First Pregnancy Missed Miscarriage

[sadtoday21]

Hi ladies! Our last thread was automatically closed because we reached the 1,000 post limit. I was hoping we would be able to start a new thread called First Pregnancy Post-MMC, but unfortunately we are not quite there yet. I know we will be someday soon! In the meantime, I hope you will all join me on here as we continue on this journey together. You have all been an invaluable source of inspiration, support, and kindness for me and I want to thank you for making me feel less alone in this.

About me, for any newcomers: First MMC in February at 12 weeks (baby passed at nine), D&C the next day, found out five weeks later that it was a partial molar pregnancy and currently undergoing follow-up with CX. Second early mc in April. Now impatiently waiting to be cleared from CX before ttc again.

Hi @Amanda81 sorry for the x-posting! I love the view you have today - your job sounds amazing! I knew your story from earlier, but rereading it again I really have to say that I think you are an incredibly strong person to have gone through so much and still stay so positive and support other ladies on here. I can't even imagine all the pain you must have had to go through with the testing and then the mmc/mc on top of all that. Yet here you are, pregnant again and running your business. It is very inspiring!

Thanks also for taking a look at the site and for your encouragement! It's just a little side project and I actually don't know the first thing about blogging or websites (just a DPhil student in the social sciences over here!). Since it's a free website platform, it's not absolutely perfect, but I do like playing around with it and having a place to write some of my thoughts about the mmc/mc. I thought maybe you might like to write something about being pregnant again after your mmc and early mc - I know the anxiety must be hard, but you must also be so happy at the same time! I can't wait for your scan next week - only a few more days now!! xxx

@sadtoday21 still no af ☹️ I can't believe how low it's making me. I think it's because I thought the end was in sight and now it's all unsure again.

Yay for your last sample!! I'm sorry you're having dh troubles. I really think they struggle to understand how agonising all the waiting is for us. They get to just carry on with life like normal. Even before the mc my dh couldn't understand why I got so stressed during the tww. Also if you're anything like me, once you've got your heart set on something, that's it. It is risky but we've all got to believe that ultimately it'll be worth it. I'm sure he believes that too really. xx

Argh my colleague is pregnant and we are quite close but don't socialise much outside of work. My other colleague wants to organise her a baby shower and thinks I should defo attend? Thoughts? Obv I feel rubbish saying no but I don't think I can face it, I also wouldn't ever want one myself so it's not like I wouldn't go to this and expect others to come to mine?

My story is I got pregnant straight away last September/October time! Knew something was up around 10 weeks and had a private scan baby had passed at 9 weeks. Got pregnant again in jan but I think it was more of a chemical as although strong positives on 3 tests I lost it a week later! Nothing since!

@sadtoday21 also, I don't know about the other ladies on here who don't have any children yet but all my anxiety and stress boils down to one big, main fear. The fear that it won't ever happen for me. I genuinely don't think that's something my dh worries about.

@wanderlustgirl I'm sorry you've been put in an awkward situation. If you don't feel up to it (very understandably) then you definitely shouldn't go. Both of your colleagues should (and I'm sure will) understand. xx

@AnnaMC214 sorry to hear about the lack of AF still, I know it must be a huge disappointment but hang in there! It will come soon. And yes, I could have written your last post myself - this is completely my fear and DH has never even thought about it. My fears were somewhat allayed by getting pregnant (twice), but what if I can't hold on to it?

@wanderlustgirl that is a terrible situation to be in, I'm so so sorry. I wouldn't go if you don't feel up to it - you have to do what feels best for you. I doubt I would go in your position. xxx

@sadtoday21 I love this website! Can’t wait to add to it as I go on the journey of TTC. I feel like I fell pregnant without trying and this time I really want to actually prepare myself so have bought some pre conception vitamins and ovulation sticks etc!

So many people around me announcing pregnancies and it makes me wonder if they’ve ever had a mc or what ladies around me have had this experience of losing a baby. It’s not something talked about really!

I’m 6 days after my medical mc and the bleeding is finally starting to lighten! Got a follow up scan tomorrow to check there is no tissue left. Fingers crossed no D&C needed.

