Recurrent miscarriage support, tests, treatments and trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Thanks everyone. You're right I'm at the right point, I may as well cross it off the list (resetting the clock is a worry if I don't go march) and hope to God that this egg is not the only good one I've got left- totally feeling that risk freckle. So I'll be ringing in the morning and assume it'll be a trip next Monday!

sebs I can totally see how you've made that decision. It's the shittest thing and takes over your life. It's really brave to say 'that's it I've had enough' and see what happens. I'm not quite there yet but I know in my heart it's not far off. Huge hugs and love for whatever happens in the future xx

cloud it's great to see that pg after mcs is possible in RL but get the fear of what may happen if it goes wrong. This is your time too though, I really feel that.

Am stressing and worrying that we've not DTD enough and it'll be a bfn.

I'm not sure I can bring myself to put DP through the stress again of DTD and not finishing.

Potentially it could be too late by now,

If I got a smiley face at 7pm last night, do you think DTD Thursday morning and very late Friday night is going to be enough?

Really could've done with doing it again last night but we did it 4 times this morning and DP just simply couldn't finish. I fear pushing it will do more harm than good.

I know there is the whole every other day argument but that's just not practical. Hence frantic sex over a short period.

I'm expecting to it have not worked but maybe we still have a chance

i went for an early scan (5w3d) a couple of weeks ago due to spotting and my gestational sac was 8.7mm, which was early on so we didn't see much. 2 weeks later (7w3d) i went back and my sac was nearly 22mm but the fetal pole measured 2.8mm which i think is really small. as the nurse told me to come back in a week time. so i think this is my third mc in a row (within a year). i still have all my symptoms nausea and tiredness and am total gutted at my soon to be third loss. i have no children and am 35 in july

i decided already i will go with the surgical option as i don't fancy passing and want my hormones to get back to normal as quick as possible

Welcome to the feed bubbles really sorry you find yourself here. It sounds like a time of anxiety and unknown and as we all know waiting to know can be the worst part

The ladies on this feed are knowledgable, funny and kind so please pull up a stool and know that we're all here for you.

I don't know enough about scans to say if your scan is bad news but I can say that there are several ladies on this feed who have had 3 or more mcs but have gone on to have children. Please know there is always hope and help out there.

Has your doctor / hospital offered you any tests? Do you have to any known issues? If not and things don't progress with this pregnancy then you are entitled to it and I would suggest you insist on having that help if it is not offered to you.

Hugs xxxxx

Hi Bubbly glad you found us. There are some very knowledgable ladies on here who can give you lots of advice.

Plus we have our thread babies to give us inspiration and remind us, it does happen x

thanks ladies. i feel much better talking to you than i have done all week. If it is the dreaded news they have already said to me they will do further tests. i work in at st thomas hospital in london and they have provided me really good care in my last mmc too compared to whips cross in my first miscarriage the nurse said to me they expect the baby to be 1cm at my dates.

Glad you feel a bit better for posting bubbles, sometimes it helps to come on here and know you're not alone. Please feel free to share, rant and cry on here anytime, we're here for you.

It's great you work at St Thomas and get cared for there, from what I know it's one of the best places for rmc care and treatment in the UK.

If your next scan does give bad news and you opt for surgical management you can ask for some tests to be run on the 'content'. I know it's awful of me to write that (so please forgive me) I just want to make sure you know it's an option should you wish to consider it.

Hope your partner, family and friends are being kind and supportive at this hard time. I always found chocolate to be a great help. Hugs to you xxxx

Does anyone have the Coventry number easily available? I've been googling and can't find a definite number. I did find an email though- should I email?

thanks catlover, i have had the worst time the last two years, my partner is there for me, but i don't think guys relate to the same way as we do. i don't talk to his family as my fil tried it on with me and then denied it. my family are there for me but my dad lost his dad in feb for whom both my mum and dad cared for full-time. my mother looks after my brother who has a physical disability so i don't like to stress anyone out too much with my issues.

Sorry bubbles missed your posts. Welcome and I'm so sorry for your losses and your tricky family situation. It's hard to talk to people close sometimes. This place and the ladies here are great though.

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Welcome bubbles, sounds like you need an outlet at this time of worry. If it's any consolation we've all been there and this thread is a wonderful source of information, knowledge, wisdom and compassion. Read page ine of this thread to get all pur stats.

Hi bubbles glad you came over. These lovely ladies will be there for you in a way few friends in real life who haven't been through it can.

thank you ladies, all my friends have had kids in the last 9 months so they don't understand

Thanks so much baking

It can be hard for people in real life to relate. I can understand why you worry about your family but I am sure they will understand your need to share.

My friends never really understood how I felt after my mcs and I found myself envious when they started their families. It's so hard at times.

Post on here as much as you need / wish. We're all here for each other.

thanks well i hope i have the nhs tests done and something comes up. how many people have tried this coventry thing

Welcome Bubbly, sorry for your losses, hope you find info and support here. We've had a few successful pgs on the Coventry protocol (some with the steroids, some without, and just the progesterone and heparin). I'm 33 weeks now, and Tanny, Baking and Tiny have already had their Coventry babies. The research is still very new, and several ladies on here have also had success with other treatment, or indeed with nothing new at all. Its a shit place to be, but there is hope for the future. Good luck.

