TTC after miscarriage

[Winkle2020]

Hello Ladies

Please give me some hope and confidence. I have been through a miscarriage recently. Had d and c and then retained products. Had to wait for my first af 9 weeks after d and c. Now in the last scan I was told that almost everything is gone except that of a very very small 8mm tiny bit left which will eventually come out in the next cycle. Doc has asked me to wait for just one more cycle to ttc. Somehow in the length of this whole episode which dragged for 3 months now, I feel very hopeless and scared to death about ttc. I really want to hold a baby and have a second child. I sob everyday endlessly alone. There is no one to talk to, I have no sibling or close friends and lost my mother 2 years ago. I am a full time working women and it takes a toll on my emotional health. I am terrified and abosultely scared to death to go through this emotional pain again. When I was going through miscarriage this forum has been my single strong support and I have come back again to get some hope from you lovely ladies. Please help

I just wanted to say that I know how you feel, we've just suffered our 8th loss and I had a D&C on Thursday. All I want is to be pregnant again.

I'm so sorry for your loss and sending you massive hugs and lots of sticky baby dust xx

My gosh that was a hard thing to do anyway,surely those people would have appreciated how difficult it was.Im not sure I would have been able to go to a baby shower.
When I had a loss 7 years ago I did attend my cousins baby shower & it was so hard, I just kept topping up my prosecco.
You should be proud of yourself for making the effort.xx

Completely understand your pain Winkle, my two only friends in the world are mothers to babies (3 month olds) and they are very much a twosome and I'm the odd one out. If my pregnancy had been successful my baby would of being in the same school year as their babies which I was so excited about.
I find it hard to see them because obviously they are with their little ones.
Also my two sister in laws (on both sides of the family) are actively trying for a baby and I am worried that they will fall pregnant before I will and I'll have to go through that pain as well. My delightful mother in law has even made the comment a few times about it being a 'race' to see who gets pregnant first!!!
People just dont know how to handle things sensitivity I suppose because sadly miscarriage is still a taboo subject and people are not aware of how heartbreaking it actually is and the emotional toll it takes on a person

@Winkle2020 well done for putting on a brave face and going along. Its tough because people mean well but it doesnt make things any easier. And alot of the time the things they say are so tactless and make you feel worse.

@elc19 I can't even begin to imagine what going through 8 losses is like. Thinking of you 💕

@LittleGem638 your spot on!! People dont know what its like unless they've been through it and they say the wrong things

@Winkle2020 I'm doing ok good days and bad. A girl in my work is pregnant and is due a few days before my due date so it's hard comparing. She just announced her pregnancy publicly as she's had her 12 week scan so it's hard to think that should be me but I know my time will come.
I've just been moved to a new store In work as I'm a retail manager so this will keep me busy and distracted for now.
I'm still trying to get pregnant not really checking ovulation just hoping for the best. Been really moody and feeling sick but I don't want to test incase it's a negative result so I'm just waiting to see. What will be will be.
Hope everyone else is doing ok xx

@dm16 I'm in the same boat as you, I have been feeling really nauseous and tired over the last week and have also had a higher heart rate and dizziness, trying not to think too much into things and I wont take a test until my period is late as dont want to get my hopes up and it be negative

@LittleGem638 yeah I'm the same I'm getting mild period cramps now and again too but it's hard to know when my period is with me not having once since my mc xx

@dm16 I should be due my period in 12 days so I dont have too long to wait. I've also been having pinching type feelings near my belly button. Fingers crossed these symptoms are what we think they are

@LittleGem638 have you had a period since your mc? I use the flo app and it classed my mc as a period but don't know accurate it will be to track my cycle. I had egg white discharge so presumed that I was ovulating and that was at the time flo app said I should be x

@dm16 yes I have, I classed my miscarriage as a period on flo and my next period came 3 days earlier than what the app thought it would. I got egg white discharge three days before the app said I was ovulating but I also got a little egg white yesterday (almost a watered down version) and I took an ovulation test which said I was ovulating (thursday was my day of ovulation according to flo) so not entirely sure how accurate flo is. I've just been trying to DTD every other day

@LittleGem638 I've not tested my ovulation I wish I did now but I was just thinking what will be will be. And yes we have been ttc regularly too so fingers crossed for us both. Flo is saying my period is due Thursday so will update xx

Hello ladies thank you everyone for being with me. My weekend rolled over and back to work. It took a day or two to come out of that meeting eveyone phase. My periods got over yesterday and we are planning on regular DTD from tomorrow onwards. For god sake we all have to get lucky this time

@dm14 and @LittleGem638 we will get there keep trying

@Trying93 sure I think it was really brave of me to meet people who knew what has happened. My sleep is a bit everywhere this week. Coming Sunday is our wedding anniversary and I have taken off on Monday to be a little more relaxed

My aim is to have more bd and try not to think more. Fingers crossed for all of us

@Katy0000 tell me about attending baby showers. Arrgghh why don’t they leave us alone. There should be no pressure to do these things when we are sobbing 😭

@elc19 I honestly don’t know how you are coping but we are all proud of you. Did they give you any reason for why it’s happening repeatedly. One of my major fear is not knowing the reason on why this has happened so I feel like I am back again in the game without knowing what I did wrong. My hearts and prayers are with you. You will hope your darling rainbow soon. Please stay with us