I almost feel like once this is all over I can start again if that makes any sense? Feels like a new opportunity almost to begin again 💗

Thanks @Kiki061190, that really means a lot! It would be great to read your posts on it and I hope that it will help you and me too as an outlet for talking about mc. I am so happy to hear that your bleeding is getting better and that you are almost done with medical management (how was it? would be great if you wanted to write a post on this for the website actually, as I've only had d&c and would like to compare. I've always wondered if natural/medical management allows your body to get back to its natural rhythm more quickly than the surgery). I have everything crossed for you that all goes well at the scan tomorrow and no retained tissue!! xxx

In other news, I HAVE GREAT NEWS! I AM FINALLY CLEAR of the partial molar!! Yippeee! CX said I can start to ttc immediately. I am so happy, there are no words to describe the relief. Now I need to prepare for some serious bding in the next two weeks, after a very long break haha! I hope this month is the month for all of our bfps!!

@sadtoday21 congratulations!! I'm so so happy for you! 😄 It must be such a relief that you can finally move on with ttc. I wish you all the luck and baby dust. xx

This is my first post and my first time reading this thread. My God, you ladies are amazing. The way you support each other and talk about MC has made me cry. I don't know if this is the right group to post in and please feel free to move me on... I am 5w pregnant after a MC and 5w+6 in November. Every cramp I get I'm going to the toilet to check for bleeding, it's making me crazy.

Thanks @AnnaMC214, I have everything crossed for you this month as well! Hope you get AF tomorrow!! xxx

You are very welcome here @Jess2618 and I am so sorry for your previous loss and that you are feeling anxious about the new pregnancy. It's very understandable. Congratulations though for making it this far! I am not pregnant again yet, but I also had an mmc at 12 weeks and early loss at 5 weeks. @Amanda81 on here is pregnant again after her mmc and an early mc as well. We all just say that we have to take it one day at a time. Are you getting any early scans done? I would recommend getting scans from six weeks on, after having the mmc not picked up until the 12 week scan. Hope you are doing ok and sending you hugs!

Wow ladies! My bleeding had completely tapered off until about 2 hours ago. Just felt the blood starting to run out! Was passing large clots and having and cramp. Felt just like Friday when I was in having my medical MC. I swear I’m like how much more is there to come?! Blood is bright red and I have a scan tomorrow to check and see if the MC is complete and I’m really not expecting good news at this rate 😔

Thanks guys for sharing your stories I really appreciate it. I'm trying to chill over the weekend before I'm back at work for my first 12 hour shift (four shifts next week) I'm nervous and Trying not to stress

Congrats @sadtoday21 good luck with the bd

Hi ladies! Thought I’d update! Last night I passed a lot of tissue/clots ect. Went for my scan today and they said that the pregnancy has now passed and that I’ll have just a little bit of light bleeding for the next week or so. No D&C needed! The midwife checked my ovaries and womb over thoroughly and said all was looking good. I’ve to go back May 29th for a follow up scan and the midwife said they should be able to give me the all clear and I can start to try again from there. She told me not to worry about waiting for AF before as everything is looking good and if I’m happy to start ttc again then there’s no reason to wait. Left feeling really happy especially after the previous night!

Amazing news @Kiki061190 good luck TTC X

@Kiki061190 that’s excellent news, congratulations! I’m so so happy for you. It’s great that you want to start ttc right away, just know that sometimes you can have an early mc again if you don’t wait one cycle for the uterine lining to heal (this is what happened to me and three other ladies on here). But everyone is different and hopefully you will catch the egg right away and it will stick! Xxx

@AnnaMC214 any sign of AF yet? Thinking of you!

@Catconfusion what cd are you now? I’m on cd8 so still not much going on. I started taking EPO though to get ready for O - are you taking anything special this time besides the insitol?

@bananamonkey and @3204ECL are you still waiting for O or in the TWW yet?

@Amanda81 only three more days until the scan! How are you feeling these days? Xxx

Hi @sadtoday21 still waiting for O here... my temping has been a bit off this cycle I think because I've had a cold but hoping tomorrow or Monday. Still on flashing smileys on the CB digitalis this morning. Last cycle I O'd on CD 15 so hopefully any day now!

