Meghan markle ny times article

[stronglikemytea]

Does anyone else find it refreshing to finally see people in the public eye using their platforms to raise awareness on such raw issues?

Two weeks ago i miscarried. And in all honesty i felt so alienated as everyone around you seems to be going for scans or giving birth and your sat wondering why me?

To wake up to read an article written by a woman who has come away from such a strict establishment and speak up about such a heartbreaking experience i find quite comforting and that it is OKAY to speak about such a painful loss.
To think that even though these people who are open to the world and ripped to shreds by the media and trolls, we must remember are still human.

After reading meghans article i am heartbroken for the couple as knowing that same feeling is something i will never forget also. But at the same time i am grateful that she has opened up and made it clear we need to talk more.

For anyone who has miscarried/loss or going through a hard time, you are amazing and strong do not ever think any different xxx

SIL and I wondered if the age thing had heightened our sense of loss.

That and so wanting to give our firstborns a sibling without a large age gap but when a subsequent pregnancy resulted in a healthy baby, all of that seemed to melt away.

They literally do not accept that Meghan is an actual human being.

What? Literally? What do they think she is then?

@ElspethFlashman

Yes, I was completely OK when I read the headline as I assumed it was just a short statement.

But then the rest of it.....why mention Breonna Taylor so out of context?

Why talk about her SA misstep as if it were a triumph in hindsight? Saying it had opened up a conversation about whether more people should ask women whether they're OK? The only conversation it started was how inappropriate it was to say to the BBC in the midst of SA.

And again, what the hell has it to do with Breonna Taylor? Asking if she was OK wouldn't have prevented her grotesque murder.

I agree, it's a good thing to share her story to spread awareness but she's also managing to politicize miscarriage. Why?

I have had 2 losses so I can empathize with what she's been through but the article strikes a bizarre tone for me.

Christ, she really can't do anything right can she? Poor woman.
No doubt if Saint Kate had miscarried and chosen to write about it in Cosmo or something, everyone would be falling over themselves to gush about how 'brave' and 'stunning' she was.
And people wonder why M and H fucked off to the USA...

@WoooooGhoulsDoAFlit

Christ, she really can't do anything right can she? Poor woman. No doubt if Saint Kate had miscarried and chosen to write about it in Cosmo or something, everyone would be falling over themselves to gush about how 'brave' and 'stunning' she was. And people wonder why M and H fucked off to the USA...

If Kate wrote a similar article in a similar style I'd have a similar reaction.

Are you ok? is such a heart felt words.

I know that pain all too well having experienced this five times: sending you many condolences OP

I'm neither a supporter nor a follower of the Windsors but I found her article very eloquently expressed. It seems unbelievable to me that in 2020 the subject of miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss are still so taboo, but unfortunately they are. Grieving mothers should not be compelled to 'keep it private': we can talk about our loss if we so wish, in just the same way we would of the death of a beloved parent.

I find #WaveOfLight (at the end of Baby Loss Awareness Week in mid-October) a great comfort. For just one hour of the year I feel less alone, and can empathise with other parents who remember their own babies. You can follow it on Twitter. It's a small thing, but in these circumstances small things are big things, and they matter.

Wishing you peace and healing.

Can't believe that Miscarriage Shaming is now a Thing

That is a ridiculous statement. I have had two losses. Neither felt like taboo in the slightest. I have also comforted several friends and siblings through the same. It is incredibly common.

Meghan’s article made me cringe. The overblown language takes away from the sadness of the actual miscarriage. I think she trivialises it by writing as though she’s Barbara Cartland.

It’s the same with everything they do. The Remembrance Day setup photo was horrific and deeply attention-seeking. The cause is still worthy and my criticising her approach does not denigrate the cause.

Kate wouldn't do that. That's the point, as I mentioned above. She'd be criticised by me just the same if she did (but she wouldn't).

Also, no one is MC bashing. It's the article we are criticising.

Sorry for your loss OP.
I think it's good that she's talked about it. I had three miscarriages many years ago and a big issue at the time was the fact that some people were quite dismissive of it. There's this perception that because it happens quite often, it is no big deal. I felt very isolated and only DH seem to really understand . I have never forgotten the insensitive comments made by some people . I still think less of them for it.

they needed to share this because they is a huge stigma around women having miscarriages

Is there? I had two and never felt that I was stigmatised. It is true to say that on the whole other people (but not other mothers) didn't really know what to say to me about it, but I think that is really just another example of the way people avoid talking to the bereaved because they don't know what to say.

I have had two losses. Neither felt like taboo in the slightest. I have also comforted several friends and siblings through the same. It is incredibly common.

Firstly, I'm sorry. It's incredibly common but that doesn't make it any less painful.

I was fortunate enough to have wonderful support from my friends too. But it's fair to say that it's a subject some people would rather avoid. I've had people (who should know better) back off, abruptly change the subject, and look as though they'd do anything short of crossing the street in front of a speeding bus to get away from me. You also only have read any online discussion of miscarriage and you'll see it's peppered with admonitions that 'this shouldn't be talked about!' and 'Keep it private!' People will always be on standby to tell other people how they should and shouldn't grieve.

The taboo exists.

It's a very sad thing to have happened. Zara had two miscarriages . Mike spoke about it briefly and with feeling, and I think the only reason one was made public was because they were staying at Sandringham and had announced the pregnancy.

It's good to have more public awareness , but the language used is jarring. It reads like a Catherine Cookson novel, and I can't see why her ponytail is relevant.

I feel really sorry for anyone who goes through this. I can't imagine how hard that must have been, and it should be talked about more.

The way the article is written makes me feel very uncomfortable, though.

Hmm. Think I will save my breath on commenting further on this thread, despite the value of the topic of miscarriage. Denigrating a woman's character even after she's published something as heart-wrenching as this says nothing about her, but much about those who are unable to show compassion even in circumstances such as this. Thread disappearing in 3, 2, 1 ...

9 years ago today for me, was doing quite a good job of not thinking about it until I got home from work this year until the headline flashed up on my pc screen. Sat at the same desk, in the same office and shortly nipping off to the same loo where I discovered I was bleeding. Glad I'm off home at 1 for chocolate and self-pity.

I think for me on the one hand, it’s great to talk about something like that that does effect millions of women and is still seen as shameful and (in my experience) the ‘fault’ of the woman for not being able to carry the baby full term. I know that’s irrational, it when I lost our first in September I felt that it was the fault of my body just not being an environment that a baby wanted to grow in. Probably not helped by my own mother saying it must have been a ‘shock’ for my body to be pregnant for the first time at 34 and it’ll be better prepared next time

On the other, I cannot help but feel I’m hearing about a ‘privileged’ miscarriage. Within moments of feeling that sharp cramp, she probably had medical professionals on the other end of the phone, was able to go straight in somewhere for assessment, and lost her unborn baby in a suite somewhere with top class medical attention and her husband holding her hand.

I woke up to cramps, bled while my husband was at work, couldn’t get the early pregnancy unit on the phone for love nor money, and when my GP finally did they wouldn’t see me until after the weekend. I didn’t have my husband there to hold my hand at the scan to tell me it was gone, because he had to wait outside due to covid.

But I do appreciate that she would have felt that loss just as keenly as others and good on her for speaking out.