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Recurrent miscarriage support, tests, treatments and trying again.

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Monten · 27/04/2015 10:11

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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TinyTear · 04/05/2015 20:36

I was on 200mg morning and 200mg evening...

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 04/05/2015 21:02

Barking, I'm really sorry you had such a horrible day on Saturday. And the truth is...life is a bit shit isn't it.
Much as we're conditioned by Disney to think life is what you make it and good things happen to good people, in reality it's just bloody unfair.
However, I do believe the darkest hour is before dawn. One day you will look back on these times from a happier place and you'll probably wonder how on earth you got through, but it will be a part of your history, a part which shaped you, but did not define you.
I'm crossing everything for you for happy news, in some shape or form, I'm really hopeful that you will get your family. Smile

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Monten · 04/05/2015 21:12

biscuits that's lovely Flowers. I hope that's the case for all of us.

Hugs sebs Flowers. I thought it might be someone's choice, it's a lovely popular name. It sucks and it must feel really hard right now. But it will get better. xx

cheesy the cb dual hormones start flashing due to oestrogen and will continue to flash until they detect the Lh surge. If they dont detect it they'll just keep flashing forever Confused. It absolutely does not mean you haven't ov'd tho. I've only ever had two fixed smileys but temping has shown I definitely am ovulating every month. That's why I gave up on them.

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Justonemoretime · 04/05/2015 22:12

Sorry for the brief message, been away for the weekend.
Sasha, yes, I'm pg after 3 mmcs. Two 6.5 weeks, one 13 weeks (was turner's, died at about 10). 32.5 now after progesterone and fragmin from Coventry. Hoping for good news and happy endings for you all. I never thought I'd get this far (I'm getting increasingly apprehensive about the next bit!!!).

Brummiegirl15 · 04/05/2015 22:36

Just had the line "it will happen for you, and if not then there are lots of children who need someone to love them and need a home"

Well meaning I know but if only it was that fucking easy.

Coming from a friend with a baby and 3 year old

she has two.

I have none!!!!!!

Sad
Jady77 · 04/05/2015 22:37

Just a quick message as am knackered, but I think I fall into the hyper fertility group but am on 200mg prog. Not had results yet and there was no mention to me to increase dose at bfp. Fx it's on though.

Barking so sorry you were put in such a horrible situation when you were making such an effort to live your life. Hope the weekend got better.

Good luck tww ladies. Hope you can keep busy.

Not long now Just, fantastic hearing success stories like yours.

ThePopAndCry · 04/05/2015 22:48

barking and brummie sorry you've had shitty experiences this weekend. It's just horrid that the pain gets brought up all over again.

cloud still holding my breath for you.

Thanks for the Coventry feedback. jady I've been prescribed the 200mg like you, but the Prof said I fitted the pattern of 'hyperfertility.' Hmmm. Will broach the subject when I get my results.

And as Liverpool have prescribed Fragmin from bfp I am now wondering which is better, Fragmin and Clexane? Would it make any difference whatsoever?!

Thanks everyone for being there. x

barkingtreefrog · 04/05/2015 23:28

Thanks for the empathy ladies, I didn't have to see the kids again, I was up early in the morning and we came home after the cycling yesterday. It's the unexpected, it catches you off guard Sad .

brummie I seem to get the 'you could always adopt' line on a weekly basis at the moment. Yeah, seems an easy option if it's not you facing that as the only option for a family doesn't it? Angry It's a bloody difficult route quite apart from letting go of that dream of making a little person who is half you and half DH.

sebs I've been so successful so far in my news avoidance that I don't even know what the name is, and I only know it's a girl because someone on here said it was! You have my sympathy though, they stole my boys name last time (my grandfather's name) and it sucks. Thanks

cloud still thinking of you and hoping for the best Thanks .

barkingtreefrog · 04/05/2015 23:29

pop just to add another to the mix I've been prescribed dalteparin from bfp Grin

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 05/05/2015 01:02

Being in a better place one day is definitely true for everyone who's struggling. I guarantee that.
I know I haven't had primary infertility, and I'm also not trying to compare money problems to trying to have a family, but a few years ago I was in a bad place after DH lost his job and then a truck load of much shittier shit hit the fan. A place I don't ever want to go back to, but which at the time I couldn't see any way out of.
If you think things can't possibly get worse, life will probably prove you wrong. If you give up all hope, life will probably prove you wrong again. Smile

