TTC after miscarriage

[Winkle2020]

Hello Ladies

Please give me some hope and confidence. I have been through a miscarriage recently. Had d and c and then retained products. Had to wait for my first af 9 weeks after d and c. Now in the last scan I was told that almost everything is gone except that of a very very small 8mm tiny bit left which will eventually come out in the next cycle. Doc has asked me to wait for just one more cycle to ttc. Somehow in the length of this whole episode which dragged for 3 months now, I feel very hopeless and scared to death about ttc. I really want to hold a baby and have a second child. I sob everyday endlessly alone. There is no one to talk to, I have no sibling or close friends and lost my mother 2 years ago. I am a full time working women and it takes a toll on my emotional health. I am terrified and abosultely scared to death to go through this emotional pain again. When I was going through miscarriage this forum has been my single strong support and I have come back again to get some hope from you lovely ladies. Please help

@dm14 hey dm how is your trying going on?...
@LittleGem638 Hellos haven't been here in a while, hope all good with you

Hi we are still trying regularly but don't know if it's a waste of time as I can't track my ovulation as I haven't had a period yet since MC but just hoping it works out. I haven't done a test since my negative test a few days ago so going to wait as long as I can but it's just so hard after a MC with not knowing when AF is due 😞

@dm14 I understand you totally, I was like you after my miscarriage in October. I can barely talk, was succumbed in numbness and denial for a while. One thing which helped me to track ovulation is the transvaginal scans EPU offered me to see what's happening with my retained products...In the series of scans, I could see my follicles developing, corpus luteum, so I was kind of expecting a period roughly 2 weeks after that. Even then I was terribly worried not having periods and wanted to rule out asherman's syndrome which can happen after d and c so got another scan for that ...tell me about this whole saga of miscarriage, bleeding, sobbing and waiting....arrghhhhhh...its pain pain and pain....we all deserve a baby ...a darling baby..... let's stick together

@Winkle2020 it's so hard!! I had a scan and had to wait a week to see if they had got it wrong and to see if the pregnancy was progressing longest week of my life I just wanted to give up but then needed to be strong incase the pregnancy was fine. People don't realise all the things that you go through with a MC I just constantly think what did I do? What if I didn't do this? What if I didn't eat that? It consumes you doesn't it 😞 I really hope we all get what we want very soon!! X

@Winkle2020 before my mc my cycles were always 29/30 days now they are anything between 28 and 34. Totally random one month is 29 next is 34 then 28. Nightmare and it means my lh peak is a different day every cycle

Hi, sorry I've being MIA, being having a stressful time at work and a hard time mentally now that we are trying again. I feel so much pressure at home (to get pregnant) and at work -to carry on and 'get back into the flow'.
In answer to an earlier question I came on 22 days after the end of my miscarriage.
According to Flo my day of ovulation will be Thursday so fingers crossed but really trying to be relaxed about it because I've had so many people tell me that the more I stress about it it wont happen
Hope everyone else is doing okay

Hey everyone so a small update, I had a brown discharge like spotting but just once. I think I am on my way to af. I am not sad just can’t wait for this period to come and go so that we can try soon. @Trying93 have you started your full bleeding ?

@winkle2020 yeah full bleeding now, I'm chilling on the couch with the cat and a glass of wine. Disappointed but I've been so stressed thinking about what should have been this month. Moving house soon too so going to be busy the next month or 2 hopefully keep my mind off things.

I hope it's not your period but you've got the right positive thinking.

@Trying93 still no af 16 dpo. May I ask this brown spotting is it common after mc? I had when I wiped since yesterday night but no bleeding yet ?

I had a small amount of brown spotting but egg white discharge too ( sorry about the detail) when I googled it said it was a sign of ovulation but it's probly just a result of my hormones being everywhere

@dm14, I can definitely relate to you, for me they confirmed mc and I had to wait one whole week to get my d and c booked. That week was horrendous. somehow the mc messes up your body I guess. I thought once my period arrives I will be alright to start over, but here I am with a problem of no 2nd cycle. :( :(

@LittleGem638 tell me about the work pressure. Luckily my office people are flexible but still, I think any woman who goes through an mc needs a break from everything until her she is sorted physically and mentally. Some can argue that work can be a distraction, it sure is but when you need to deliver, its taking a toll on us. You have a new cycle now, keep up the positivity. keep us posted. It will happen we will get our rainbow babies soon soon little gem

I had a nurse who came to our office to give us flu shot, I arranged her, we had a chat about this MC stuff, she was very nice and she said I have a good feeling for you and it will happen. I welled up when she said that

I see many ladies said, brown spotting could be late implantation but somehow I cant believe that, I got BFN on 15 dpo with FMU so I highly doubt it. I am thinking I will check if af has not arrived until friday

I have mild lower backache, breasts feel heavy and feeling very sleepy. All these looks like my pre af symptoms ....why cant she just already visit and leave me alone. we cant wait to ttc coming cycle

@Winkle2020 it does sound like AF is on the way for you. It's so frustrating you just want to know one way or another. It's all the waiting that makes it hard.

