First Pregnancy Missed Miscarriage (Part 4)

[Kiki061190]

Hi ladies!

Our previous thread is now full so I’ve made a new one 😘

Oh wow @sadtoday21 I'm so happy for you. Sorry it was in the same room though. This is huge and your chances must be great now you've got to this landmark. I hope the next few weeks go quickly. You're doing so well! Xx

@Kiki061190 I had some sharp twinges but they've died down now. It's just everything settling after implantation so try not to worry.

People do start to wonder when you refuse drinks. It really winds me up though because I don't always drink and the amount of times people have jumped to conclusions. It just makes you feel like you're doing something socially wrong if you don't have a drink. Hopefully she won't make you feel uncomfortable and straight out ask you. At my party a few friends asked why I wasn't drinking. I didn't know I was pregnant then so just said it was for health reasons and left it at that. I don't really care if they jump to conclusions. I would deny it if directly asked. We've told my mum and dad so far and will tell DHs parents but mainly because they'll be supporting us if something goes wrong. Everyone else will have to wait until 12 weeks.

I hope you enjoyed your naughty lunch. Yes our due dates will be close. I think mine is about the 15 April. I'm 4 plus 4 today. Feeling less crampy but my stomach is awful. I'm wondering if it's the progesterone supplements but I'm feeling like food is going straight through me. The nausea is only when I wake up at the moment but the toilet troubles are relentless. I think I'll see the doctor tomorrow. Xx

Omg @Catconfusion I’m so glad you said that because my stomach is super sensitive just now. I also have IBS which doesn’t help!

Oh no @Kiki061190 not you as well! It was horrendous last night. I was out for someone's birthday and kept running to the toilet. I had it with the first pregnancy but it feels worse this time. I'm wondering if that's the progesterone. I'm don't think we can take ibs medication either. Also there are mixed views on peppermint oil. DH made me a rehydration drink which has helped. I'll let you know what the doctor says tomorrow if I can get in. Xx

@Catconfusion honestly between that and the cramps I’m just wanting to crawl into bed all day! Perfect thank you so much ♥️ How have you been? My AF was due 2 days ago now so feels good that the due date has passed. Do you feel warm? I feel constantly clammy!

@MrsMGE thinking of you and hoping you’re doing ok ♥️

Hi ladies,

So lovely to read some more BFPs I'm so so happy for you all! And to those still waiting, I know your time will come for your rainbow, keep strong 💕

Long time no posting from me, I have been an anxious mess following my first cycle after MC being anovulatory. Now 13DPO in my second cycle after MC and I have news! Albeit im a negative nanny and thinking the worst! I have my 2 lines 💕 but I'm terrified to my core and I'm trying to keep my heart rate down. The lines are just so so feint I feel like it's not going to pull through and it's going to be a chemical or it won't be strong enough to last.

I'm calling the docs for bloods if AF still doesn't show next week but in the meantime I'm going to try have a busy weekend to distract myself from my dark trigger thoughts 😪

If any of you follow Instagram, I've created an anonymous account called BabyPending, let me know if you have accounts and I will follow!

Sending hugs and baby dust to you all xxx

Aww @BabyPending congratulations and fingers crossed all is well ❤️❤️❤️ Will be thinking of you. Xxx

@Kiki061190 Thank you lovely. I'm a bit of a mess today as it's also hit me that my O is most likely long gone now and we've missed our window because of everything that's happened. I know it's selfish to think this way and this isn't the most important thing right now, obviously. I'm just desperate for some good news that won't be coming any time soon 😔

Oh no @Kiki061190 it's so hard just to carry on at such an early stage. I'm ok thanks, moving from being unbelievably happy but feeling rubbish to disbelief this is happening. We've both missed AF so probably past the chemical phase. Just mostly scared of mmc now. Yes I feel hot. Had to go and sit outside in the rain last night. Xx

Wow @BabyPending that's potentially good news. I get why you're concerned and I wish I could give reassurance but my faint positive at this point was a chemical. All you can do is test tomorrow and see what the lines are doing. I'm so sorry it's not clearer for you. Hopefully just late implantation! Xx

@MrsMGE thank you sweetie and I realise my post is a little insensitive of those trying so I'm sorry for that. I will include you in my prayer this morning, your time will come I just know it. It seems like this group has a good rainbow vibe going on, you are part of a success story waiting to happen xxx

@MrsMGE I'm so sorry you're feeling this way but it's perfectly normal to still want to try and get good news after such a bad time. The stress of ttc makes everything feel worse and I can imagine your grief is a overwhelming. Be kind to yourself. You will feel better than you do right now. Xx

@BabyPending what fabulous news! My line was faint as well! I’ve actually not tested since. I’m the same as you, just can’t seem to be very positive about it but let’s try and keep each other positive! Fingers crossed for us.

@Catconfusion that’s good to know that we’re both feeling the same! Fingers crossed the next 8 weeks pass quickly ♥️

@MrsMGE It’s so hard when these things happen during TTC. TTC is hard to without everything else you have going on. I would just continue to dtd when you can. You never know what might happen!

