Recurrent miscarriage support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 8

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Welcome everyone, pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of company, information, moral support, tea or sympathy.

Can I suggest we start page 1 with a recap of where we are all up to, because my fuddled head can't keep track?

I had really oily hair when pregnant and also get it during af. Have to wash it every day. Sounds weird but my body hair also grew quicker - ie had to shave arm pits every day when norm can go for 2 or 3 days before needing to! Bodies are strange!

Feeling a bit miserable. Think in my first 2 ww since mc. Not entirely sure if ovulated but think from cm it looks likely. It's my WTF cycle tho so who knows. Babies are being born all around me and new pregnancies announced every week. Find it so tough as although excited and happy for these friends, I just want it to be me too :(

Thanks Squiz, Not and Fedup, I think I've been OVing this week; +ive OPK on Saturday, nympho behaviour (no EWCM, but maybe it's on it's way?!) but the hair thing has been weird. I normally wash it everyday anyway but on Saturday and yesterday it looked like it hadn't been washed for about 3 days within hours of me washing it. No spots (yet), though. I did do another pg test on Saturday, too, just to see if there was weirdness going on, but BFN as expected. So, the 2ww begins, I guess.
Waves to all, hang in there.

Just got a BFN. So, either late implantation bleeding or one of my rogue short cycles (which do occur time to time). So relieved it's not a chemical loss.

If AF doesn't arrive by Weds (day 26 my usual) i'll poas again to be sure.

Just good luck with the 2ww! Batiste dry shampoo is good to have to hand on greasy hair days.

fed up sorry to hear you're down. Hoping your wtf cycle has sorted your body and you're ready to ttc asap! Know what you mean about friends with babies - feeling happy for them and deeply sad in the same moment.

Here's hoping we all get our take home baby in 2014. because I'm doing dryathlon regardless of POAS status! :)

Squiz I'm doing the dryathlon too - should keep the raised eyebrows at bay for a month and won't do me any harm :)

Remember, it takes about 2 days for the hcg to get into your pee. Keep the faith.

Sounds a bit more straightforward squiz - I know that feeling of not wanting to see any blood until AF is due! I just want a normal cycle this month - don't think that's too much to ask! Don't want to see AF until Thursday at the earliest. fed up I totally agree - sometimes it's so hard to feel happy for others. I got out of going to a friends' reunion yesterday as it was all about new babies being introduced and my bf was going to announce her second pregnancy - just couldn't handle it. Sometimes I feel bad about it but you have to remember that if the tables were turned it would be the same for them so everything you feel is totally understandable. And it will be our turn one day. There's plenty of happy stories from other women who've been through all this crap to prove that.

dryathlon?? What's this?

back from gp who is dating this pregnancy from first day of lmp despite telling him I know for an absolute fact I ovulated 8 days later than expected. Sigh. hopefully the hospital will be more open to the fact that I have a fairly good idea whats going on with myself.
On a positive note he will continue to perscribe the metformin until the hospital tells him not too .
Even though I have had a positive test I am even more allergic to pregnant people.

Ah. Think it's AF 2 days early. Still 10 days after OV (day 25) and I've got pregnant off shorter cycles but I think I need to stick to the B vits, omega and pregnacare conception to keep it over 23!

Ah well, back to the POAS for OV next month!

Squiz next month fx.
Nearly the dryathlon is a cancer research fundraising thing to not drink during January. Don't fret about GPs, mine freely admits I know more about this than her now. So far so good.

When do you guys go gp?? Dp says im putting it off but i dont want to jinx things. I was thinkong of waiting till aa 3+ weeks appears on a conception thing then going. I am too scared to go this early as i dont want all the congrats stuff and notes given to me when it could fuck up!

Downstairs, it depends if I you need something from your GP, such as cyclogest or something. If you don't need a prescription and you'd rather wait, go for it. It depends a lot on whether you get on with your GP or not (mine is very supportive, but this is not always the experience that everyone has). Did you go to an RMC? Maybe call them? GPs can also be useful if you want to get an early scan (although there are walk in clinics you might be able to access yourself).
Please try not to think about jinxing things. Telling your GP makes as little difference to the outcome, anymore than reading week 7 in the pregnancy development book (that's the superstitious thing I never do!).