Hello ladies, wanted to know if this is common. So my first period after Mmc was heavy and lasted for at least 8 days. Now my second period was moderately heavy, started 21st night (full bleeding) until 25th. Nothing on the 26th but then brown discharges on 27th and today. I feel like my periods has become longer compared to my pre mmc cycles. Is this normal? I still think that my uterus is clearing out the last bits (last scan send I had 8mm bit of something left and doc wanted me to wait this cycle) I am hoping this is our month but looking at this weird cycle I am scared that we are going to miss this month as well. Please give me some advice

AF has arrived and I'm in so much pain!! Did anyone else have this for there first period after a mc? I'm in work and got bad pains and had to run the toilet and it's heavy bright red blood I just want to go home!!! 😩 xx

@dm14 oh dear, how you feeling now. But it’s normal for the first period to be like this. Take few days off and be at rest. My whole body cringed in pain when I got mine

@dm14 on the good side it’s good that periods came in and you can start trying soon 👏

@Winkle2020 it was so weird I got agonising pains similar to pains during mc I was literally stuck on the toilet for 15 mins with heavy bleeding ( sorry about the detail ) the pain was so bad but now it's fine! Bleeding has almost stopped and pains are almost gone. And yes that's true I feel like I can start fresh xx

Sounds like a tough day dm.All normal but not nice,especially when you're at work.
Glad the pain has settled.

Winkle I found my periods changed after the miscarriage.Its normal and it doesn't mean you're any less likely to get pregnant this month.I would just go from the first day of the bleeding & try regularly from day 10...unless you're using ovulation tests which I haven't tried yet xx

@Katy0000 oh thanks for giving me that little pep advice which I needed. I and DH started trying, regular BD once in two days. Fingers crossed for all of us. I hope all going ok with you.

@dm14 you feeling any better dm?

I also need advice from you all...so I travel every day to work on trains and buses to work. My job is not physically very demanding but at the same time, not a desktop one. When MMC happened my mother in law has told me that my everyday travel in buses and trains could have caused this...I am now dreading my days to work these days always panicking if this is good or not...

when asked my doc they said nothing like that can cause a miscarriage but I have trouble believing it

@Winkle2020 I'm a lot better today It's my day off so I've just had a chilled day I have no pains now and the bleeding is really light so doing good Thankyou!

And I think everyone is the same after a mc especially when you don't know why it's happened. I find myself thinking back and thinking what did I do? What if I didn't do that? Then I do worry about what if I'm pregnant again should I do what I did last time? What if I stop eating that? Etc but I think it must be common to feel this way. Worrying about it isn't helping our stress levels to get pregnant again but it's so hard not thinking what if so I'm with you on that one 😞x

Thank you so much for your kind message.

We are due to see a specialist in February and baby was sent for genetics so hoping for some answers.

Lots of love to you all xx

@elc19 hopefully you get some answers. Thinking of you! Must be so hard waiting for the answers. I think everyone would love to know why it happened I know I would I was just told 1 in 4 people suffer with a mc 😞 mine just stopped growing at 6 weeks xx

Hi,

Can I join?
I’m so sorry to all of you. A mc is such a devastating thing to go through so it’s comforting to be able to share experiences with other women that know exactly what you’re going through.

So I got my bfp back on 25 November. I started bleeding lightly on 18th December and that continued lightly until 1st January when I finally miscarried naturally. I’d had numerous scans throughout the period of bleeding and we’d seen sac, yolk sac, fetal pole that even grew significantly, but never a heartbeat. I should have been just over 9 weeks going by lmp date. But scans showed I was never more than 6 weeks size wise.

My bleeding had totally stopped the day after I passed the pregnancy (2nd January).

We were told I should do a test 1-2 weeks from then and when it was negative we could ttc again.

I tested a few times and got faint bfp’s then on 9th January I got what I thought was a bfn.

It’s now been over a month, nearly 5 weeks since I passed the pregnancy, and 7 weeks since the miscarriage started.

I’ve been getting faint barely there bfp’s on internet cheapie tests and on Friday I got a pregnant 1-2 on a clear blue digital. Tonight I’ve got another 1-2 weeks.

I’m questioning now whether my bfn was actually a true bfn and whether these bfp’s are due to residual hcg leftover from the previous pregnancy or if by some miracle it’s a new pregnancy?
I do remember looking at the test at all angles in all lighting to look for any hint of a line, but it could have just been too faint to see, or a dud test.

I know the only way to know for sure is to have bloods drawn but I’m not sure if my gp will do that. I can wait and test again but if my hcg is dropping this slowly then I’m not even confident that it would show negative by next week.

How long after a natural miscarriage did you hcg return to normal? X

Hello.

Sorry that your sad experience has brought you here too..but glad you found it,like I did,when I needed people who knew how I felt.

I had 2 miscarriages in 2019.With the first I was still getting positive tests at 8 weeks,then a scan showed I had retained products.

With the second I didn't test till 4 weeks & it was negative..but I had a d&c this time

It's really likely that you would still get a positive result after this time,I suppose like you say the only way to know is blood tests,or wait & check again.I don't trust home tests as much as I used to as I had a false negative off one last year x