Late miscarriage

[xPhoebex]

Hi everyone,
I am in hospital atm, and have been told I am having a late miscarriage at 19 weeks. I'm just a bit confused as to what to do once I'm induced.
I'm not sure if I want to hold my baby afterwoods, and like the hospital have said they could maybe do me foot/hand prints instead...but I'm even scared of seeing them incase they are really tiny....I'm just wondering what people's experiences are?

I'm assuming you need to stay in hospital for a while longer, so why don't you have a rest and when you feel up to it later ask the midwife to bring him back in for a cuddle?
Take it easy... x

That's a good idea, I'll ask x

Phoebe, it will all be a blur but at the same time there will be moments you never, ever forget.

That's true, thank you x

Ask about the hand prints if you want them to do that too. They had a special cot in the hospital with my friend which meant she could spend the night with her and cuddle her.

Ask any questions you need to too. Have you managed to get in contact with your DP yet?

Yeah, and he split with me

I had another cuddle with him, and he's gone now. Hopefully I'll get to go home tomorrow, just wanna get out of here now

I haven't got handprints as his hands were to small x

WTF he split with you while you were going through this?

Yeah, cos I'm selfish for expecting him to support me and lean on him for comfort....

Well, I think it's best if he's gone. He is obviously a good for nothing. What a tosser!

Wishing you all the best for he future, xPhoebex.So sorry, you have had to experience this. I sure you can find the way forward with out that tosser, and will someday carry a baby to term. You deserve to. I think you are utterly brilliant.

It's just...like...not what I need right now. I suffer from depression anyways, so....yeah...this is tough!
I don't feel utterly brilliant right now, but thank you :) x

It's not surprising. Anyone who could put you through this while you are going through something so devastating is a cunt. And I never use that word.

big hugs for you Phoebe, I'm so happy you had another cuddle with your precious boy!
and with regards to your xDP I ditto what the others have said, you deserve so much better!

There are some fantastic threads on here to support you through the next few days, months and years... x

Haha, yeah, I agree that's what he is

I don't even know how to get through the next few days, months and years tbh...my life is just a complete and utter mess, just feel so low :( Sorry....I'm being all down and depressive x

Thinks will feel bleak at the moment. Give yourself a chance to heal. Take each day as it comes. It will get easier, even it doesn't feel like it at the moment

Hi phoebe..glad you had a chance to cuddle your angel. I didn't had the chance and I always regretted it. Have a proper funeral,like someone else said, it's free for babies and you will have a special place to visit him. I used to do that every day, now I do once a week. Like I told you before the pain will never go away but you will learn to cope. I miss my angel every day and it has been 5 years, just think that he is now in Heaven with all the other angels looking out for you.

Thinking of you. Good riddance to the tosser. You don't need nasty negative people in your life. And certainly not when alloying need support. You amaze me. You are so strong and so brave. I hope the memories of your son comfort you. You are low now but time helps and your strong personality will help xx

He split with you? Oh dear God, the man is a worthless tosser. Phoebe, I know exactly how much you are hurting right now. When I lost my dd, I thought my life wasn't worth living. But although you will never actually "get over" it, it will get easier It's eight months since my little girl died and although I still think about her all the time, I now do look forward to things in a way that I couldn't in the first couple of months.
Keep posting here, we are here to listen.

Gosh, you are having adreadful time - so sorry. But do you know what - that ex of yours is lower than you will ever feel. Unbelievable.

You have felt the pain but little of the joy of being a Mum. Lowest of the low - but you will feel physically better and find strength and find hope.

Some of it you will find on here, some from friend but most will come from you. You have strength you haven't even found yet.

Also, you sound really lvoely, wish we lived nearer Cardif and could visit you.

I'm back and just read the thread.
I am shocked at your DP. What a !!!

I am sorry about your little boy. Did you give him a name?

Yeah, I named him Luka :)

What a lovely name. I bet he was perfect. x

Like chip says in time it does get easier. It's been 8 months since we lost Jacob and while I still think of him everyday and always will the pain isn't so raw.

You have to take one day at a time. I don't know what to say about your dp, he doesn't deserve you

Luka is a lovely name xx

Love the name!

a lovely name for a precious little boy! x