I go to the doc immediately. It means that if anything goes wrong, it is a matter of medical record which helped enormously with testing and getting referred to St Mary's.

And now I need heparin, I'll go immediately because the sooner I get the meds the better.

Mental moment of the day I have a definitive 'no' on a first response and am on my AF. I have AF pain more in one side than the other. Thanks to the ongoing "do-you-have-an-ectopic-almost-on-the-gurney-oh-no-it's-a-partial-mole" mess up by jnr docs last year, I am panicking about ectopics. Knowing I'm not pregnant and this is AF. Which hurts on the side I have a fibroid.

Squiz

Cheers.

Shh... only you guys and my OH know how crrraazy I am! ;)

Thanks guys. Nyd tomo so ill try get an appointment on thursday. They are quite supportive just i am just a nervous wreck!!

for squiz

Happy New Years everyone. 2014 better be a better year for us all. The Bloomer holiday is drawing to a close, heading back to the UK tonight. It's been good to be with my family: they are insane and a great distraction; have barely had time to acknowledge my mid-dec due date. On 2ww now... Here's hoping. Will read through all that I missed on this thread when I'm home so I can name check congratulations and commiserations!

I hate NYE. I hate 2013. I hate not being pregnant or having had a baby.

2013 can piss up a rope.

Onwards and upwards. Let's face it, it can only get better, can't it?

Sorry, I can't get wasted on prosecco and coke like the old days, and am feeling like an ancient grumpy bear...

Thanks for being here...

Oh tanny. I'm here. And wasted I am tho. Fucking hate 2103. Bring on 2013 and healthy pregnancies for us all. I can feel my body screaming out to be pregnant so why won't it sort its life out?!?!

Wishing everyone a better 2014!!!!!

Tanny and fed up hope your new year wish is granted asap!

late fingers crossed.

I am feeling better thanks for bearing with my madness. Had a moderate NYE (4 halves of Aspells cider over 5 hours) as didnt want to have a meltdown plan worked, bar putting DH to bed and having to eat donner kebab more sober than anyone should haha!

Happy and (re)productive new year to everyone. Had a reasonably well behaved party last night; sure whatever I do will be the wrong thing so I thought, just have a good time and live your life until something happens/changes. Hope this year will be the year for us all.

Happy new year everyone. Here's to a fresh start. I am saying goodbye to all the heartache of 2013.

Oh help! I've posted on the ttc after mc thread too. I need talking down.

I've just had a bath and noticed that my nipples are darker than they were and I can squeeze out some milk drops too (sorry TMI).

My last mc started 4 weeks ago today and I thought I would be about to start af.

We have had unprotected sex, but not when I thought I was ovulating.

Please talk me down!

hi tanny im useless at advice but just wanted to see if you are ok? Have you had a negative test since your mc? hopefully better advice soon but in the meantime .

tanny I've had that after a miscarriage. I think my hormones went crazy. Was going to ask the same about whether you've had a negative test since your miscarriage. If you didn't test, you could go to your local EPU for a scan to see what's going on. I did that at the time. Mine were all MMC and I had ERPC for all - it did take 6 weeks to get AF so I don't think it's unusual not to get an AF after 4 weeks. Hope you are ok

Nearly and Not thanks. I'm feeling a bit less freaked now. I've had negative tests for 3 weeks and they're still neg at the moment.

I have to just think that it's something residual until I know different. DH thought they looked darker too, so we'll see.

In the meantime, I've started on progesterone just in case and will keep poas until af turns up.

Sorry for the wobble. I'll obviously let you know what happens...

Wishing everyone a better 2014 - onwards and upwards, surely it can't be as bad as the last year. Here's hoping...

I hate how NYE makes you reflect so much on what has happened, as if I hadn't done that all through the year anyway... And then seeing all the happy Facebook comments about how people are looking forward to meeting their new baby etc. Can you guess I was in a foul mood yesterday? Went to bed at 11pm, didn't even look out of the window when the fireworks started at midnight (DH already asleep). We both had a shitty year for different reasons, so in no mood to celebrate.

No resolutions for me, other than to continue what I had already been doing - trying to keep fit, keep my head above water at work and have a healthy, uneventful pregnancy. Too much to ask for?