@BabyPending No, not at all, you were not insensitive lovely! I'm just going through a very rough patch for non-pregnsncy related reasons which I've mentioned towards the end of the previous thread. Absolutely nothing to do with your post ❤️❤️❤️ It is actually uplifting to see another BFP amongst us, we've all been through absolute awful time and deserve the good news so much ❤️❤️❤️ xxx

@Catconfusion Thank you, that's very kind of you. I'll have to somehow brave myself to wait longer, and for now just focus on the little things every day that make me smile. I am now coming back to the thought you've shared some time ago and I can now see that there was, after all, some silver lining to my MC. I think I'm handing the current situation better than I would have otherwise. I have become compassionate - thought I was before, but I wasn't really. All of us affected (friends/family) are much closer now, and I've also got closer with so many people through being open about my baby loss struggle. These people are now standing by us at this difficult time. You were completely right, and I was scared to admit this, but although I miss my baby every day and wish she was here with me, my pregnancy and MC have, ultimately, made me a better person. I'd like to think I'm better for my baby. Xxx

@Kiki061190 Thanks. Sorry if TMI, but I noticed white, creamy CM yesterday which from what I've read means I'm past O, doesn't it? I have no idea how it works as I've never had any particular noticeable O symptoms or any massively noticeable CM changes up until this cycle now. Xxx

@MrsMGE I really struggle to go by CM because I never have much! I almost never get EWCM. I think you can get creamy before and after O. @sadtoday21 recommended evening primrose oil for helping with CM.

@Kiki061190 Hmm. Maybe I should still dtd then. Not that DH or I are in the mood right now, but ultimately it needs to be done to move forward.

I've never heard of this oil. @sadtoday21 could you shed some light please? Xxx

Arh @MrsMGE that's such a positive outlook to have give the current situation. You're doing so well. All you can do is focus on things you have control of. Sadly there is so much we can't control. All we can do is learn, grow and heal from those things because we can't change them. I honestly believe that through carrying the baby I lost I'm now more prepared for carrying this baby. Even if we lose it I know what to expect and feel I could go through it again if I have to. I would have never thought I could cope with such a devastating miscarriage and it was awful but I got through it as we all did. There's definitely some strength in that! Xx

It’s totally just down to luck tho isn’t it ladies? I did and used all the right supplements ect the previous month and no BFP and this month I never even used anything and it worked. So strange!

That's very true, when I was full on focused on conceiving in our first month nothing happened. In our second month, I was on holiday, drinking and dtd'd like 3 times a month (it was a super busy and stressful month) and then on holiday which I thought was way past O, and I got a BFP. I can't see any logic in this apart from not thinking about it too much and doing what you wish seems to be the best way!

I agree @Kiki061190 I think if you're both healthy it just depends how well the chromosomes come together. I read that most cycles result in a conception but 80% don't implant because the chromosomes are wrong so the tests are negative. Some begin to implant and stop because not quite right so you might get a surge of hcg that doesn't progress. The rest either grow for a bit longer but stop because something wrong or go to full term because the chromosomes are fine. Other causes of loss are far less common. It's a wonder anyone gets born! Xx

@MrsMGE so I used to take evening primrose oil in liquid form from boots starting from the day of missed AF to day of confirmed O. You have to stop taking if after O as it’s for pre-conception only. It tastes great - like flowers and melon - and I swear it increased my EWCM from three to four days to nine+ days - crazy! I don’t know if this is why I got my BFP, but I do think it helped produce a lot of EWCM so the swimmers could live for those five days before I ovulated. It’s not expensive, so worth a try imho. But agree with @Kiki061190 that it is all about luck and it’s good to find something else you enjoy to refocus your mind. I really liked what you said about not wishing the days away and thinking positively! I also need to find something to keep my occupied for these next three weeks so I can enjoy this and not just stress the whole time. And creamy cm can signal either EWCM coming or the end of O - getting in a bd session can’t hurt! Hope you are doing ok and sending you hugs ❤️

And massive congrats @BabyPending!! How are you feeling? It’s lovely to see these bfps and I know they are going to keep coming for all the ladies on here soon xxx.

What do you ladies recommend in regards to testing? I took a test Tuesday and Wednesday but haven’t taken any since. Would yous test again at any point?

@Kiki061190 I did my last test just before my ultrasound. It was blazing positive and taking the dye from the control line. So I took took that the mean strong hcg levels. It might be worth doing one more now AF hasn't come just to confirm. It's up to you. If you find it too stressful just trust the ones you did. It looked like a good line to me! Xx

Hey ladies. Been catching up with work between family visits so haven't had the time to keep up with you all. I'm really sorry to hear about your news @MrsMGE - I hope you are okay 💕

Tentative congratulations @BabyPending - really hope this is a sticky one xx

I left it about three or four days before testing again @Kiki061190 and tested until the dye was more filtered towards the test line and the control line was light. I think this was up to 5 weeks. I found it hard not to retest, especially as my second MC gave me an indication from the test lines getting faint as the pregnancy progressed xx

How are you feeling @Catconfusion xx

Super news on the scan @sadtoday21 - so very happy for you! The waiting is torture, but you are doing so well. I won't lie, it's going to drag until you feel in a safer zone, but that's not that far away. Roll on three weeks! Xx

I might go out and buy another test to take tomorrow ladies to see what’s happening! Thanks for all the recommendations ♥️