Recurrent miscarriage support, tests, treatments and trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Yey for being sick cloud
Are you still planning on calling epu and trying to get a scan?

Sorry for the bfn me2 hugs x

I've binned off the cb ones for now and going to do an ic this afternoon. Sick of the sight of that sodding face, ha ha! I'm not sure if it may have happened though, cm was (sorry tmi) more sticky this morning. Will probably find out this afternoon...
Have you got a negative now March? Or does your temp confirm ov has happened?

Yeah Cloud for being sick ??

Off for 6 week scan at 11am. All my symptoms have disappeared this morning ...??

Still positive on ic this morning cheesy and no temp rise yet (but I'm a slow riser so don't expect it yet). Had some ewcm and ov pain last night so hopefully that was it. Either way, I've given up and just have to hope we've done enough! Hpt from next Monday. The joy. Fingers crossed for your positive this afternoon. Did you say it was getting darker yesterday?

Hand holding for your scan girlie x

Hurray for puking cloud!! Fucking hell we women put up with a lot don't we??

Sorry about bfn me2 - it never gets easier. Before this hellish journey started I only poas'd once in my life and it was positive. Now I'm sick of the sight of that smug little blank box.

Glad you had a good nights sleep flen it really does make all the difference. I get insomnia on and off and it's awful, you have my sympathies. What's diazepam like? I hate flying - I do it but hate every minute of it - so am considering asking the doc to prescribe me something. I don't like feeling too out of it but a little spacey is fine

Hi girls. Sorry not been around, just popping in to say my mum is in hospital with a heart problem at the mo. I'm a bit distracted. I'll pop in when I can- hope that's ok.

cloud yay for being sick. Never been sick with any mcs so that's great news! Glad spotting has gone too- really positive.

girlie good luck with the scan.

cheesy just started poas here too. Trying to get to Cov in May (if my mum is ok) Hate those flaming sticks!

flen glad you got some sleep. Being tired adds to the stress x

Waves to everyone I've missed (sorry!)

girlie good luck for you scan, hope everything will be fine.

march there was a faint line on yesterday's ic. Tbh ive only been doing the cbdh one at a similar time each morning. Whereas the ic I've done at different times (and not held wee like you're meant to) so not sure how much this affects the result... So bloody ! I'm expecting this afternoons to be blank or faint as I feel like ov has passed now. Glad yours is going to plan! Dreading the hpts, I foolishly went and bought a stash of ic's so I'll probably start testing same time as you because I'm a control freak and have no willpower, not because I'm following instruction

Glad you're feeling more positive today sasha

X posts minnie, hope your mum is ok. X

girlie - really hoping the scan has gone well. Have everything crossed for you.

cloud - yay for puking!

minnie - really hoping your mum is ok?

me2 - sorry about the bfn. Fingers crossed that next month is your month.

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Girlie, we'll all be in there with you, and my symptoms came and went loads at this stage, and each time I thought it was all over. Hugs.

Cloud, brilliant news on being sick! What are your plans?

Minnie, we're here when you need us.

Sorry about the BFNs, ice cream and may help...

I had both clexane and fragamin and preferred fragamin syringes tbh. Same thing inside I think...

So, it's my birthday today. We're all ill with a vile cold. DS1 is blagging a day off school, DS2 is causing mayhem and Bertie is full of snot. But it is still the best birthday ever. This time last year I was making plans to start my own business as I needed a new life plan that didn't involve having a baby. Now here I am.

I know how much grief is here, and I still feel that grief every day, but there is also hope. Hope keeps us going and picks us up off the floor.

Happy birthday to youuuu Tannyloo hope you have a fab day even though you are all poorly because bloody hell you deserve it.

Girlie good luck today, keep us posted!!

Cloud yay for being a sick as a dog. Not something I thought I'd ever say... Really hoping spotting is nothing.

So preggo colleague maternity cover started today so not long to go until she finishes. She came back from hols today looking huge but one of the first things she asked me was how was my op last week, It really did touch me that she remembered.

AF has now finished. Loopy you'll defo be right about it being the hysteroscopy rather than my concoction of pills and god knows what else.

CD 5 so started the cough syrup today (will believe anything I read online but it did work last 3 occasions) and will be starting cb ov sticks on Thursday. Reckon I will ov this weekend. So lots of shagging me think!! DP actually asked when D day was, I tried to fob him off but he wasn't having any of it, saying we are "in it together" bless him.

Biscuit I am another one who believes that the world is darkest just before the dawn and the sun always rises so I'm hoping that everyone else's - and mine - sun is rising.

Barking big hugs to you. We need a sign round our necks saying "have YOU thought about adoption? Now fuck off!!"