Justonemoretime · 05/05/2015 07:28

Fascinating article, recurrent miscarriage is on the list of conditions that can result from this type of vitamin b deficiency and the genetic ability to process it. m.adelaidenow.com.au/lifestyle/sa-lifestyle/how-a-vitamin-cured-my-anxiety-elisa-blacks-story-of-lifelong-struggle-and-new-hope-for-the-future/story-fnizi7vf-1227251037624

Flen · 05/05/2015 07:37

I slept! Well, with only a few wake-ups and no long staring-at-the-ceiling ones. I caved and took a diazepam last night. Thank you Mr Diazepam. Am heading towards the end of AF, so soon it all begins again.

barking and brummie my sister (not the pregnant one) said the adoption line to me the other day. I find it astonishing that people say it with no thought of what it actually involves, emotionally or practically, or with any thought for the mourning that would go with it. It's another one of those catch-all platitudes from people who have not been through anything similar. They just don't know what to say.

biscuits I loved what you wrote.

Re: progesterone, I'm on 200mg in the morning and 200mg at night. When I spoke to Prof Brosens about the diarrhoea, he said to just take 200mg at night, so I think I will try that next month.

And about names, I have a big, horrible fear that my sister is going to choose one of my names. It's such a small thing, and yet somehow symbolises the only choice I have in this whole process. My stomach feels fluttery even writing about it!

Boozle80 · 05/05/2015 07:38

Hey everyone waves, I've been away for the weekend so need to read back to catch up on everyone's news. Hope everybody's doing ok? Xx

sebsmummy1 · 05/05/2015 07:51

Just that article sounds so interesting. I spent the night waking constantly with panic attacks thinking DS needed me. My anxiety is so awful since my MCs kicked in relentlessly. Any idea of dosage? Couldn't see that in the article.

Justonemoretime · 05/05/2015 08:00

Not sure of dosage, but maybe GP could advise? Seems like you get folonic acid prescribed rather than over the counter?

Me2Me2 · 05/05/2015 08:08

Bfn on 12dpo. Do I bother taking the progesterone for two more days? I'm actually wondering if I want to take it at all next month. Or maybe wait and take it from a bfp. I'm not convinced I'm hyperfertile - I've been pregnant 3 times first try (2mcs) but another one took longer and I've now been trying since jan (except took feb off so I could go to cov)

Flen · 05/05/2015 08:15

me2me2 I got BFN 13dpo and stopped taking it. Next month I am going to halve the dose to cut down on side effects (then maybe put it back up if I get BFP...)

Flen · 05/05/2015 08:21

Just had a quick google of the article just posted, this seems helpful maybe... fertilegroundnutrition.blogspot.co.uk/2013/07/mthfr-and-gene-mutations-that-effect.html

Me2Me2 · 05/05/2015 08:31

Thanks flen. It was a first response test so I'm pretty sure im out

Flen · 05/05/2015 08:33

me2me2 mine was too. It totally sucks. HUGS.

sebsmummy1 · 05/05/2015 09:18

I'm sorry MeMe hate BFNs Sad

I'm 7dpo so halfway through the wait. Determined not to test as all it does is make the last few days before AF totally tortuous.

Good luck to everyone waiting to test xx

cloudjumper · 05/05/2015 09:18

flen, me2, sorry for the BFNs. It just sucks.

pop As far as I know the main difference between clexane and fragmin is that fragmin is a lot cheaper, that's why they are prescribing fragmin (dalteparin) more and more. They do the same thing, I have never heard of one being preferable to the other.

Spotting has stopped (phew). And I was spectacularly sick this morning, barely made it to the loo. Weird as this sounds, I am taking quite a bit of comfort from this... It's the only time I would ever be happy about having to puke. Go figure.

sebsmummy1 · 05/05/2015 09:23

Ooooooh cloud that sounds very promising indeed. Everything tightly crossed Brew

Marchgirl · 05/05/2015 09:32

Sorry about bfn me2 Sad

Glad spotting had stayed away today cloud and that you have been sick Confused

Solid yet cheesy?

Thanks for the article just, will read it later