Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread - Thread 17 - Tests, treatment and trying again

[Flower29]

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats

Ooh ??& mini eggs sound fab Brummie & no you don't sound unreasonable.

Sebs, glad to hear you have a plan in place for next week and perhaps try distracting yourself over the weekend in the meantime

Baking- that's completely rubbish & can't believe your local hospital doesn't have the notes electronic. My local does, another example of differences in care within the bugs.

Bettychops, how you're well on the mend & resting up.

Right lovely ladies, I've decided that as the balance of news on this thread has been a bit rubbish this week (but must not forget we did have good scans) I am asking the good luck fairy to revisit us for a while. She's clearly gone missing awol for some of us x

bugs- ffs that was nhs until predictive text changed it!

Can't believe we filled a thread in a fortnight! I've started a new one - see you on thread 18.....

mrs the first consultation was £230 I think and the follow up one slightly less. Blood tests add up though. I had a limited insurance pot of 1500 quid though and got everything I needed for under that But he fdidn't recommend karotyping which would have been £800 for us both I think.I think I could have cut it down by getting my gp to do some of the blood tests. He tested for insulin, various blood clotting disorders and thyroid. He was kind and quite reassuring but not prepared to prescribe anything on the off chance when my tests were clear. I also saw st Mary's docs on the nhs once my referral came through and had two scans and a repeat teg and tablet trial test plus yet another teg and more scans after bfp. I guess all that would have added up and the nhs referral came through quite quickly in the end so if I hadn't had insurance I would have waited for that but if you don't have an nhs referral yet then I think it is worth getting the basic tests done though I would see if gp would do insulin and thyroid to save cash.

brummie hugs. I have tried hard to be happy for pregnant friends in a fake it till you make it way as it just makes me feel worse otherwise but it isn't always easy. I found it worse when they moaned about pregnancy than if they were happy though and I am fully aware that having dd makes it easier to bear. You are right to look after yourself and I agree totally about the hidden grief though all grief can be a cold and lonrly place as people get very awkward around it. We are virtually holding your hand.

Thanks baking. Good riddance to this crappy thread and here's to lucky thread 18!

Aaah this is also the thing. Pregnant friend had IVF because she is single and she caught first time.

See you on thread 18!!!

brummie in my warped mind I would be thinking that at least she went through some effort and didn't just assume a man and baby was just going to fall into her lap. As if it makes any difference really but I feel the same about my gay friends having iui. I wanted it to work for them first time whereas I sm madly jealous of honeymoon pregancies.

Thread 18 is here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2313593-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-18-tests-treatment-trying-again

Yup, sadly not all friends have the 'appropriate response' chip - i am finding that out. Really what i want to say to them is "look, even if i have to beat my head against this wall until i smash a f great big hole in it, i'm going to do it, and it's your job to be my cheerleaders in this, ok?!!!! Like when you got your tatoo, and you left your job, and you married your crappy husband - just support me, OK?!!!!" Grrrrrr...