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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 26 - tests, treatment and trying again

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bythesea82 · 17/06/2015 14:40

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

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Justonemoretime · 24/06/2015 07:40

Bootle, thanks. I'm finding white noise helps. Got an app that plays 'in the womb' sounds all night. It's quite hypnotic!

Brummiegirl15 · 24/06/2015 07:42

I'm ok thanks Bootles I've got nothing to suggest this pregnancy is anything other than ok, no spotting and no cramping.

But that is exactly what happened in number 3 mc. Textbook pregnancy, hb at 7 weeks and all happy and excited and then scan at 9 week and world came crashing down and they estimated baby had died at the 8 week mark.

And that is all I can think about. Am not reassured at all by the fact I had a scan 10 days ago.

Fuccckkkkkk

Sad
girliesaints · 24/06/2015 07:54

Just, dd was classic every 2 hour waker for the first few months which was tough but she eventually got better and now is a solid sleeper. I have a theory that if they sleep well in early days, they grow into poor sleepers but if they sleep poorly in the beginning they turn into a great sleeper. In the meantime take plenty of cat naps when you can x

Marchgirl · 24/06/2015 08:37

sebs, step away from google!!! If your hcg was normal you'd still be worrying about it for some other reason. It's so hard to believe that things might be ok after what you've been through, but worrying about the what ifs isn't going to make things any easier. Hand holding and hugs until your next scan. And to the others in the early, scary days

longestlurkerever · 24/06/2015 08:39

Great news about belle. As a fellow inductee I might pop over to her thread and wish her well.

sebs please try not to worry. I had v low hcg with dd1 initially and then it sky rocketed. I was worried but the drs were unconcerned and just shrugged and said "could be twins". It wasn't, but nor was there anything wrong. I really think your sonographer sounds like a naturally cautious, low key type that has worried you unduly because you're in a heightened state of anxiety already. Hugs.

Hugs too to brummie the build up to your danger point scan is just the worst (And the relief if it goes well is incredible). Everything crossed for you.

just I hear you on the nights! Tbf Beth is pretty chilled as long as she is being held but I am a v nervous co sleeper and don't really settle unless she is in her basket

Marchgirl · 24/06/2015 08:47

onestep, i know exactly how you feel. It's total desolation in those early days. I think I'm only a few days ahead of you in this mc (passed a week ago today) and I've been through all those emotions you are going through now in the last week and a half (except you had to deal with the worry of possible ectopic as well). It does get easier but I'm still having days where i just don't know how much longer I can carry on. I've just come back from 2 days away and it was exactly what i needed. If you get a chance to get away anywhere or just to do something different for a few days then it might help. And remember the hormones will still be raging at the moment so you're not going to start feeling like yourself again until that settles. Do you have acupuncture at all? I've found that it really helps to flush out the hormones. Big hugs to you lovely. Xx

Brummiegirl15 · 24/06/2015 09:15

Well I've had an eventful morning. A lorry hit a car directly in front of me on the M42, narrowly missing me and sent her in to the crash barrier. Problem is the M42 from the M40 round to the M6 has all 4 lanes including the hard shoulder open.

So we were stuck with all 4 lanes still open.

So I've been standing, 8 weeks pregnant trying to move fast moving traffic across from the hard shoulder to Lane 1 without them ploughing into us.

Terrifying doesn't cover it Confused

Let's hope rest of my morning is less dramatic

Justonemoretime · 24/06/2015 09:23

Brummie, good yo hear you're OK! How frightening! Hope the rest of your day is much more relaxed!

longestlurkerever · 24/06/2015 09:46

Agh brummie! So glad you're ok. Xxx

one step and march, huge hugs. It's overwhelming but just keep talking, keep being kind to yourselves. You will get through the worst. Better times ahead. Xxxx

bootles · 24/06/2015 09:58

Shit brummie that does sound terrifying. I have a real thing about motorways and find them scary at the best of times. You are ok that's the main thing. I hear you on the fear. By yesterday, I am 9+1. Thats when it all went wrong with the last one, days after a good scan. Even though yesterday all looked good, today the fear has returned. Offering a hand hold to you.

