TTC after miscarriage

[Winkle2020]

Hello Ladies

Please give me some hope and confidence. I have been through a miscarriage recently. Had d and c and then retained products. Had to wait for my first af 9 weeks after d and c. Now in the last scan I was told that almost everything is gone except that of a very very small 8mm tiny bit left which will eventually come out in the next cycle. Doc has asked me to wait for just one more cycle to ttc. Somehow in the length of this whole episode which dragged for 3 months now, I feel very hopeless and scared to death about ttc. I really want to hold a baby and have a second child. I sob everyday endlessly alone. There is no one to talk to, I have no sibling or close friends and lost my mother 2 years ago. I am a full time working women and it takes a toll on my emotional health. I am terrified and abosultely scared to death to go through this emotional pain again. When I was going through miscarriage this forum has been my single strong support and I have come back again to get some hope from you lovely ladies. Please help

Bumping my own thread :(

So sorry you've been through this. It's unimaginably tough and you won't know until you've experienced it yourself. Summer 2018 I had a missed miscarriage and needed surgery to have the baby removed. I'm sorry to say that the fear doesn't go away with a new pregnancy, in fact, I got pregnant 6 months after the miscarriage and for most of the pregnancy, right up until birth actually, I didn't imagine bringing home a live baby. I kept waiting for the next safe point, 9 weeks then I was past the last time I lost the first baby, then 12 weeks because then the odds of losing the babies was even lower, then I read about a woman losing her twins by the gender scan, around 15-16 weeks, then I waited until the 20 weeks scan to ensure the babies were both healthy, then the worst time was probably 22-28 weeks when I knew they were possibly able to survive outside the womb but probably not without major problems. My twins were born at 34w5d, small (decent size for their gestational age though) but healthy.
They are big healthy 4.5 months olds now. 💙💙
Miscarriages stay with you, but that doesn't mean you can't have a healthy child.

@winkle2020 I had a mc last year and my due date would have been end of this month.

I really want to be pregnant again but at the same time im terrified i will have another mc.

I dont it gets easier as time goes past but you learn how to deal with it better. Saying that I still end up crying every month I get my period.

Good luck for starting ttc again 💕

@MamaDane oh mama dane so happy for you for the twins. You know that’s your best gift after such a horrible experience isn’t ?
@Trying93 let’s be TTC buddies. Please don’t lose hope. We are planning to try from feb cycle my period is due this 20th and I am 5 dpo today. We haven’t been very careful and slipped once this month. It’s just too greedy to hope this soon but you know after miscarriage my head is everywhere 😖

@Winkle2020 sounds like a plan, I could do with someone to keep me sane especially during tww. My periods due 21st so our cycles will be quite similar.

They say you are more fertile after a loss so you never know. Stay positive 🤞

It takes a long time to recover emotionally, much longer than physically so take care of yourself 💜

@Trying93 I have got everything crossed for us this month. Are you having any symptoms ?

I have recently had a miscarriage. I was 8 weeks pregnant started spotting so had a scan and was told I was measuring at 6 weeks with none or little heart beat. I had to wait a week for another scan to determine if it was a miscarriage. Unfortunately it was. When I found out I was pregnant I used a clear blue digital test which shown 2-3 weeks. Then again a few weeks later showing 5+ weeks. The nurse told me to take a test at 10 days after miscarriage. My bleeding has stopped completely for 5 days now and we have been TTC. I've just took a digital test again as it has been 10 days and it says 1-2 weeks pregnant. Would this be just my levels dropping? Or is there a change I could be pregnant already? I'm really confused.

@dm14 I am really sorry that you are going though this. It’s horrendous and sad isn’t ?

For me it took 4 weeks to get a negative hpt test after miscarriage but I was 12 weeks. Residual hcg can show positive in clear blue. Get your beta hcg blood test done to know if it’s dropping

Did you have a natural miscarriage or d and c ?

Hi yes so hard! It wasn't planned but it's made us both realise how much we want a baby now
And it was natural x

Hi 🙂

I was happy to find this thread as I don't know many people who have been through a miscarriage..despite it being so common.

It's 4 weeks after mine now,I found out at a 16 week gender scan that the heartbeat I had seen 4 times,had given up 😥

This was my second miscarriage this year, but I am very lucky to have had 3 children from a previous relationship.

My partner has a child too,but we were so excited to be having one together.
We want to try again but we are 41 & I'm losing hope that it will happen...

Good luck to you girls,I am waiting for my first period to try & work out fertile days x

@Katy0000 I'm so sorry can't imagine how hard it would be after seeing a heartbeat. It's so hard working our fertile days after a miscarriage that's what I'm confused about now. We are just ttc regularly but it's hard not knowing. I've been having some ovulation type pains but don't know if that's just my body getting back to normal.
Don't give up thou! This was my first pregnancy so I was very excited which has made me want to be pregnant again quickly so fingers crossed. Good luck thou hopefully this year is our year ✨xx

@Winkle2020 I'm only 7dpo so think it's too early for symptoms. I try not symptom spot because symptoms for pregnancy and AF are similar. I've stopped testing now until AF is actually a few days late. I cant face seeing any more negatives.

