Meghan markle ny times article

[stronglikemytea]

Does anyone else find it refreshing to finally see people in the public eye using their platforms to raise awareness on such raw issues?

Two weeks ago i miscarried. And in all honesty i felt so alienated as everyone around you seems to be going for scans or giving birth and your sat wondering why me?

To wake up to read an article written by a woman who has come away from such a strict establishment and speak up about such a heartbreaking experience i find quite comforting and that it is OKAY to speak about such a painful loss.
To think that even though these people who are open to the world and ripped to shreds by the media and trolls, we must remember are still human.

After reading meghans article i am heartbroken for the couple as knowing that same feeling is something i will never forget also. But at the same time i am grateful that she has opened up and made it clear we need to talk more.

For anyone who has miscarried/loss or going through a hard time, you are amazing and strong do not ever think any different xxx

It's good she has been honest, it will be helpful to lots of women.

I do remember them announcing Archie's pregnancy on International Wave of Light day for babyloss awareness though. I've had 3 miscarriages and remember thst stinging, although of course it was unintentional.

@Gancanny

I would just prefer to hear about the struggles of everyday people

Miscarriage can happen to anyone, not just everyday people.

Only on MN could Megan and Harry be criticised for doing miscarriage wrong

Quite.

They're high profile people. That's why it's a good thing when they use this high profile to raise awareness and understanding of things like miscarriage. It's pretty much the only useful thing they can do with this high profile.

If you'd rather have an article on everyday people, then write it and pitch it and try to get it seen as much as possible. Then realise that Meghan and Harry have used their fame for good in this instance.

Oh FFS

I find that article agenda pushing and manipulative and I am not sorry for saying it.

However I am dreadfully sorry they went through that and I know personally that it's something you never quite get over and never forget.

couple who are supposedly desperate to shun the limelight.

I never got the impression that they wanted to shun the limelight. Good luck with that, senior royals. They wanted to stop being working royals and earn their money doing other things. They wanted out of royal duties and responsibilities and to have more control over their publicity as a result. Which seems to be what they're doing.

^^ this

But I have to be honest, I find the writing style of that article a bit , I don't know, cloying? Written for intense dramatic effect?

If I wrote about my miscarriage it would sound extremely dramatic. If you find that 'cloying', then maybe find some empathy for people who have been through traumatic experiences.

@YetAnotherSpartacus

Oh please don't let this be a Megan and Harry bashing thread.

Have some compassion.

Oh my sweet summer child...

Oh ffs have some compassion- people love to hate MM and it’s not called for when discussing miscarriage (or at all really)

I’ve had 5 and trust me it is taboo especially if you are still sad about it after the allotted respectable grieving time - I’m glad for anybody talking about it especially if, like you OP, it makes women feel less alone.

I’m sorry for your loss x

You either really want to protect your privacy or you don't. It's a very intimate private issue that affects millions of women
Who says it has to be a private issue? It's helped the op that she was open about it for a start

I'm so sorry for your loss, @stronglikemytea. I'd just read that opinion piece by Meghan Markle before reading your post. Like you, I thought it was good. It reminded me of the miscarriages I had many years ago, when my husband and I were asking each other: "Are you OK?" but others' reactions were not so helpful. (For what it's worth, I found SANDS very understanding at the time, around 25 years ago.)
Good luck to you for your recovery.

Not sure if anyone else has mentioned it but Christina Perri's daughter was stillborn this week.... here
My eldest son Jack was born prematurely in 1994 and when Chrissie and John lost their Jack I found it incredibly sad... I applaud people for talking about babyloss and miscarriage.... 💙 ♥ ♥

Oh FFS the women can't do anything right can she 🙄,and as much as I love my dog I don't think you can compare the loss of a much wanted baby with a dog dying .

Privacy isn't about shunning public life, its about having control over what you choose to share. Why shouldn't Megan Markle share the truth of her experiences? It seems very much like she's damned if she does and damned if she doesn't, I've seen her criticised on her for not using her platform to speak about important issues and yet when she does she gets slated. I can 100% guarantee if Kate Middleton shared that she'd had a miscarriage then there would be an outpouring of sympathy and none of the criticism about keeping it private. "Keep it private" is the reason why so many women feel like they can't talk about their losses.

The only appropriate response to hearing about a miscarriage is "I'm sorry for your loss" or words to that effect, any other thoughts or comments are best kept to oneself.

I never knew there was a stigma about having a miscarriage. I've only ever known people be sympathetic. I can't imagine people not being sympathetic.

But she isn't just talking about her miscarriage is she? She, is linking to her own political agenda and thats a talking point. Should we ignore that because she's been through something sad?

I am so sorry for your loss, OP.

Bit glum that M can't write about her experience without being criticised.

@x2boys

Oh FFS the women can't do anything right can she 🙄,and as much as I love my dog I don't think you can compare the loss of a much wanted baby with a dog dying .

^^ This. I couldn't believe whoever wrote that comparison above, having missed any recent Cambridge announcements.

I feel for you OP, as I do for Meghan and any other woman who's miscarried.

I think wanting your privacy to be respected and then choosing, when you feel comfortable doing so, to share a personal experience in the hope it might help others and raise awareness/encourage discussion etc are two different things and I really hope Meghan isn't going to get a load of criticism now for daring to be 'unroyal', 'hypocritical' or whatever other excuse some people will use to be unpleasant about her.

I've had four miscarriages and the hurt never really leaves you, regardless of how your future turns out subsequently. I certainly found that many others seemed to view it as a very minor issue and one you should 'get over' not least because it was relatively common - which to me just meant that potentially there were lots of women in distress rather than our shared experience somehow making it 'easy'. As ever, I believe anything uniquely female tends to be minimised and therefore I'm all for high profile women publicising pregnancy loss because actually, even if you know it's common, it still feels very lonely to be grieving when very few people will talk about it with you.

Sorry for your loss
We lost our first baby 21 years ago yesterday. No-one remembers but me. It's about time parents felt more able to talk about how hard miscarriage is and for it not to be seen as normal and something just to be gotten over and forgotten.

This poor woman, she can't even do grief right for some of you!
Comparing their loss to that of a bloody dog if horrendous.