How are you feeling after MC?

[freelancegirl]

Hello everyone,

I though I would start a new thread for all of us who have been through a mc recently or not so recently and want to carry on swapping stories, bitching about crap feelings, celebrating any good feelings etc etc.

I will kick off, but I hope some of you will join me.

Bleeding has more or less stopped so am still worried about that 'last 2cm of product' the scan revealed still needed to emerge. Docs have given me antibiotics to ward off infection and am due back for another scan around 12th April.

Today I woke up feeling like shit! Emotionally I am still getting better but I feel so tired at times. I woke up feeling exhausted today, but there are other times during the day when I will be walking around fine and then suddenly feel totally knackered. No idea why. Hormones shifting? It's almost the same tiredness as had when pg. Sometimes I feel a bit sick too and am having the odd dizzy spell. I don't think there's any infection but like I said am already on antibiotics.

I am also really annoyed about my weight. I haven't weighed myself since the mc as don't have any scales at home but I go away at weekend so I can weigh myself tomorrow. But I know I had put on about 5lbs in the first trimester and my small jeans are still not fitting me. I was a bit of a gym bunny before getting pg (which coincided with xmas so I was eating more/exercising less anyway and had put on 3lbs, which I wasn't then bothered about as I knew I could shift it after xmas - not expecting to be a) pg and b) have an mc). Now I feel bloated and miserable about my weight because am guessing am around 8lbs heavier than my best. I realise there are other priorities but now there's no baby I would like to have my size and my energy back!

As regards moving forward and possibly ttc again, I have bought two cheap pg tests and when I am brave enough am going to see if I get a BFN. I feel that would be a step in the right direction to start with.

Hope all are well and feeling positive. Feel free to join in xxx

Diamonds I know, 3 flipping weeks! Was coming to the conclusion that it would last forever! I haven't had a period yet as I only m/c last month. The bleeding stopped last Thursday so I imagine it will be in 4 weeks or so. I can't even imagine having an AF now but hope it feels like a relief and maybe we will try again immediately. Sorry that you're anaemic too - it doesn't help with the tiredness does it?. The liquid stuff is good and doesn't leave you quite so constipated.

It is a very lonely experience. I feel the same as you, very, very grateful to mumsnet . I didn't even find the internet in general very helpful, there seems very little info out there.

Hi Freelancegirl- totally relate with the wacked out feeling. Might be related to the drink too:-). My course of antibiotics finishes on Friday- can't come soon enough. I have the green map like veins still running all over my boobs. The scales didn't really reflect my pregnancy to start with purely as I had lost some weight due to loss of appetite. I went from 7 stone 10lbs to 7 stone 3lbs. I am only 5 feet tall, and not big boned. But body still feels like jelly. Am not going to return to regular fitness regime until after first period as feel too weak.

Reallyuseful: crossed posts! T'internet offers very conflicting opinions, and too much false hope (if you go looking for it!which is a weakness of mine). According to the Internet lots of people had bleeding and were fine, almost fifty Per cent, it seemed. Later realised it was my fault for clutching at straws! The Internet will tell you what you want to hear: as you are the one searching for it! Really sorry for everything we're all going through. X

Hi Freelance, I missed your message. I was taking pre-pg supplements too but bought the liquid stuff as I felt so weak. It says you can take 2 spoons normally but 3 spoons with blood loss such as AF. So I took about 4-5 spoons a day. Not sure if you're supposed to but I am feeling less anaemic now.

I got:

www.vitabiotics.com/feroglobin/feroglobinliquid_proinfo.aspx

Do you think your antibiotics are heavyweight ones? They probably are. Glad you've nearly finished your course Freelance

Am so annoyed with the weight gain. Just don't want that physical reminder of pregnancy. .

Ahh, little Diamonds. Cute :) It's so odd all these symptoms isn't it. Funny you should mention the veins, I noticed at the gym the other day my ankle veins seemed rather protruding when I was working out! I think it must be as we were producing extra blood for the baby. That's my totally unfounded, non medical opinion anyway... Lucky you didn't put on weight. I am being a bit churlish about it really as am still a comfortable size 10, just like being half a stone lighter. Hopefully it will come off soon.

