Period after miscarriage

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Hello, I had surgical management mid July and I'm losing the will to live waiting for my period.

I know that it can often take around 6 weeks to return but I have had very strong period cramps for the past 2 weeks and no sign of AF.

Have also had a few follow up scans which showed no issues.

My OPK results have also been wild- had a peak on 11/08 and then another almost peak on 20/08. Today they are fairly dark again. We haven't tried this month so not sure why I've done the ovulation tests, just for fun I suppose.

Does anybody have any experience similar to this??

Hey ladies! Good to hear from you all ❤️ this year has been a very tough one for us all hasn't it.

@Sdoubleyou so pleased that you've got an appointment scheduled. Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼

@Shortmamashortcycles sorry to hear about that dreaded C word, I hope it doesn't get too bad for you and that your family don't get it over Christmas. Wishing you a speedy recovery. Thanks for checking in on me, I'm 8 weeks now and really feeling the sickness. Struggling a little with the fear of 12 weeks and it happening again. Also our first bath measured at 9 weeks which will be next week for me again so I'm almost fearing something bad. We have been for an early scan last week which went really well so just praying I can get through this safely.

@Newgirl21 im happy your cycle is back on track! Hoping that you're ok after your awful few months.

Wishing you all a merry Christmas and I really hope that next year is a good year for you all. Filled with love, happiness and health ❤️

@amyh2012, thanks so much for checking in! Hope you're doing ok - I know this will be a tough week but on the upside, Christmas! 🎅 🎄 🎁

So pleased the early scan went well - will you have another before 12 weeks?

Sending everyone some festive good wishes and hope you're all keeping safe out there.

I am basically better, two days left of isolation and about 6DPO so time is really, truly dragging... but from tomorrow the days will slowly get longer again and 2021 can fuck all the way off into the past. Woop! 😉😁😷 🌈

Hey @Shortmamashortcycles just going to try and keep as positive as possible.

No I don't plan too as I think my 12 week scan will be early jan so it's only round the corner. I'm going for my booking appointment with the midwife on Thursday morning so hopefully she can give me a date.

The dreaded DPO!!! You got this girl 🤞🏼💗everything crossed for you.

Glad you're feeling better. Let us know how you get on xx

Hi Ladies!
Hope you’ve all had a wonderful Christmas 🎅🏻
@amyh2012 I hope your pregnancy is progressing well and your not suffering with too much morning sickness through the festive period.
@Shortmamashortcycles I hope your doing ok, the dreading’C’ seems to be everywhere! Hope your recovering well x x
@Sdoubleyou - how you doing girl? I’m glad you have your appointment through, just waiting around can be brutal!
Take care of yourselves ladies x

Thanks @Newgirl21, all recovered from covid but sadly on CD1 after allll the period cramps and spotting on Christmas Day... lovely. More upset than I expected to be, but oh well.

How are you getting on?

@amyh2012, hope things are going well for you and you're keeping safe from Omicron.

@Sdoubleyou, hope you're having a lovely time and feeling good about the tests in Jan.

Onwards to 2022, looking forward to some optimism again once these hormones settle out.

Hi ladies! I'm doing well. Just got back from our trip. It was great to get away and just spend some time together. I left the ovulation tests at home and just went with my body. I'm definitely taking it more laid back.

@Shortmamashortcycles, good to hear that you're recovered but I'm so sorry about the new cycle. I know that heartbreak.

@Newgirl21, hope your holidays are going well and that you're doing well. Thanks for checking in.

@amyh2012, hope all is progressing well!

Hello, rather than start a new thread I wondered if anyone could help me try and figure out this ovulation/period business as it's driving me a bit scatty.

I had a MMC at 9.5weeks, found out at 12 weeks as I started to bleed (4th Dec). I had a SMM on 13th Dec, and a negative pregnancy test Monday this week (27th).

I'm getting confused with whether I should call my cycle day 1 as the day of the SMM, or better to do it from the neg test this Monday. I'm not ovulating (I've checked every day since I got a neg test) yet but I don't know if that is because it's too late or too early!

Driving myself a bit scatty and I know the answer is probably, stop obsessing and wait for AF to turn up, but I'm finding hard to do that! So just wondered if anyone had any opinions?!

Hi @MO22, I’m so sorry for your recent loss 😔 I wish I had the answers. I know that it’s possible to ovulate and for pregnant before your period arrives. I tried to take the pressure off and not track until mine arrive which took a while.

