Meghan markle ny times article

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Does anyone else find it refreshing to finally see people in the public eye using their platforms to raise awareness on such raw issues?

Two weeks ago i miscarried. And in all honesty i felt so alienated as everyone around you seems to be going for scans or giving birth and your sat wondering why me?

To wake up to read an article written by a woman who has come away from such a strict establishment and speak up about such a heartbreaking experience i find quite comforting and that it is OKAY to speak about such a painful loss.
To think that even though these people who are open to the world and ripped to shreds by the media and trolls, we must remember are still human.

After reading meghans article i am heartbroken for the couple as knowing that same feeling is something i will never forget also. But at the same time i am grateful that she has opened up and made it clear we need to talk more.

For anyone who has miscarried/loss or going through a hard time, you are amazing and strong do not ever think any different xxx

@stronglikemytea sorry for your loss.

Here 's the piece, sorry for your loss OP.

www.nytimes.com/2020/11/25/opinion/meghan-markle-miscarriage.html

@stronglikemytea I'm sorry for your loss and I'm pleased to hear that this article gave you comfort.

I'm sure someone will be along to criticize the article but I hope they won't be so heartless. It's a brave thing the duchess has done and that should be commended.

I do feel sorry for her and Harry, particularly as there has been speculation about baby no2. I hope they do get to have no2 soon. Miscarriage at her age is sadly extremely common almost to be expected though.

and sorry for your loss.

I am a little baffled by their role and why they need to share this when they consistently want privacy. It’s a terrible thing of course, but Personally I would prefer to hear about the struggles of everyday people, rather than two super wealthy and privileged individuals.

Yes, I think it is so much better now. With this article and also Chrissy Teigen and John Legend speaking out about their loss, I hope this means women or couples going through similar losses, will feel less alone. I really applaud them for speaking about this.

Someone commented this morning that it is something which doesn't discriminate. It happens to all classes, backgrounds, races etc and even though that might sound like a really obvious thing to say, it really struck a chord with me.

I'm so sorry for your loss . Sorry for theirs too.

@Plmoknijb123 they needed to share this because they is a huge stigma around women having miscarriages and dealing with loss by themselves and blaming themselves and it should be something that we should be able to talk about because 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage.

Why does the fact that they are wealthy have anything to do with it. Do you think it’s easier for someone to deal with the grief of losing a child because they live in a nicer house and have more in the bank.

Personally I would prefer to hear about the struggles of everyday people, rather than two super wealthy and privileged individuals.

The 'struggles' of miscarriage aren't dependent on having wealth and privilege or not though.

I was very proud of Chrissy Teigen for being so open. I thought it definitely opened a dialogue.

However in this case I suppose I would have preferred a simple statement including stats and links to support networks.

But that is because there is a part of my brain that goes "the Royals writing for the NY Times?" and I shouldn't, because they're not Royals. So I'm trying to check that automatic pearl clutching.

However in saying that and being very sympathetic with their loss, I didnt like how she used the article to hark back to the South Africa tour. I was less than impressed with her feeling sorry for herself in SA just after seeing unimaginable poverty and deprivation. And to see her in this article reframe "No One has asked me if I'm OK" into something of a PR victory makes me uncomfortable.

Sorry for your loss op. I had 3 mcs before i had my daughters.
Poor Meghan and Harry

I am a little baffled by their role and why they need to share this when they consistently want privacy

Privacy doesn't mean never speaking or sharing ever, it means you choose how much or how little you share. Why shouldn't she share her story? Miscarriage isn't a shameful secret and speaking out raises awareness that its common, it can happen to anyone, and its okay to feel however you feel about it.

You either really want to protect your privacy or you don't. It's a very intimate private issue that affects millions of women.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I've had a miscarriage and a TFMR and we do need people from all walks of life to share their experiences so that we can rid the taboo of baby loss.
I feel for them, no doubt they'll get all sorts of criticism for sharing.

@Sparklingbrook I know, I would just prefer to hear about the struggles of everyday people.

Baby loss isn't a 'taboo'. It may seem like it because our society isn't taught to talk about grief of any kind. When you ask people how they are, you rarely want to hear the real answer, so that explains the 'taboo'.

[quote Plmoknijb123]@Sparklingbrook I know, I would just prefer to hear about the struggles of everyday people.[/quote]
Why? Everyday people aren't likely to write an article for the New York Times.

Using their high public profile to promote awareness and remove stigma is a good thing.

I would just prefer to hear about the struggles of everyday people

Miscarriage can happen to anyone, not just everyday people.

Only on MN could Megan and Harry be criticised for doing miscarriage wrong

I thought MN didn't allow any new threads in H&M?

@Sparklingbrook kind of like the royals..to raise awareness of issues but not publicise themselves. I’m sure people disagree with me but that’s just my opinion.

However in saying that and being very sympathetic with their loss, I didnt like how she used the article to hark back to the South Africa tour. I was less than impressed with her feeling sorry for herself in SA just after seeing unimaginable poverty and deprivation. And to see her in this article reframe "No One has asked me if I'm OK" into something of a PR victory makes me uncomfortable.

I agree with you.

Fair play to her for opening up. I've had 2 miscarriages and it was devastating at the time. But I have to be honest, I find the writing style of that article a bit , I don't know, cloying? Written for intense dramatic effect? I can't put my finger on why I don't like it. And it's nothing to do with MM. I am completely neutral where she and H are concerned. I just read it and all felt a bit 'treacly'? Maybe I'm just dead inside!? 😂

Anyway I am no longer posting because I’m sure loads of people will disagree with me. They’ve suffered a terrible thing but I just find it odd to write an article about it in the NY times.

I'm so sorry for your loss, op , and I am glad of anything that anyone does to help more of us talk more easily about this issue.

Oh please don't let this be a Megan and Harry bashing thread.

Have some compassion.