march glad you had a couple of days away. As you say very early days for you too. Be kind to yourself, sending you big hugs x

sebs reading my post back, I didn't intend to make it sound like I thought there was anything to worry about - I don't. Sometimes I just think having info re things like harmony tests can calm the nerves a bit.

girliesaints · 24/06/2015 10:40

That sounds terrifying Brummie. Hope you had a sit down once you got off the motorway x

OneStep2015 · 24/06/2015 10:52

Brummie so glad to hear you are ok, keep safe. Xx

March big hugs to you too. It's so soul destroying. Back at JR for repeat bloods. Doesn't help we're in the middle of house purchase and received a call today that our buyers buyer didn't have a mortgage in the end, but now it seems they put it back on the market and now have another offer. We just felt like everyone could just go f@** this morning!!!!!

girliesaints · 24/06/2015 11:26

March, glad to hear you had a good break x

Onestep, totally understandable about the housebuying enough to stress you at the best of time, let alone in the Middle of an MC.

Tomorrow I start the merry-go round of rmc appointments, with first appointment after last MC, discharge appointment from the Response trial and sign up session for new anxiety trial. (Think I'll be there for most of the afternoon!)

I plan to go in fighting/ determined to have a plan forward. I am going to ask if they will support the Coventry protocol as plan to go after two Afs. Just so I'm clear what's the standard drugs they advocate (not for high nk cells) and what does each of them aim to do? Also hoping to get the kareotyping results back, although I expect them to be clear as I've already been told it's rare/ impossible to get chromosome issues with both eggs with twins, but doing it to rule of it as a cause.

Also turned down unexpected job offer yesterday due to the mcs and wanting to try again and current manager being very supportive. Thought I was be honest for the reason why and the recruiting manager told me she agreed with my decision and that she had been in a similar position in the past and she didn't prioritise trying again and subsequent didn't have children, which she regretted. Made me feel like I was right in my decision, although it does feel like I am sacrificing my career again.

Knacking just thinking about, good job off on homibobs on Friday!

Flen · 24/06/2015 11:57

Morning everyone. brummie hope you're ok, that sounds very scary.

So I've got a squinter this morning, I caved and tested after a very bad night of wondering and wondering. Am 9dpo. Trying to hold it lightly as I know things can change, so will test again Sat (if I can hold out that long!) Feeling just desperately hopeful that it will get stronger and then it will stick.

Marchgirl · 24/06/2015 12:10

Eeeeep! Whispered congrats flen!! I really felt like this was going to be your month. Keeping everything crossed for a sticky one xxx

bootles · 24/06/2015 12:36

flen !!! Everything solidly crossed for you x

girliesaints · 24/06/2015 12:54

Ooh Flen, how exciting x

mrsdiddlydoo · 24/06/2015 13:25

Oooo flen everything crossed for you x

bootles and brummie and everyone else close to danger zones, I'm wishing your little beans onwards in their journeys. It's such a hard time.

I'm 14+6 today. Bad dream about mc last night has left me full of doubt and worry even though it's not real ... silly woman On the good side, if a little scary, the non sick moments of my day are growing in length and I even have moments of feeling slightly human. Off all drugs now so it's all down to the thing and my body to get on with it.

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longestlurkerever · 24/06/2015 13:35

Flen! Hurrah. Everything tightly crossed for you xx

BumbleBee0 · 24/06/2015 13:48

Flen Eeeek!! Out of interest what test are using? Willing your line to be stronger when you next year and that this is your one. Smile x

MrsConfusion · 24/06/2015 13:52

flen whispered congrats, big hugs to get you to Saturday x

MrsD great to be so far along, off the drugs and slowly escaping nausea - all great signs. Bad dreams are so horrid, they can really shake you - if it's stuck in your head try writing it down (then burning it if you really want to purge it!).

Waves to all

Sunandrainbow · 24/06/2015 13:54

flen!!! Whispered congrats lovely. x

Sunandrainbow · 24/06/2015 13:59

mrsd - yay for feeling slightly human again! Urgh - bad dreams are horrid and can leave you feeling really shaken. x

OneStep2015 · 24/06/2015 14:07

Willing this one for you Flen