In other news I took a test today… it would be very early days but I can see a faint line. 🙈 driving myself crazy and avoiding having a drink until I know for sure. Anyone else see it?

Hey ladies!

Happy new year! I hope you're all ok and I think it was a little bittersweet for new year, orrrrr totally ready to get rid of the fucker!!

Here's to a happy healthy 2022 and I wish you all the 'baby dust' (don't cringe) in the world!!!

Morning sickness has been total hell for me but also quite reassuring although it's honestly been bad this time round, really different to last time. My partner tested positive for Covid yesterday, luckily only mild symptoms but I haven't been vaccinated yet so I'm hiding from him. I've actually booked in for my vaccine, a decision I've been pondering for a while but happy to get it done and then hopefully afterwards all will be ok. I'm doing it just before I'm due my 12 week scan so I can see everything is ok rather than worry about if I did the right thing after my 12 week scan and torture myself til my next one.

@Shortmamashortcycles I hope you're ok, it's awful when you start on cd1 again but Im wishing you all the best on this cycle and praying you get your positive 🤞🏼

@MO22 I'm so sorry for your loss, it sounds exactly what we have all sadly been through. My advice is to be kind to yourself. There's nothing you can do to fast forward time or bring on your period, unfortunately it'll come when it's ready. Mine was around 7 weeks after I had my surgical management and I literally drove myself crazy and down a rabbit hole checking ovulation and pregnancy tests like they were running out of fashion!!! It's so much easier said than done but try and occupy yourself with something. We're all here for you if you want to rant or chat 🧡 best of luck lovely 🥰

@Newgirl21 I see it girl 👀😱 have you done another this morning? How are you feeling?

Happy New Year ladies! 🥳 Thanks so much for the support you've given through this thread, it’s literally been so positive and therapeutic.
Wishing you all a very healthy and happy new year. C’mon 2022! 🙌🏻

Oh no @amyh2012 your poor partner! I hope he doesn’t get too poorly and you manage to escape it. Good for you, I think it’s such a difficult decision and the fear with Covid being everywhere. 👍🏻

I haven’t tested again yet, I wanted to wait a few days so I could hopefully get a much clearer reading. I feel ok, I’ve been getting cramps like period pains for the past week - this was my first symptom when I was pregnant with my son. I don’t know if I’m ‘late’ because I’ve not been regular. 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I’m hopeful 🤞🏻☺️

Hope everyone’s well x x

@Newgirl21 I'm staying soooooo positive for you. You got this 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 I cannot believe you haven't tested again😂 well done!!!👏🏼keeping everything crossed for you. Please let us know?

@amyh2012 I just wanted to say thank you for your lovely message... Feeling v down and it was a bright spot xx

Oh my goodness, @Newgirl21, I see the line too! Everything crossed for you!! Keep us updated! 🤞🤞🤞

@MO22, I'm so sorry you've ended up here hun, it's rubbish. Cycle day 1 is the day of your SMM but it's totally normal for it to take a while for your period to return and for you to have an anovulatory cycle first go. Although the limbo is frustrating, try to be kind to your body - it's been through a lot and might need a little time to sort itself out.

@amyh2012, omg the morning sickness is vile, so sorry you've been hit hard this time. I hope you manage to keep safe and covid-free until your vaccine - definitely the right call to get it as the stories of unvaccinated pregnant women really sick in hospital and the stats on preterm birth etc are very scary. Best to be fully protected.

@Sdoubleyou, so pleased you had a great holiday, that sounds blissful! Hope the new year brings us both much better luck than 2021.

@Newgirl21 @Shortmamashortcycles thanks for your replies guys. I know I should just give it a bit of a rest but I feel like a woman possessed.

I've just started spotting weirdly now... I'm almost 3 weeks from SMM so surely it can't be my period yet, is it still just leftover from the miscarriage? Otherwise... We did DTD 9 days ago but no clue if I've ovulated at all, assumed I hadn't that early. Surely it can't be an implantation bleed? I don't know whether I should laugh or cry at this point as it's just impossible to know what's going on!

I know I could do a pregnancy test but I doubt it would show anything anyway and might just fuel my insanity. This is hard.

