@SunStruck I would like to have your positive attitude. Reading about this is giving me some light though, so thank you for sharing this, I am really grateful ❤️
Re TTC, I am theoretically the second youngest woman left active on this thread atm, and yet the only one who still hasn't conceived at all since the MMC, even without ERPC. Age really doesn't determine things. I agree with @Catconfusion, unless there is an underlying issue, it's got to be the time needed for our bodies to recover, firstly to get pg and secondly not to miscarry again. Or just good/bad luck. No one really knows, it's the land of what ifs and maybes, hated by so many of us when we're stuck in it. But yeah, I wouldn't say age is that relevant.
Can I just say, I think the guy who made that comment to you is a right d**K! This is not something he or anyone else should ever feel entitled to say. You may have certain impressions about people, but of course a lot of people put a mask on in the professional environment, because they feel they have to, maybe it's to protect themselves, maybe it's easier with clients, maybe most colleagues do and it's the environment that "requires" it. So he may well not know the real you and why did he feel the need to comment?
You know, I used to wear that mask, but after all this, I took it off. I personally conclude now that this isn't healthy long term, and whilst it isn't about walking around and whining about the poor hard done you every day either (the "Meghan Markle syndrome" - she's right, but people take it the wrong way), it is about being yourself. I've embraced now that a lot of bad stuff happened and for me it was better to be open about it to limit the amount of awkward questions and comments from others that would hurt me even more. I think it has worked and actually most people reacted very well and were very supportive. I feel I have bonded with them much better, they've opened up about their personal issues too, and now they (finally?) see me as a human being. I'm not just the senior professional above X people, I am a person who they trust and want to speak to, and dare I say it, like (at least some of them!). We work very well together and admittedly, they are much closer with me and do a lot more for me without any kind of faffing than they do for my male colleagues. I think we've built up this mutual respect because we know what each one is about as a person. I'd never ever not listen to them if they need to go home early because something happened because I know and understand that they struggle having a mum with dementia or a husband dying of cancer. I get it is hard. Equally, they sometimes see I don't want to talk or I could do with a cuppa, and they pause for me, sometimes bringing me a box of tissues or giving me a hug. I never worked like this before, but you know what, it is so much better to be real, I find, and it is still professional. It requires a big change in the culture of the particular business, however xxx