And yes, the tiredness might be the hangovers :o

You are right Really it is a lonely experience. It was a lonely experience being pg too and I was really looking forward to telling everyone after that 12 week scan so I could start being my usual open self again. Never mind, we have each other to spill all the gory details to...

Anyone else getting weird pains in the sides, like in the ovary area? Almost like ovulation but stronger. I had that a lot when pg too. Strange.

Reallyuseful: I think the antibiotics wouldnt be too bad on their own. It's the fact that I do indulge in a bit of intoxicating liquids, when I really shouldn't! I'm taking pregnacare plus omega.
Freelance: it's not cute being tiny... It's annoying! Whoever invented the uggs should be shot... Don't do somebody of compromised height any favours! The things we do for fashion! I had that pain too. Still have it from time to time. Was told it was uterus expanding to accommodate baby before; contracting back to normal size now. When I said pain was in the sides: the explanation was it was probably either the ligaments stretching or the ovaries working hard to support the pregnancy, now shrinking back to original size. I'm amazed at reaching this far and not knowing how my body worked! It's a minor miracle: would have been moreso if it had done it's job properly. Oh well- better luck next time FX

More crossed posts!

Diamonds I am not much taller than you and I agree about Uggs! And the internet, absolutely true, I was reading pre m/c for hours and then stopping once I had found the one other person in the world who said what I wanted to hear!

Nice to have you to spill all the gory details too .

Freelance I had the weird pains in the side too, I had them with my DC too and yeah, weird but normal. Did you mention you get ovulation pains? Wow! What do they feel like? I have never had them.

hi ladies, may I introduce myself, have lurked around here for the last couple of months so feel it's only right and proper. I've just had my third mmc in 14 months. My first was last January i found out at 8 weeks, my second was in November again i found out at 8 weeks, and this one was at 12+4 I can be much more exact about this one as I found out at my 12 week scan. Was admitted to hospital for surgical management, although i had to literally beg for this, as they would much much rather I had had a medical, but the prospect of this terrified me. Have had a rough ride in hospital as surgery was delayed due to an emergency in theatre, so had to wait from 1pm till 10.45 pm after being given the pessary to dilate my cervix, so ended up with morphine which I have to say is magic! Any way...ho hum, home now and on the mend, and would you believe contemplating trying again???. Any way you all sound lovely, which is what's given me the courage to dip my toe in the "Mumsnet Talk" water....so Hi..and little wave from over here on the settee

OOh a lot of cross posting going on! Actually I have never had a pair of uggs but they look v comfy. I have a v worn in pair of biker boots that do a similar job (not in a biker way - you know what I mean - I think they were from topshop :) ) .

Glad we can all relate to those pains in the side, it's amazing what the docs DONT tell you and we have to work out from places like this. And Dr Google...

I THINK I get ovulating pains but I would never really be sure. I will be paying much more attention to things like that in the future though... Slight feeling in the ovary around ovulation time? Kinda like am getting at the moment. But with pg and mc every single feeling is new isn't it?

I might try some extra iron and see how I feel. I don't eat meat so maybe that's something too. I just had a 20 min nap after dinner! But, ahem, now I am going out to the pub to meet a couple of friends.

Freelance Have a lovely night, you deserve it and it's good you are getting out. I have just opened a bottle of wine, so will join you. I banned myself from Uggs this year because they are divinely comfy but if you're small you look like at least 5 inches smaller!

Big Oh you poor, poor thing. Welcome, am thinking of you and I am so sorry for your losses. That sounds pretty harsh and I hope you are getting looked after on that sofa. I had morphine too after my surgery for the laparoscopy (they thought it was ectopic) as I was kept in overnight. Amazing stuff. I actually had it a few years ago after surgery for something entirely unrelated and I swear I am slightly addicted to it! When did you have your surgery? Lovely to hear you are contemplating trying again - you sound very strong and I hope you get all the support you need in the meantime xxxx

Hello everyone, welcome Reallyuseful.