@Katy0000 I can't imagine what it must be like having a mc so far on. Sorry your going through that

Thank you both.

There's lots of success stories out there which is nice to hear,but when something so sad has happened it's hard to believe we will get what we hope for! I look forward to hearing about positive tests & happy scans next time dm, Winkle & Trying xx

Mamadane I can identify what you felt like while you were pregnant,you must have been so brave.

I've had 4 losses altogether,& 3 healthy babies.Two miscarriages occurred before I had my youngest,& for different reasons.All have had no symptoms & been discovered on scans.Its a very scary time.
I am waiting for the results of tests on myself & the baby,I just hope that they don't stop us being able to go for it for the third time xx

@Katy0000 OMG i cant imaging your pain, seriously after seeing gender scan if this happens, you must be in a lot of pain. I am sending my heart to you. Please stay strong and you will definitely get there.

@Trying93 you have got some strong will power and I have borrowed some from you i guess. I was symptom spotting until yesterday and today I feel like my af is ready to come on full force. My husband just kept saying I should not expect it this month as we have just did once . In the corner of my heart I still hope that I am pregnant. I am due 20th and 5 more looooooooog days to go, I know some ladies test at 10 dpo and they already see a faint line but I am very scared to do that and I think I will be too disappointed if it BFN :(

@dm14 exactly, this is the same we feel. we now understand how much we are longing for a baby, hopefully we all get pregnant soon

@Winkle2020 the amount of women who get a BFP that early is tiny compared to those who get one later on. It's a waste of money and when you see a negative you get your hopes up thinking it's too early il get a positive in a few days. I don't even have tests in the house anymore.

I really want to be pregnant this month because my due date is at the end of January. Tww is dragging in and im driving myself crazy looking up early symptoms. I'd never normally be this bad.

It only takes one time but your husband is being realistic however hard it might be for you to hear that

@Trying93 you are absolutely right. My 2ww is also driving me crazy. But as you said my husband was very logically. Given the fact that we had just once this month and it’s the first cycle after my miscarriage I am not very hopeful. I would be extremely lucky if I get a BFP 😊 and I know my luck so my proper trying would be feb cycle

I hope and have everything crossed for you to get bfp this month itself. Our periods date are very close so let’s wait together

I am managing better today as I am engaged at office work and killing time. 4 more days to go 😖😖😖.

It’s a good thing that weekend is approaching.

I had mild abdominal cramp this morning but nothing after that no other symptoms too hope you are coping ok

Thankyou for your kind words Winkle
I'm new to this so I don't know how to 'tag' or whatever it's called! I also don't know what 2ww is??I should be able to work it out but my brain is not working properly lately 😂

Still waiting for my first af.After my first miscarriage I was pregnant again before I got a proper period..didn't wanna risk that this time as it didn't work out for us...so trying something different this time 🤷‍♀️ x

How are you ladies doing today? My head hasn't just exploded yet...at office in a coffee break

@Winkle2020 I'm okay trying to keep busy. Had mild stomach cramps and tiny bit of spotting today and yesterday. Literally specks of blood when I wiped a few times. So small i can barely see it. I'm assuming AF is on her way.

How are you?

@Trying93 oh dear the evil witch hasn’t spared you ? I am still waiting for it, it’s due on 20th. I don’t get spotting before af it will be like sudden gush. Aren’t yours on 21st ?

@Trying93 do you think you ovulated late and it’s IB

That's what I thought too,I know you get spotting with implantation bleed but I don't get it with AF.
That would be great if it turned out it was,although I bet you're very careful not to get your hopes up.
I think I'm the only one of us that will be glad to get af..although it will be sad at the same time...I've already had my neg pregnancy test so hcg must be about 0 x

Don’t worry Katy, 2ww means 2 week wait before you get your af. Don’t be sad about being out this month. I was in your situation last month, my first period after miscarriage came in 2 months after my d and c

Did you have a second miscarriage? I am also very nervous about trying again 😔😖😔😔

I've found people who are going through the same thing as me, finally!
I miscarried on the 20th December at 7 weeks and have started trying again after christmas (after I got my negative pregnancy test). I have since had my first period after my miscarriage and I have never felt so annoyed or upset to get a period, as i was symptom spotting and really felt i was pregnant.
My period finished yesterday so I can now start trying again, but I just feel like it's all I'm thinking about! I'm trying my best to not put pressure on myself and my partner but it's hard.
I'm sorry to hear that you are all going through this too, but I am relieved that it's not just me going through this right now xx