First pregnancy- first miscarriage. Devastated

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Hi everyone.

I’m 28 and was 10 weeks pregnant. When myself and my boyfriend found out we were pregnant - we were absolutely over the moon and couldn’t wait.

I had light brown spotting on Saturday night which became heavier on Sunday, so I called NHS 24 who told me to go to Out Of Hours GP at my local hospital. Waited 3.5 hours to be told “we don’t have access to the equipment so I can’t help you but don’t worry - bleeding is normal”

Went to work on Monday and was bleeding red blood. Got sent home and was told by the midwife to go for an emergency scan at the early pregnancy unit.

Went to the early pregnancy unit on Tuesday morning. At first she did an ultrasound on me. I knew instantly on the midwife and student midwife faces that something was wrong and I could see her turning the screen so I wouldn’t be able to see.

She told me she could not see anything but a sac so did a vaginal ultrasound instead in which she found a sac, a yolk but no embryo attached or heartbeat. She also told me that it was only measuring 6 weeks. Although she never told me it was going to be a miscarriage - I instantly knew. She printed off the scan for me and told me to come back next week for another scan.

I got home, and the bleeding and cramp became intense. I was in so much pain, and then just felt “it”. I ran to the toilet - and there it was on the pad I was wearing. I screamed, I cried, I instantly felt completely broken.

I am still devastated 2 days on. I feel like I can’t get out of it. My mind is going into overdrive - constantly googling why and how and whether it will happen to me again.

My parents have been the best support. My mum has took time off work to be by my side constantly which I am grateful for but I just can’t get over it and feel like I will never get over it.

Any help with the grieving would help me a lot. Thank you.

@Mrs173 it might be worth asking your hospital what the wait time is for an ERPC if you would consider this instead? I've read a few people who have said the wait time for MVA is much longer. From what I can understand they are very similar procedures just they use anaesthetic for an ERPC so you are asleep, whereas with an MVA you are awake. I got offered both and went for the ERPC. I was initially offered a slot for surgery for 2 days later but in the end I had to wait a week because I had aspirin in my system.

And I meant *peace of mind not piece 😂 I already feeling I'm losing my mind sometimes!

After reading most of the posts I am so grateful and it has really helped me understand I am not alone.
I lost my first pregnancy this week it’s been horrific,
Very excited went for the dating scan Monday and had medical termination Friday. The fluid behind the babies neck was 13.5mm which is way to high and over 6mm was a 15% chance of a healthy pregnancy, my blood tests came back not good 1/7 for Edwards syndrome. After further testing it was confirmed that the baby wouldn’t survive.
I am very sore and teary today which I guess is to be expected I didn’t expect to feel so empty thoe.
I know I can look to the future soon but right now I just want to be sad

Oh hun @kyliechaplin I’m so sorry for your loss xxx

@kyliechaplin so so sorry you are going through this, my best friend lost her baby at 5 months to edwards syndrome, please take the time to feel every emotion you need to, there is no right or wrong everyone deals with things their own way, sending hugs your way ❤

Hi ladies, just got back from the hospital, horrific cramps and bleeding, scan is in the morning but looking pretty certain I have lost this one too 😔

@spierse oh hun I’m so sorry! No words will help but I am so sorry xx

@spierse how you doing hun? x

Hey @cc1304 sorry meant to update, had scan on Monday pregnancy was still there though very early (measuring 5 weeks) told I had a subchorionic haematoma which is causing the bleeding and to bed rest. Tuesday night passed large clots and went back to A&E they admitted me, passed more large clots and then bleeding subsided. This morning cramps have returned have passed another small clot and bleeding again. Scan is not until Thursday though I am with the midwife tomorrow for booking. To say this is stressful is not even the word

@spierse that’s amazing news I’ve been thinking of you!!! x

@spierse how many weeks are you hun x

@cc1304 from LMP I am 7 weeks, so worried am losing it again, bleeding had calmed down again and i wasnt having major issues then this morning I'm back to severe cramps and bright red, EPU is also now shut so can't call them for advise😔

@spierse I’m keeping everything crossed for you. Could you ring out of hours? X

Glad everything is well @spierse scary though with the bleeding!

How about you @CC1304

My period just started so onto cycle 3!

Hey @Anny27 and @CC1304 had my scan today, bad news again I lost the pregnancy 😔 back to square one, going to try and have a few months off to let my body get back to normal and hopefully things will work out for us in the future

Awwh @spierse I am so sorry lovely :( will they do recurrent miscarriage test now?

Have you passed the pregnancy or do they need to intervene?

Again I am sosorry for your loss xxx

Oh @spierse I’m so sorry sending you all my love. I had a chemical one straight away as well it’s so hard. Sending you a big hug x

Nope they only do testing if you have had 3 in a row. Thankfully i seem to have already passed most of it so no intervention required, i have a further scan on 17th of March to make sure all is ok and nothing left behind

I recently came to know about my miscarriage , very devastated and shocked. I feel bit neglected by NHS as i was having bleeding since sometime and they chose to ignore it. I was 12 weeks pregnant and the scan revealed that baby stopped growing after 8 weeks. I have decided to have Surgery but i am not sure if having it in Northwick park hospital is a safe option as i am not very confident of handling in Northwick park hospital. I am thinking about having it in some private hospital. Does anyone has any experience of such at Northwick park hospital

@SonalAgrawal
I am sorry to hear your news.
I’m afraid I don’t live anywhere near you and have no experience of that hospital.

@spierse how you doing hun? How is everyone doing? x

Hi @cc1304 I'm ok, too preoccupied with coronavirus situation to even register what has happened to me. This last week at work has been crazy whilst we contingency plan across UK and Europe. Health is ok, bleeding stopped though I get the odd bit of spotting, meant to be having my follow up scan on Tuesday but not sure I want to go to the hospital! Hope all is ok with you

@spierse I’m ok thanks hun. I guess it’s a good thing to be preoccupied, remember to take time for yourself x

Hi ladies, been a while since I posted on here. @spierse I’m so sorry for what happened.

I miscarried at 3 months in March last year. Long story short myself and my partner have been trying since and nothings happened! My periods are irregular since loosing the baby, so I got ovulation kits to see if I ovulate and I am. But still not getting pregnant 😢 so I went to my GP and she said because I got pregnant before and because I’ve only had one miscarriage I can’t have any inquest into my fertility. She said I maybe worrying and stressing too much about it and I should forget about it and relax and concentrate on other things and it may happen. But that it so easier said than done!! It’s breaking my heart I’m sick of crying everytime my period comes! It’s nearly been a year now and still not pregnant 😢 I don’t know what to do!! But my partner said other day he is taking testosterone because he bodybuilding at the moment. I worried because I’m sure that can reduce sperm production. And I said this too him and he said it doesn’t and we should be fine still trying and I said no we won’t. So he said he is going to stop using it so we can try. Do you ladies think it’s that? Or because I’m stressing too much or there’s something wrong??
Can a miscarriage damage your insides??
I’m so sorry I’m so panicking xxxx

Hello everyone! How are we all doing x