I'm feeling a bit of a fraud reading all your posts. I seem to have got off lightly (famous last words....!) wrt bleeding, passing unsettling stuff (had ERPC), tiredness, veins, pains and the like. SO FAR, anyway.
Sorry to hear you are having to go through these things. It's sad enough to lose a pregnancy without having the other symptoms as well. It sucks.

I'm another shortarse lady of petite stature (five feet and half an inch) so I sympathise about clothes. Trousers and jeans in particular - although I sussed out that buying 3/4 length trousers is a good way of getting them to fit in terms of leg length.

I've also put on pregnancy weight - hard not to when you're so ravenous during T1 and just feel plain wrong if you don't keep eating. It's crap to have nothing to show for it though.
I don't weigh myself - haven't in decades, but I can tell that my usual pear-shape is significantly more rounded than pre-pg and putting on certain clothes at the moment involves some serious clenching of the buttocks.

I wasn't given antibiotics - don't know if that's a Spanish thing or an ERPC thing. I was just told to take my temperature morning and night and go to the docs if it started to rise noticeably. Thankfully, it hasn't.

And thanks for reminding me about the supplements
Floradix is a pleasant and usually non-constipating liquid iron and vit supplement - recommended.

strong or mental...or in denial maybe Really (sorry will work out the bold thing). I probably need to contemplate trying again, as I can't think what else to do..If i'm not trying for a baby, what am I doing???? Is that a bit deep. I wonder also whether its about not letting this thing beat you? It's been a shitty year though I have to say. Sorry to read all your stories, although there's something about safety in numbers isn't there? xxxx
oooh and do you know what, you're right about the morphine, I found myself hinting to the nurses that i might need a bit more, when there was actually bugger all wrong with me!!!!!!

Hi big - poor you, third time unlucky, especially so late this latest one
I'm very impressed you're getting ready to have another go, it must be especially difficult to keep picking yourself up after multiple mcs. Good for you, though.

freelance enjoy your night out! I reckon comforting ourselves with a few vices is perfectly acceptable, as long as we don't let it get out of hand.

wow loads of messages. I can't keep up. I'm going to the GP tomorrow to get my second blood test results but pretty sure they're going to be negative. The horrible thing is that my nipples keep tingling, like my body is playing games with me.

Will get kids sorted then come back on for a proper read.

early days though, might change my mind, and decide to give myself a breather. Knocking on though (39) can't really hang about too long. Not got my drinking arm back yet, although I can feel it limbering up, could do with a large bottle of something fizzy, but think it might unleash the water works.

Immaculada Thank you for the welcome. I think this is just awful regardless of what you go through. I have just opened your blog and it looks lovely, but the first few paragraphs really hit an chord - such a brave move to write about it, I look forward to reading it in full.

Big You can't get too deep here, don't worry! I agree, surely so much bad luck means something great is around the corner? Also, on my 2nd glass - waterworks here we come!

crazy It is a bit overwhelming when threads move fast but I (and I am sure everyone else) is happy to give an update if you feel a bit lost - we won't leave you behind!

Big waves at everyone else

Welcome bigflipflop.you really have been through quite a rough time, so sorry. Hope your luck starts to improve now. Hi everyone else. Hope the drinkers are drinking properly. We shouldn't do things in halves anymore, cos we don't need to! With any luck we'll all soon be updiffed and teetotal ( without the caffeine laden tea even!). Can you tell I'm in the middle of a "good" drinking session? I've learned that if I eat a carb laden meal/sandwich and immediately take my antibiotics then all dizziness/nausea remain at bay. Handy tip. Still shouldn't drink, but am past caring now that the alluring reward of a baby has gone. Very very sorry sad drinking session. Keep bawling my eyes out every few minutes. I reckon the hormones are probably catching up with me now. Wishing I could just wake up and find that this has been one terrible nightmare. No such luck. Sorry off being so maudlin guys- but who else is gonna share my pain ...

