoms and I’ve had the d&c completed.

Also @WorriedGirl91 I’ve asked my doc and the EPU about progesterone and they say they can’t prescribe, it has to be prescribed by gynae specialist or fertility clinic. I’ve even tried a private GP service who refused too.

@Wurz2 yes, my EPU scan was over 2 weeks after my clinic scan, the limbo is awful. Sending you a handhold to get through the wait.

I just back to feeling a bit angry again.

Sorry. This is really just a vent and nothing more.
I am grateful to still be under the care of ACS. I just feel that any care I’ve had has not really been up to par.

So I had an appointment. That I waited over a month for. The doctor opened by asking how my antenatal appointments were going….bearing in mind I asked for this appointment…so it’s fine I get to restart my letrozole. But they are really keen for me to get a hycosy, which I missed because my appointment came through the last time when I was pregnant.
Tbh the doctor could not wait to get me off the phone (it was a telephone consultation).
And I’m left with a bad taste in my mouth.

@Wurz2 I’m so sorry you’re joining us, it really is awful but having other people to speak to that are going through the same thing definitely brings some comfort. I was in limbo for 3.5 weeks unfortunately so I understand the pain of it, I just tried to tell myself they have to be 100% sure so it just had to be the way. I also bled for 3 weeks but everything is still intact so I’m having the MVA procedure today :( absolutely dreading it but it’s the quickest option and I just want it all to be over and this nausea to pass. Look after yourself , take the time you need to heal and take help where it’s offered, this truly is such an unfair and cruel thing to go through xxx

Thanks both for your kind words and it’s helpful to know the limbo is normal. I wouldn’t want them to be anything but 100% certain so I’ll keep reminding myself of that when the waiting gets too painful.

@1stTimeTina sorry to hear you are having to have your MVA today. I hope it all goes as well as possible today and you are not in too much physical pain. Take care xx

1 week since my miscarriage, and I thought I was starting to feel better. Still bleeding but emotionally I was starting to feel 'normal'. But watching a compilation of animal videos earlier and I burst into loud sobs. The offending clip? A tiny duckling being tucked into bed with the Up soundtrack playing.
Clearly not "back to normal" yet then!

It takes time @Tofu35 be really kind to yourself.

Sorry you’re here @Wurz2, hope you won’t be in limbo for too long. Look after yourself

Hope you are feeling okay after your MVA @1stTimeTina - thinking of you!

@Yutes Sorry you’re still angry, I’m here to listen to (read) your venting, but not much more I can say apart from that. I hope you feel better soon

My husband bought me a little candle and a box today - I mentioned I didn’t want to just throw away my pregnancy tests, so he bought me a box to put them in along with cards, my hospital wrist band etc. We lit the candle and we had a little cry together, thinking about our baby that wasn’t meant to be. I thought I was past the sadness but it’s still overwhelming when I actually allow myself to think about it - I’ve realised I’ve just been distracting myself really. Not sure what the point of my post is, but it just helps to write it down so thank you to anyone who is reading!

@JuniperAndTonic that’s so special, what a thoughtful husband you have. I think the sadness will always be there , I know what you mean I think I’ve been distracting myself too, I’m not ready to process the emotional side of my MVA yesterday, just trying to deal with the physical recovery first, one thing at a time. Xxxx

I'm sorry if this is the wrong thread

Hi
I'm hoping to get some advice/know what to expect.
I wasn't aware I was pregnant until Saturday just gone, and prior to that I had, had spotting, which I thought was my period starting - I think this might of just been the implantation, however I had quite a big bleed on the Wednesday prior to me finding out. It leaked through my pants onto my jeans, I've also had a large bleed on Tuesday just gone - I wasn't wearing any pants but it was IMO a lot of blood. It went all down my leg and through my trousers too. I do have photos if that would help? On both occasions before the bleed I had a lot of "period pain"

The GP won't refer me for a scan yet as I'm not six weeks pregnant

I've kept a log of the bleeding

Bleeding

Was due to start period 27th October
28th October - Light period. Normal first day, then came off after one day.
30th October - Spotting. Light pink.
3rd November - Gush of blood. Bright red. Enough to form puddle in pants and soak through underwear.

6th November - Positive test
9th November - Spotting @ first. Light pink.
Sudden gush of blood. Bright red.
Light pink when wiping. Stopped for an hour.
Bright red when wiping @ night time.
10th November. Still red when wiping. Little bit of stringy clots. Only in morning.
11th November - no blood.

@LaurieBump sorry to hear this! I don’t have any advice unfortunately, it’s so hard to say when it’s so early, as agonising as that is, I’ve read lots of stories where people bleed and remain pregnant but then I’ve also read a lot of stories where it leads to miscarriage , I know that’s totally unhelpful but didn’t want to not respond. Have the docs offered any blood tests to measure your hormone levels? Xx

@lauriebump I'm so sorry to hear this, and just to echo what @1sttimetina said, perhaps your GP could do a blood test. I know at 6 weeks you probably didn't do your booking appointment yet, but I wonder if you could refer yourself to early pregnancy unit and ask their advice?

@LaurieBump I’m so sorry to hear this. I had scans at 5w1d and 6w1d at my EPU - I just called up and was able to get that first one the day after. Maybe that would be a good idea? Are you still testing positive?

Hi
Thanks for your replies
GP hasn't offered blood tests and need referral to attend EPU.
I have done a test and there's still two lines, line does look fainter but it's a different brand so that isn't much to go off really.
Do they not stay positive for a while, even if someone does miscarry?
xx

@LaurieBump that is so frustrating for you. Do you feel comfortable asking again for blood tests, or requesting they refer you to your local EPU directly? Do you think there's any merit in calling EPU directly and asking if there's any leeway and explaining your bleeding/ circumstances? I'm just thinking what I would do but totally understand if you wouldn't want to do this

@LaurieBump re lines - my experience is... MC 1 - tested positive every day until 4w6d, suddenly negative, miscarried the next day. MC 2 - today (technically 8w3d) I am still testing hugely positive but this is a MMC and the baby stopped growing 2 weeks ago. I've been told I could test positive for 2-3 weeks after my surgery today.

I am sorry that you have been through that :(
Please don't feel like you need to answer this question if you're not comfortable but, when I did have the gushes of blood, it was only for one day at a time, it stopped the following day.
With a miscarriage, does it normally last more than one day?
Sorry, this is my first pregnancy so I'm really quite clueless. I try to google but that just scares me more xx

@lauriebump I don't know the answer to your bleeding question, but a pregnancy test detects HCG levels, these remain high (but will reduce over time) after miscarriage. So this may be why (if you have miscarried) you are getting a fainter result.

I hope you get some progress on your queries today either from EPU or GP.

Try and get an appointment with EPU if you can @LaurieBump
You should be able to Google early pregnancy unit and your area