@MO22 it's literally the worst and I feel for you so much right now. What you're going through is so hard and you're probably finding yourself searching for answers. Let your body do it's thing, it's been through a bit change. Maybe give it a few days and do a test just to rule things out? It'll maybe give you some peace of mind as to what's going on. I think it's totally normal to spot throughout this stage. I remember I had 2 periods after my MC and I was using ovulation sticks every single day to try and figure out where I was and if I was ovulating. Nothing was actually clear and I didn't get a certain positive. My 3rd cycle I never got such blazing ovulation results and that was the month I conceived again. I think your body will tell you when it's ready. Just take it back to basics, keep level headed and keep your chin up 🙏🏼🧡

I’m so sorry your going through this @MO22 😔 it really is the worst. The limbo stage where you don’t know where you stand is so hard.
Please be kind to yourself, take all the time you need to heal and grieve 💕 Try to take one day at a time x

@MO22, I'm really sorry you're here. The weeks after my MMC were absolutely terrible. My first "period" was essentially 10 days of spotting. I also had breakthrough bleeding around ovulation time. When I look back my cycles were about on point in terms of days, but crazy things were happening and I had a hard time finding information. In the end, I had to accept that not normal was normal. I conceived really quickly the first time and I'm still waiting for it to happen again. It's "only" been six months, but that's been the hardest for me. I assumed it would be really fast again so it's been devastating to wait. Not at all trying to discourage you, but I kept reading that you were more fertile right after so it set my expectations really too high. For me, I wish I had taken some time off and taken the pressure off. I guess if I had any advice for you it would be to give yourself some time and accept that there will be ups and downs. The hormone come-down is really tough and adds to the heartbreak. Allow yourself to just not be ok and to be a little crazy. Also this group of ladies has been an absolute godsend. It's been comforting to share in the heartbreak and the joy.

@Newgirl21, have you retested? I'm equally excited/stressed to test. I think I'm at 7dpo. I only started the ovulation strips when I got home from vacation on 14dpo, but it's been low. I'm fairly sure I ovulated early though since I had ewcm from cd9 to cd13, with absolute globs of it at cd13. I've never had that much before, it was fascinating. My period was late by two days so it's like my body has compensated by ovulating early.

At least we'll be testing and going for treatments if it doesn't work this time. At least the waiting will be over for me one way or another, so I am very relieved for that.

@amyh2012 @Newgirl21 thank you so much, your messages mean a lot and are very kind.

Just to top the madness off, I got a static smiley yesterday (went from empty circle to static in 24 hours weirdly, not sure if that's normal?) so I could be ovulating and it was a bleed similar to what you describe @Sdoubleyou potentially?

But that OPK could also indicate AF or pregnancy right? So still completely in the dark ha. I think I may do a pregnancy test in a few days to rule it out.

You are completely right @sdoubleyou, everyone keeps saying "you're really fertile after a miscarriage" so I feel like I'm bullying myself into getting pregnant straight away, when it just doesnt work like that, it's luck of the draw.

Thanks everyone so much for your kind words, it's so appreciated and your insight all really helps.

@MO22, I was also VERY confused about when cycles could restart and hcg going down. I was still showing light positive on the sensitive tests for six weeks after and it was killing me. But it just took a long time for the trace amounts of hcg to go down and my cycles had already restarted. My doctor confirmed that it didn't need to be at 0 to restart. It was impossible to find reliable evidence online about that.

@Sdoubleyou yes, that has driven me crazy too! As I had quite a late miscarriage I assumed HCG would be present for ages, but I was surprised to have a neg preg test this time last week, and I read that it doesn't have to be zero for you to ovulate. Hence why I've gone a bit mad and can't work out if I've ovulated already and might be pregnant, or I'm ovulating currently. I have lots of symptoms but they all could be AF, ovulation or pregnancy, you have to laugh really.

I need to stop POAS I think!

Hi @MO22 just reading this thread and I saw that you had spotting 3 weeks after your surgical management - I had that at 3 weeks and then got my period 2 weeks after that. So I think you could be ovulating now

@AdrianeMole yeah you definitely could be right, so an ouvlation bleed, I didn't even know that was a thing?! The static smiley yesterday would also align I guess. It's probably just wistful thinking that it would be a pregnancy also I think!

What was your spotting like it you don't mind me asking? How long did it last?

@AdrianeMole also did you have any cramping with it?

@MO22 It was heavy-ish spotting but only for one night. But I was sort of glad my period two weeks later didn't take too long to come back even after the late miscarriage as it arriving sort of helped with my mood.
Yours could be a pregnancy /totally different though. We are all different

@AdrianeMole sounds exactly like mine was tbf! And I know what you're saying, I think whatever happens, at least something is happening with my cycle. I'd be pleased to even get AF as it would just be the signal that things are moving on. Thanks for your help