NO Guilt necessary you lot!!!! We are all on here because of what we have lost, and what we are trying to gain, to help and support each other however we can. Pg ladies, without the success stories to keep me afloat I honestly would be in an even darker place. I for one love to hear how the bumps are progressing, and wait on edge for the scans..I think its safe to say we all want everyone on here to take home a baby.
We have very different journeys, with lots of common threads. I've had 5 losses but can only imagine how painful infertility is, especially infertility then mc. Its all horrible stuff which I am sorry any of us have ever been through.
Guilt is very female, it's true, and I do know what you all mean, those who have referred to it. Despite the fact that we should none of us feel guilty, I expect I mention DS on here too much, and I feel bad about that. I always say how grateful I am to have him as I don't anyone to think I take him for granted, and I am so aware that many of you would do anything to have one child, never mind even thinking about two. But now I think about it, maybe saying how grateful I am just makes me sound smug - which I totally don't! Its a bit of a minefield.
I'm sure those of you with bumps are automatically being sensitive in those awkward social situations. I wouldn't worry about it. I do think women who have had losses can pick up that there has been some kind of issue with someone else, so maybe they understand from your 'weird' responses (probably not weird at all) that it hasn't come easy.
Sorry not to name check all of you in tbat bit..
cloud I can see the conundrum...have you asked them about having an MRI in pg? Did your consultant think the fibroid was an issue, or is he just ticking boxes and checking it now they know its there? Of course booking the MRI for sometime or another may invoke the law of sod and you'l get upduffed...
So many conversations today..I struggle with positive thinking in pg because I can't bear the crash when it goes wrong. I prefer to think the worst from day 1 but maybe that's not helping. Thanks seeker and baking for info about the book. I think I'm leani g towards the SME thinking pattern as barking. I usually need to know Everything..look at each scan in detail, Google obsessively, strong need to understand the biology. But of late I feel utterly defeated by it all, and doubt we would have the money to look into the stuff you mention. Which would be heart breaking.
God sorry for the epic epic post..