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stronglikemytea · 25/11/2020 10:13

Does anyone else find it refreshing to finally see people in the public eye using their platforms to raise awareness on such raw issues?

Two weeks ago i miscarried. And in all honesty i felt so alienated as everyone around you seems to be going for scans or giving birth and your sat wondering why me?

To wake up to read an article written by a woman who has come away from such a strict establishment and speak up about such a heartbreaking experience i find quite comforting and that it is OKAY to speak about such a painful loss.
To think that even though these people who are open to the world and ripped to shreds by the media and trolls, we must remember are still human.

After reading meghans article i am heartbroken for the couple as knowing that same feeling is something i will never forget also. But at the same time i am grateful that she has opened up and made it clear we need to talk more.

For anyone who has miscarried/loss or going through a hard time, you are amazing and strong do not ever think any different xxx

HebeMumsnet · 25/11/2020 12:35

Afternoon, everyone.

Firstly, OP, we're so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It's a horrible, unfair thing to happen to anyone and we hope you're doing ok.

We think this thread has veered wildly into a direction we'd rather it hadn't, and this seems grossly unfair to the OP, for whom it's something of a personal thread as well as one about someone in the public eye.

We have the utmost sympathy for anyone who has gone through a miscarriage, and as a parenting website whose main aim is to offer support to all parents, we don't think there's any place for 'buts' or negative speculation on a thread like this. We've had to delete many posts from this thread that weren't made in that spirit of support and sympathy we hope to foster. Some deleted posts were outright trolling of the sort we regularly see on threads about the Duchess of Sussex.

We're going to temporarily close this thread to new posts. We'll open it again later and we hope that when we do so we can draw a bit of a line under it and get the thread back on track.

Sorry for the hiatus in your thread, OP. Hopefully we can get it started again in a more positive fashion later.

HopeMumsnet · 25/11/2020 14:35

Hi all,
We have re-opened the thread now; please could we ask everyone to bear in mind that this has been posted on the Miscarriage board and to post accordingly.
@stronglikemytea we can see that we rather cross-posted earlier and that you had requested this thread be removed. If our intervention to get things back on track doesn't work we are happy to do that for you, please just press "Report" on this message and we will organise that.
Peace and love everyone, as OliviaMN used to say a very long time ago..

HebeMumsnet · 25/11/2020 20:15

Hi there Ginger.

We felt that picking apart a woman's response to, and way of dealing with, her own miscarriage wasn't really in the spirit of what we're trying to do here.

We appreciate that it's a case of different strokes for different folks but on this topic it feels a bit much and calling someone 'overly dramatic' feels a bit mean in this context, we think. This is after all, the loss of a child we are talking about, and not a choice of dress or holiday destination.

We have millions of women here every day who have suffered miscarriages, and we think whether you want to keep it to yourself or rage about it publicly, or anything in between... that's all ok. We wouldn't want to dictate the terms by which any person in the public eye spoke about their miscarriage and we wouldn't want any Mumsnetter or passing lurker to be made to think their own feelings weren't valid as a result of that sort of criticism of someone in the public eye, either.

Hope that explains some of the deletions a bit.

HebeMumsnet · 25/11/2020 22:54

Evening, everyone. We're going to close this thread overnight as it's still getting a lot of reports and we don't want the poor Nightwatch to be inundated. We'll reopen it and see you in the morning.

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