Welcome bubbles. So sorry you find yourself in this agonising void between hope and despair. Many of us have been there and know how it feels. I hope you can find information, support and hope here. I am almost a success story as i am now 37 weeks pregnant after three mcs. Tests didn't find anything treatable but diagnosed pcos and I think it was a hormone imbalance that caused my losses. Even without treatment the odds are good that you will have a successful pregnancy next time. I hope I am evidence that it can happen.

brummie I tried to post earlier but it didn't work. You have dtd at the right time. There's still a lot left to luck but fx for a sticky bean for you. Don't despair if it doesn't happen first cycle though. 20% success rate is the average for normally fertile couples.

sebs Hugs. That sounds like a difficult decision but the right one. I wish you a happy future, whatever shape it takes.

Final growth scan tomorrow and consultation with diabetes team. Should get my long stop induction date but am hoping they'll let me go to my due date, which they should do if my measurements are still on track.

Sebs, massive respect to you lady making your decision and thereby getting some control back. Let us know how it goes ok?

Bubbles, welcome to the thread. I'm to in the awful process of waiting for the next scan after not having a great scan last week. It's the longest few days isn't it, whilst your body continues to give you constant reminders!

Brummie, darn I suggest you need to relax a bit regarding ttc. I think from your update you've given it a really good go this month x

Welcome bubbles, and sorry to hear about your losses and the awful limbo you are currently in. I hope you find us helpful/supportive. These ladies have been a lifeline to me over the last 7 months.

sebs, I'm sorry you've had to make what must be such a difficult decision. Hoping you get a lovely surprise soon and that we see you back on the other side of a bfp, and that in the meantime you are able to start enjoying life again x

brummie, timing sounds pretty good. I think you're right that forcing the issue might do more harm than good with your dp. Hopefully you've done enough already. So welcome to the 2ww. Hoping time passes quickly for you.

minnie, glad you have decided on Coventry. And it's so soon! Won't be long till you're back on the horse with everything checked and ready to go

its really reassuring to know there are other people and success stories etc

thanks

I've come out of lurking to say sebs I'm so sorry to see you go, I've related to so much of what you've said, as like you I'm ttc no 2 and don't get preggers very quickly. I totally understand where you are coming from wanting to draw a line under it. It's so all consuming and disheartening. I might be joining you soon, as sometimes I wonder how much stamina I have left for this fight. I wish you all the very best and hope you will drop by to say hi occasionally.

Welcome bubbles I'm sad that you have to be here, but it is a great source of support and information.

Lurker good luck with your growth scan tomorrow. You're on the final stretch now!

Girlie thinking of you - limbo is not a nice place to be.

Jady and cloud glad you have scans booked and hope the time passes quickly. From my experience, days waiting for scans go a least 3 times more slowly than normal days.

sasha your blog is fab. I very much related to it and wish I'd found a post like that when I was frantically searching for answers a few months ago.

Brummie You've definitely done enough. Twice within a few days of ovulation is fantastic! I've heard it's better for there to be sperm up there to meet the egg when it pops out, rather than putting some up there at this stage.

freckle that Eureka place sounds like my worst nightmare. Hope you've recovered from it now. Amazing how mc has the capacity to permeate everything and kick you in the teeth when you're not expecting it.

March bet you can't wait to get your Coventry results now!

Minnie I agree with the other ladies, best to get it out the way as soon as you can so you can be as informed as possible going forwards. I've had a couple of months when I haven't been able to ttc for hysteroscopy etc and I found it a bit of a relief. I got on the wine big time and just relaxed and remembered how nice life can be without the pressure of ttc!

Waves to all you other lovely ladies

AFM, I think I'm having a WTF cycle (I love the lingo on here, it does make me chuckle!) I had a loss last month (very early 4w3d). I normally ovulate days 13-15 and so far this month, when I've wiped I've had bright red bleeding on day 18 - there was loads - like it would be if you wiped during your period, pink cm on day 20 and then brown cm and spotting on days 22 and 23 which is today. I've seen every colour in the rainbow! I often get luteal phase spotting from day 24 so it will be interesting to see if that rears it's ugly head tomorrow. I have to test tomorrow as Mr Shehata makes his patients test early to get straight on drugs and I've got FVL. I don't really like testing early as it stresses me out. Also I never believe the results as when I conceived my DS I didn't get a squinter until day 30 xxx

Am also gutted about the election. Let's just hope the Tories implode over Europe in 2017 and then get kicked out next time. But that still means 5 more years of them destroying our social fabric. Anyway...

minnie I do hop your mum is in the mend. And, for what it's worth, I also think you may as well go to Coventry and rule stuff out/in. And then you'll know. You may get an appt for Friday.

sebs you're a brave lady for making the decision. But hopefully we'll see you back here soon!

bubbles sorry you find yourself here. Has the hospital offered you tests?

brummie I will keep my fingers crossed for your tww.

longest good luck tomorrow and I hope all is well at the scan.

I am on count down to Friday when we are due at Leeds for the post-mortem/pathology report and all the results of the blood tests they did. It will be interesting to see if their blood tests show the same as Liverpool (but I doubt it as they didn't last year) and, obviously, if the pm showed any reason why we lost dd. It sounds really silly but I 'hope' there is some news. Something. But above all, there's just the really, really sad thought of having to go and get these results when I should have been 34 weeks pregnant. Awful.

Anyway, it's ds' birthday party the next day so, as ever, he will drag me back into his world of life and joy. And then, when the Coventry results come back, that it. I've done all I can to find out what happened and what, if anything, can be done should we want to try again. To which I still don't know the answer. x

Thank you wadsy and hugs pop. We will be virtually holding your hand tomorrow. X