Miscarriage support

[Wearenotyourkind]

Hey. I am currently going through a miscarriage (8 weeks) with my first pregnancy and finding it a pretty lonely process. So I just wondered if anyone else in the same position wanted to join a thread for support etc. I know there are lots of other threads, but it's a bit overwhelming and don't want to just jump on an existing thread 💗

Hello, I'm sorry for your loss. I would actually recommend jumping on one of the existing threads. New people join all the time, and they are wonderfully supportive. The penguin huddle one is good.

Thank you for your reply. I will have a look.

Would you like me to tag you in to one of the threads as an introduction?

We're moving this thread at the OP's request.

, OP.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3913897-Penguin-huddle-TTC-after-pregnancy-loss-Thread-35-time-for-some-sticky-BFPs

Please do come and join in. It's a really supportive group.

Thank you @peperethecat when we're ready to start TTC again, I'll come and join 💗

How are you @Wearenotyourkind? I'm just so sad, can't stop crying :( and in so much pain! Thought id be ready to go back to work next week but I'm definitely not xxx

Hey @Tbug nice to hear from you. I presume it has started for you now? I'm still waiting. I have spoken to a friend of mine who previously had a miscarriage and she advised to make sure I take enough time off work. So I requested to be signed off by the GP. Would you consider doing this? I'm a social worker and I cannot imagine trying to work right now. Is your partner being supportive? It's such an emotional rollercoaster, isn't it? Sending love and know that we will both get through this, even though it might not feel like it now 💗💗💗💗

Yeah, I had brown spotting since my 8 week scan (where everything was ok) so guess it had already started, did say to the midwife I would do the tablet way but yeah it's happening naturally now. Are you waiting for it to happen naturally? Yeah I think I will cos I'm a nurse so no way I can work 13 hour shifts yet, feel way to emotional. Yeah my partner is being amazing ❤️ so lucky. Is yours? Thank you and right back at you 💕💕💕

Aw you definitely need to get signed off my love. Can you ring your GP today? So you've not had the medication yet? I had one bleed at 7+2 and only a bit of brown spotting since. So I'm just waiting still for it all to start. It's weird not knowing when it'll happen, but I wanted to let it happen naturally. The midwife from the EPU said she'll ring once a week to check on progress. Yeah my husband is being pretty good. And our parents are so supportive 💗

I can self certificate for a week so will call after that. No I haven't and I won't now it's happening naturally, the cramps were horrendous earlier so I think I passed the most of it. Yeah I think it's better if you can, but it's fine to take the medication too. That's good, thinking of you 🥰

How are you doing today @Tbug? I'm still waiting.

Defo eased off from yesterday, oh no :( thinking of you xxx

That's good - hopefully you're over the worst of it (physically). How are you doing emotionally?

Yeah I hope so ❤️ I'm feeling ok, still so sad but im so glad I had told so many people because I have so much support. Are you ok?

@wearenotyourkind I'm so sorry to hear this xxx

Thank you @CooperLooper I knew it was too good to be true.

Glad you have lots of support @Tbug. It's such a difficult time 💕 I feel a bit PMT ish today, so wondering if it'll start soon xx

Hi ladies,
I'm just coming over from the Christmas babies thread. Had a scan today at 9 weeks and baby died at 6 weeks. This us my second missed miscarriage in a row. I feel really different from the first time. I was distraught last time but this time I just feel numb. Haven't even shed a tear.
I just feel like something is wrong with me and I feel so sorry for my husband. He's younger than me and I feel like I'm stopping him having another child.
Anyway, could anyone let me know if hospitals are still offering surgically managed miscarriages at the moment? It's what I had in February and would really prefer to take that route again but not sure with the whole covid situation.

Hi @Snapper81 so sorry that you've found yourself on this thread too 💗 when I was discussing my options with the midwife at my rescan last week, it seemed like all 3 options were still available. I opted to allow it to progress naturally, but I'm actually still waiting for that to happen. I totally relate to the numb feeling too. When they confirmed it at the scan, the chaperone tried to shove a box of tissues at me, but I politely declined. We all process and react to things differently. I had a good cry about it when I got home and told my husband, but I'm not generally a crier. Your feelings are valid. Sending love 💕

Thanks @Wearenotyourkind. I'm sorry for your loss too. Thank you for the info and I hope you're not having to wait too much longer xx

Hello, wondered if I could join you ladies in this sad but supportive space. I had a scan at 8+1 yesterday, there was a heartbeat but it was slow and only measured 6+3. I'm now in a limbo where I'm technically still pregnant but waiting for the heart to stop and then for MC. Had an early MC at 5 weeks in Feb so not a great year so far. Hope you all managed to enjoy the sunshine a bit today.

Oh no :( so rubbish how many of us end up here. I really hope you're okay and what did they say? Sending everyone love xxx

Thanks @Tbug. I just have to wait for a rescan in 10 days. I'll speak to the midwife today and see what she says though.

@wearenotyourkind how long will you wait before you go back to the dr? It's an agonising wait isn't it.

Hi @Poppypip so sorry to hear about your losses 💗 the midwife from the EPU said she would ring me every week to see how it's progressing, so I'll talk it through with her when she rings tomorrow. The wait is so hard, but I thought the natural way would be better than medical or surgical management. Have you thought about what option you think is best for you?

Is anyone else just not able to sleep anymore? I keep getting really panicky at night and feel like I can't breath.