Keep us updated 💕

Hello ladies the witch got me. But I am super relieved and all set ready for next cycle. We should stick together and get our bfps 😊

@MamaDane @LittleGem638 @Trying93 hey lovelies how are you all, I am in day 3 of my periods. Please give me some advice on when to start checking the ovulation and how frequent we need to DTD to give ourselves best chance

Today is my day of ovulation according to Flo app, me and OH have been DTD every other day (this is what we did last time we conceived.
I'm not having a good time at the minute, a work colleague has announced she is pregnant and so feeling very emotional at the moment. I have being feeling sick yesterday and today and I'm trying not to over analyse this as anything other than stress/nerves

Aw that's hard little Gem,I know I feel worse now than I when it happened nearly 6 weeks ago,& a colleague announcing a pregnancy would make me more emotional than I already am.I am day 6 of the period from hell..It's been a tough week
It's not me hard going back to work at the same time 😕 I'm getting anxious for my follow up now,& babies crematation date is getting closer.
I'm scared stiff of being pregnant again although like you Winkle I'm nearing the time.
I'm not using any apps but can usually tell by the egg white although that can last a few days so not sure which is the best to dtd.Because I'm so scared I don't think I'll plan this month,& will just see what happens.
Do you use an app or ovulation tests at all Winkle?
X

@Winkle2020 I'm cd 4. I start using opks cd15 I've never had a peak before cd18 so that's why I start then. We just dtd as much as we can, we both work shifts so sometimes its difficult, we try not stress too much over it.

@littlegem638 fingers crossed for you month. It's so tough when someones pregnant, there always seems to be at least one.

@katy0000 thinking of you 😘 cremation sounds so tough I can't imagine going through that

Thank you.
I should add that we don't actually get to go,it's a communal one for babies from 16 to 24 weeks so it's not open to parents,but we are trying to think of something special to do that day to mark it ourselves x

@LittleGem638 ....Hello littlegem, glad that you are in the trying phase now. I have got everything crossed for you sweets....this should be your month :) ...loads and loads of baby dust. Keep us posted on your two week wait

@Katy0000 Hello Katy, will be thinking of your little angles ceremony, I can understand the level of pain you must be in. Please hold tight in the situation. we are here with you ....thinking of you dear

@Trying93 You must be cd 6 isnt? hope this is our month ...fingers crossed for us :)

Dear ladies, talking about the pregnancy announcements, I am also very down today as I had to attend a party where these things were happening. Just after my miscarriage, 3 of my friends gave birth, one is giving birth in another 6 days and I had to attend 2 baby showers. We had 7 families who are little close in a community like we do get-togethers. After MMC I had no courage to face all of them and be normal (because I was not normal, I was grieving and sobbing alone).

They all started texting me, complaining I have become quiet and not attending any of their parties announced. I thought since we live in here, I had to at someday face these people so got a little brave and went to see them

I am happy that I got brave but at the same time, one of the new borns was there and everyone started telling me dont worry, you already have a 2 year old and he is quite handful. You will get anothet one soon and all those advices. I felt like I was a failure....I know they asked with a concern but I was struggling to put a brave face which these people were making it hard. I was suffocating in the whole party...felt alone and felt so bad for myself....why this has to happen to us....

A loss is a loss....I came back home, my whole body is flushing with blood to my head...i have an unexplainable pain and sorrow which is killing me....My dear half and DS did not come for the party but when I came back home, I saw my husband being sad as well....may be he thinks something wrong with him ....

I havent cried at alll but some sad nerve has been hit by these people and I am in great misery...

Sorry girls for the ranting...but I thought you were all very close to me rather than any people who are physically with me here. I dont know if they can understand my pain, but you guys do. I really wanna hug you all for being with me in this thread... :( :(

My periods was little heavy like the last time...and I passed some small tissues...I think this the last bit of retained products (I had 8 mm sized retained product shown up in scan after my first periods).

I dont use any app to track ovulation but my plan is to DTD once in two days...
Let us all stay together...

@dm14 Hello dm, how have you been...update us...hand hold to you

Well I forgot to add that, I am binging on all of my comfort food, fried fries in the middle of the night