Welcome bigflip you are most welcome here and there are so many lovely ladies who can emphasise with what you are going through. I can't believe you have had this 3 times in such a short period. I can only imagine, from what I feel now after a 12 week mmc, that your body and hormones are totally wracked with ups and downs.I think I have actually had 3 mcs but the first two were when I was 19 and 20 and I would have rather they did happen. I am so pleased to see that half of you still has a sense of humour and I love the idea of enjoying the morphine if it's there and you are in that position :)

I got by on codeine this time but have since been drowning my sorrows in bucket loads of wine at least three nights a week and loving it! Tonight had 4 small glasses of wine and smoked 2 rollies! I figure I will get healthy again when/if/whenever I start to ttc again and I bloody well need the blow out. Crazy, Really, Tiny Dancer Diamonds and fellow shortarse Inmaculada* hello up here from the dizzy heights of 5ft 5 :)

I wish we could all go out for a drink and have a proper catch up/cheer up. But for now this definitely suffices. Am off for a post-pub cuppa xx

Good morning!

How are the heads? Nice that we all drowned our sorrows, all we need now is some morphine!

We should do stats - but just record our heights!

Happy hangovers, folks!

Aw, Diamonds

Freelancegirl: so pleased that you are at least dusting off the cobwebs! I'm the same at the mo: drinking for england! Havent been getting drunk blind, but definitely making up for lost time.
5'5" is a lovely size. Everything fits just right. Proportionally- if I could choose, then that's the height I would love to be! My best friend and sils are all around that frame, I am the only midget of the group!
It would be nice to have a proper catchup- but like you say: this does the job beautifully. Also if we knew each other in RL - that comes with it's own dilemmas: would we then go searching for another anonymous online forum because we couldn't confide in RL friends?!

Crossed posts girlies. Will check your blog out Immaculada! Thanks for the hugs. They are much needed at the mo. Feel empty inside. Oh well, onwards and upwards... Must keep focussed. Running errands for elderly neighbours today. Back to work tomorrow. Will dip in from time to time during the day. G'day y'all!

Morning all!!

Did a pg test this morning - just to make sure it is a bfn - as I'm not sure I did the last one correct (I've not yet managed the art of getting it just on the tip of the stick!!!) anyway it went from having a 'faint' 'off-centre' line in the pg window but after a couple of minutes it went to a bfn! Never seen that before (when I've had bfn in the past). I know it says to wait for 3 minutes and my result was a bfn after that time - but I wonder if I still have small hcg levels for a line to be there intially! It's 3 weeks since my ERPC.

Anyway I'm totally with you all on the drinking front. Wasn't a big drinker before I fell pg - but since my mmc It's all I want to do - and loving it!!! It's as if I'm rebelling against something - or that I'm wanting to cram it all in in case I get another bfp and have to give it up! Which of course I will be pleased to do.

It's hard when you did all that for 12 weeks without any reward at the end (a healthy baby scan) and we have to go through it all again - those first few weeks are the longest!!

Anyway hope all the heads are ok! Drinking on a school night is hard core!!

That would be really useful reallyuseful Seriously though, I am trying to keep up, but as soon as information goes in, it flies out again.

I am not a big drinker, I get hungover so badly, but when I do get a taste of alcohol I realise how much I've missed it and indulge far too much.

Creamcracker-That's strange. Maybe you do have some low levels left. Maybe do another in a few days?

Diamonds-How you feeling today? Sorry you had a rough evening. I have online friends on here from my antenatel thread fro dd aged 3 that have turned into RL friends and I still ocnfide in them first before RL friends. I think I was really lucky getting such a fab set of ladies :) Plus since being at college I seem to have had my friends dwindled. I haven't had a good girly night out for such a long time, or even a girly get together. I would love to arrange one but so need to get my assignments done first and that will probably be at the end of May.

Been to GP today, my levels dropped from 35 to 6 in 3 days so doc said definately not pregnant,, and go back in 3/4 weeks for another test. That's it. Oh and he said it was 'good' news Okaaaaay then.

Cream Good morning! I don't know what is going on with your bfn. It sounds like it is (hopefully) negative but the test was a bit funny. Sigh. Do you think you'll have to do another one?

Glad to hear you were joining us in drowning our sorrows!