Happy birthday tanny Goes to show how we really are not very much in control - but that's OK! Hope you are having a lovely day, in spite of the cold.

girlie Crossing everything for you! Are you having a private scan? Have you told your work yet? Not looking forward to that...

I have decided to sit it out and wait until at least 8 weeks before I have a scan (unless anything happens). My EPU is very reluctant to scan before that anyway, and I think that for my own frame of mind, I would feel much more reassured by an 8- than a 6-week one, just because of my experiences. Now that the bleeding has stopped, I am hoping to be able to go back to my head-in-the-sand attitude. And, it's really only another 2 weeks (yeah, right ).

Back from scan and it's not great news. Can see a pregnancy sack but it's smaller than I should be and there was nothing in it. Either my dates are out or it's not viable. Got to go back next week to be rescanned to know for sure.

Only being scanned at 6 wks as part of Response trial but the trial is quite accurate on dates, so I'm not that confident this is going to work out.

Sorry your mum is unwell Minnie

Happy bday tanny!

What's the cough syrup thing, march?!

Oh girlie - so so sorry hun that it's not more reassuring news. Really hoping it could just be a slow starter. Love and hugs and we will all be here for you no matter what next week's scan brings. xxxxx

girlie So sorry it's not more reassuring news! But do remember that scans at this stage are woefully inaccurate! So everything is still possible, and it might be a very different picture next week xxx

Oh Girlie fingers crossed that your dates are out, but I know that is little comfort..

Minnie hope your Mum is ok. Come and chat to us when you need to.

Me it was me who mentioned cough syrup. The cough syrup helps thin out your cervical mucus and enable swimmers to get to you. I do suffer from (tmi alert!!) from dryness so I do really worry about this. You need to use the cough syrup for chesty coughs as it contains guaifenesin. I've used it on the last 3 occasions and it seems to have worked, but maybe it's just coincidence. I also use Preseed lube plus evening primrose oil from cd. 1 to ovulation so all the swimmers have the best chance...

Oh girlie, so sorry it's not better news. Fingers crossed is just a late implantation so it's a little further behind, but I understand your fear.

Yay for puking cloud fingers crossed its a good sign. I'd feel more positive with that. And all for head in the sand strategy. It's beyond our control in most circumstances.

Hope your mum is ok Minnie

Happy birthday Tanny having your boys all home sounds like a fan way to spend your birthday. Hope the cold sods off soon.

girlie hugs. Cloud is right about scans being really inaccurate early on, but we've all been through this enough times to understand how you're feeling. I hope next week's scan brings more positive news. X

Nothing new to report here. Still fluctuating between promising but exhausting nausea and no symptoms. Private scan tomorrow. Shitting myself is an understatement.

mrsd - fingers crossed for your scan tomorrow. How far along will you be then?

Completely understand the worry of fluctuating symptoms, but I do think is positive that you are getting symptoms, even if they come and go.

I'm supposedly 4+6 today but don't feel pg in slightest (except slightly burpy)! No sore boobs, which has always been a big sign for me. I'm going to do a digital on Friday - so will be a week from the last one which showed 1-2, to see if it has moved to 2-3. Am assuming it will show 1-2 again, same as happened last month and it's just the progesterone preventing the bleeding. It's wierd but I feel as though I have been in this situation so many times now, that I'm almost looking forward to Friday and the relief of knowing it's over, rather than the torture of not knowing.... Really angry for us all today that we have to suffer this again and again. x

girlie so sorry you didn't get to see something to give you more hope . Everything crossed for you.

Good news on the vomit cloud!

Brummie/Flen We're in a bit of a unique position in that both myself and DH have adopted siblings, but that actually makes our eyes scarily open to how hard it is, and how it's not what you'd chose if you have any desire to produce children of your own genes. I wonder if people think that because my parents did it, I will follow. But they had me and my biological brother first, it's an entirely different situation.

Oh no girlie that's hard. Hope it's just a slow start

Thanks brummie for syrup update. I use evening primrose oil and it does seem to be pretty effective!

Girlie, sorry to hear that that scan wasn't more reassuring.
Cloud, hope the vomiting is a sign of good symptoms to come.

Girlie big hugs. Will be handholding for the next 7 days.

Me2 sorry for the bfn.

Minnie sorry to hear about your Mum.

Happy birthday Tanny!

Everyone's at home here too. I've had this cold for 10 days now, and didn't sleep a wink last night for coughing. Think this also kept DSS awake as he refused to go to school today. Cold along with early pregnancy symptoms have been quite rotten, but I mustn't complain. I know it's early days, but must say I've never had increased appetite previous pregnancies. But I keep getting hungry in middle of the night, is that the progesterone?