How are you doing? Sorry I've not really kept up the last couple of days as work has been crazy! So glad it's the weekend and looking forward to a nice quiet one. xxx

Hi @sadtoday21 it's so sweet of you to ask after me. Today is cycle day 48 and still no sign of af. If I did O (which I'm starting to doubt) then today would be 18 dpo. Mentally it's hit me really hard and no matter what I tell myself I can't seem to shake myself out of it. I seem to have lost all hope. I'm crying every day again and had a big row with my dh yesterday as he doesn't see why I'm so upset. He probably has a point. I'm even starting to worry about Ashermans now but, as usual, it seems there's nothing to do but wait.

I'm always here if anyone needs me but I'll probably not be about much on MN for a while until this black cloud has lifted a little. I'm sending you all lots of love, hugs and luck for whatever stage of all this you're at. xx

Oh @AnnaMC214 I’m so so sorry. I know nothing I say can really help, but my first cycle after the mmc was 53 days long, AF didn’t come until 18 dpo, and I was also giving up hope towards the end. I’m assuming your temps are still nice and low, so it’s got to be just around the corner. Sorry to hear you fought with DH - it’s just so hard for them to really understand what we are going through and all the mental anxiety and physical stress. I’ve been there so many times right where you are now and I promise it will get better eventually, even though it seems right now like mmc is a never-ending and terrible process. Please message me or the group whenever you need someone to talk to about it. We are all here for you and routing for you! Sending you hugs 🤗

Looking good @3204ECL!! Hopefully O is only one or two days away and looks like you are timing it perfectly! Fingers crossed for a BFP this month! I’m a few days behind you, so AF just stopped a few days ago and I am going to start temping again on Monday (cd10). Any earlier than that and I drive myself crazy with waiting! I’m cleared from CX now so going to be actively ttc this month! Best of luck in your tww!! Xxx

Thank you @sadtoday21 I really don't know what I'd do without you ladies. I know 48 days is nothing compared to some people's long cycles but as the dpo gets higher I'm running out of time for it to just be a long lp. My chart was giving me such hope as it all seemed to make sense and now this. I so want to move on and my body won't let me. I feel guilty about my dh. He just wants me to feel better and nothing he says can make that happen. I don't think I'm much fun to live with right now. xx

@sadtoday21 aww thanks! I asked the widwife about that but she told me not to worry about another mc.

Tbh tho I’m quite happy just to let nature take its course. I’m one of these people who just kind of thinks when it’s meant to happen it will if that makes any sense? Since I’m just off the pill I’m just going to concentrate on getting my body back to normal and understanding it a bit more! I’m going to start temping ect when I get my first AF and just see what happens!

@Kiki061190 I know, I also asked the midwife and she told me not to worry and just to try again, but then I did have another mc at five weeks. It wasn't bad though, not nearly as bad as the mmc at 12 weeks, more just like a heavy AF. The major drawback was that it messed up my cycle even more and then I was waiting a long time for O the next time around (this also happened to @Catconfusion). I think it's great to let nature take its course, just wanted to tell you that the midwives don't always give all the info, so you can be prepared either way! I was like you, just see what happens, but I think looking back on it I might have waited until after 1 AF. It's hard to say though. I meant to ask - how was the medical management in the end? Was it very traumatic or are you happy you didn't go with the d&c? Just curious and also wondering whether your cycle might readjust faster without the surgery. Take care of yourself and best of luck!!! Xxx

Hey everyone, sorry for silence but work has picked up which has certainly been good for my mood but I've had less time.

@sadtoday21 the blogging is a great idea. We have so much information that would be useful for other people.

I'm cd8 and starting temping as Ovusense has a new app so I wanted to try it out. I'll do a digital Opk on Monday I think. I'm taking omega 3, Angus Castus, Inositol, Proceive and Evening Primrose.

Congratulations on getting the all clear. It must be such a weight off your mind. I'm sure DH will be fine with it all once you get started. They seem much more cautious than us. My DH was the same after my mmc. Xx