Miscarriage support

[Wearenotyourkind]

Hey. I am currently going through a miscarriage (8 weeks) with my first pregnancy and finding it a pretty lonely process. So I just wondered if anyone else in the same position wanted to join a thread for support etc. I know there are lots of other threads, but it's a bit overwhelming and don't want to just jump on an existing thread 💗

Thank you @Wearenotyourkind it is so nice to have the support of ladies on here. I just had a scan at EPU which showed no heartbeat but they have to confirm again in 7 days. I really hope I might have a natural MC in the next few days. Like you, I'd rather avoid medical intervention if I can but it's nice to know it's there as backup if needed. X

@Snapper81 I can relate to feeling numb. I was devastated at the weekend but now resigned to the fact. It's like I now expect that this is how pregnancy ends. My OH is feeling quite angry at the world which is hard to see. X

Got in the car from the EPU and the song Bleeding Love came on. Didn't know whether to laugh or cry!

Oh ffs @Poppypip 🙄 rubbish timing with that sing. And waiting another week for confirmation is no fun 💕

@Poppypip I also went to the EPU today and got confirmation. Like you, I'm doing the 1 week wait for another scan. I'd rather not have it all start naturally. To be honest, im scared.

Have you all found that the EPU/GPs have been helpful and nice?

@Snapper81 our dates are pretty much exactly the same at every point then. I completely agree with the fear. I think I'm slightly in denial because my last MC was at 5 weeks so was just like a period. I'm trying to believe that my body knows what to do but have also stocked up on paracetamol and chocolate. It's great that we all have choices though. Have you been given the emergency number so you can go into the ward if needed?

@Wearenotyourkind yes, my midwife and the EPU staff have all been lovely. Midwife agreed to go ahead with my bloods tomorrow as planned just in case there's anything off which could have contributed to the MC.

That's really good @Poppypip.

I'm still waiting for things to progress. I've just had a call from the midwife at the EPU. I really wanted to allow it to happen naturally but I can't keep waiting with my life on hold. It's been 3 weeks since my first scan. So I've decided to wait one more week and can then discuss the medical management. I've heard though that as this is essentially forcing your body, it can be more intense and painful. So I am a bit concerned about that but I can't keep waiting forever.

My friend had the medical management and she didn't have too much pain or bleeding whereas my natural was unbearable, never experienced pain like it, so I reckon everyone is different 💕 hope you're all ok xxx

Thank you for that @Tbug. Like you say, I guess all pregnancies/births/miscarriages are different. How are you feeling now?

I can't help but feel that I'm failing again if it doesn't progress naturally ☹️

❤️ don't think like that ❤️ I am feeling a lot better and seeing that I actually got pregnant as a positive cos was trying 13 months so thought maybe I couldn't. 💕

How are you getting on @Tbug @Wearenotyourkind and @Snapper81 ? No progress here. It's the worst waiting game isn't it

Hey. I'm feeling really despondent today. Still waiting. Some days are better than others, but today isn't one of them. Sending love to all 💗

Hope you're all ok 💕 ive nearly stopped bleeding, thinking of you all xx

I'm so sorry for your loss, sending you big hugs and support. If you have fb I run a group for anyone that's suffered a loss, through pregnancy or after.
www.facebook.com/groups/babiestaken2soon

Sorry to hear it's a difficult day for you today @Wearenotyourkind Sending love back 💞 I'm having a slightly better day today but the smallest things can tip me over the edge.

Glad things are coming to an end for you @Tbug Hopefully onto new beginnings again soon. X

Hi ladies. No progress here either. It's now been 5 weeks since baby's heart stopped beating so I feel like things could start at any moment, which isn't what I want. I really want the surgical management. I just don't feel like I can cope with it happening naturally.
I'm also still growing and properly showing now. Boobs still heavy and larger and I'm still suffering with morning sickness, which all just seems so cruel.

@Snapper81 it is so bloody cruel, isn't it? Do you have the option of medical management or would you rather just wait it out?

How are you doing @Poppypip? Any progress?

Hope your bleeding has stopped now @Tbug?

Still nothing here either. I also wondered whether you all are still working through this?

Morning ❤️ yeah it has. Although I was bleeding for nearly 3 weeks in total cos I started bleeding before my healthy scan which must have been the start of it. Hoping it happens how you all want 💕 I go back to work Monday, are you off?

How do you feel about going back to work? Do you feel ready? Glad your bleeding has stopped. How are you doing emotionally now?

Yes I'm still off work - I literally can't face it at the moment.

Im quite looking forward to it, im a student nurse so need to go back to I don't fall behind. Yeah I think im ready, bought a really pretty necklace to remember the pregnancy by. Im feeling ok, obviously still gutted but gunna start trying again. Yeah I bet, don't go back until you're fully ready ❤️

That's such a lovely idea about the necklace 💕

www.etsy.com/uk/listing/777521083/angel-wings-infinity-silver-necklace-in 💕💕💕💕

That's beautiful. Good luck going back to work on Monday. You sound like a super strong awesome person 💗