How are you feeling after MC?

[freelancegirl]

Hello everyone,

I though I would start a new thread for all of us who have been through a mc recently or not so recently and want to carry on swapping stories, bitching about crap feelings, celebrating any good feelings etc etc.

I will kick off, but I hope some of you will join me.

Bleeding has more or less stopped so am still worried about that 'last 2cm of product' the scan revealed still needed to emerge. Docs have given me antibiotics to ward off infection and am due back for another scan around 12th April.

Today I woke up feeling like shit! Emotionally I am still getting better but I feel so tired at times. I woke up feeling exhausted today, but there are other times during the day when I will be walking around fine and then suddenly feel totally knackered. No idea why. Hormones shifting? It's almost the same tiredness as had when pg. Sometimes I feel a bit sick too and am having the odd dizzy spell. I don't think there's any infection but like I said am already on antibiotics.

I am also really annoyed about my weight. I haven't weighed myself since the mc as don't have any scales at home but I go away at weekend so I can weigh myself tomorrow. But I know I had put on about 5lbs in the first trimester and my small jeans are still not fitting me. I was a bit of a gym bunny before getting pg (which coincided with xmas so I was eating more/exercising less anyway and had put on 3lbs, which I wasn't then bothered about as I knew I could shift it after xmas - not expecting to be a) pg and b) have an mc). Now I feel bloated and miserable about my weight because am guessing am around 8lbs heavier than my best. I realise there are other priorities but now there's no baby I would like to have my size and my energy back!

As regards moving forward and possibly ttc again, I have bought two cheap pg tests and when I am brave enough am going to see if I get a BFN. I feel that would be a step in the right direction to start with.

Hope all are well and feeling positive. Feel free to join in xxx

Oh pixie, you poor love. It's so hard because whatever anyone says or does won't be right as our bloody hormones just take over. It feels so painful & raw right now but I promise it does get easier with time. I'm a couple of months down the line now & situations I found really hard at the beginning are getting slightly easier now e.g. being around pg friends etc. Don't be hard on yourself, if you need to cry then cry, if you need to rant then rant. It's all part of dealing with it. Sending you a big MN hug from us all Xx

Aw, pixie
Your time will come. I know it. (Sorry if that sounds a bit Fame...!)

Welcome pudding, so sorry you're having to endure this too.

Not much to report here. Except my ovaries were clacking madly a couple of days ago, so I assume I was ovulating. I suppose I should brave the conception threads, but I don't know where to start - any recommendations??!

Hi IC I keep taking a sneaky peek at the conception thread, but yet to actually join in. Freelance suggested the 'Just MC and ready to try again? pack your cake, wine and tightie whities......' thread.

Dearest all

Am so sorry not to namecheck everyone, but send lots of hugs to you all. As always I enjoyed catching up on the news and I send hurrays for clear scans, new computers, clacking ovaries (like castanets?) and glasses of wine after an erpc and boo's for tricky weekends in France and grumpy bosses.

This is about to become a me, me, me post.

Erm, AF hasn't turned up after a week of appalling pmt like symptoms. So I did a hpt this morning and it was positive. It was an internet cheapie so bought another one from Superdrug and it came out positive too. A faint bfp, but definately there. I was testing negative a few weeks ago after the m/c. We didn't use anything this month. Am feeling totally freaked out. Advice please. Am obviously aware that this could have an amazing outcome but on the other hand am very aware that it might not.

thnx to everyone - just wanted to let you knoz that im feeling MUCH better todqy x x x

Pixie x

• apologies for weird spellings i am on a french keyboqrd qnd some letters are in different plqces & i forget so,eti,es::::

big squishy (as its very zqrm - warm here x )n chocolate hugs to everyone x

ps- is it possible I could be ovulating so close to the d&c - op was on 12th april & i stopped bleeding 4 days ago? (it could explain the hormones ! ! !) x merci a tout le monde x

Really I think that sounds like big congratulations to me - fantastic news - cant believe there can be any other explanation. A line is a line - and if you had a bfn before then there really can not be another answer.....sooo exciting.
Lets hope for some more bfps from this thread soon to cheer ourselves up.
I am just starting my 2ww after ov'ing this week so fc'd. x

pps - like mopey says REALLY - a line IS a line - x x x x x x

that reqlly has put a smile on my face x
pixie

ppps - are you happy?

Thank you so much mopey and pixie. I am stunned more than anything and don't really know what to do. My first thought was actually 'But I haven't been on the period podium yet' .

Am feeling a bit terrified as I know I probably ought to start thinking of booking appts etc but the thought of going back to the doctors makes me feel sick. As well as the m/c I had an ectopic too, so I have to have early scans. Absolutely convinced of bad news. And it keeps entering my mind that a hpt might be negative in a few days. It all seems a bit odd. The last time we were naughty was 3 weeks ago and it's only showing up now, so I'm not sure if its a sticky one or not.

But it is a bit lovely and I know that I should probably be feeling incredibly lucky and fortunate. Has anyone got their brain in gear? I certainly don't. What do you think I should do? Can I still stay here with you girls? I don't feel I want to be anywhere else right now xxxxx

REALLY - you dont have to DO anything yet... try to relax (easier said than done i nkow) - there is no rush (is there?).
take your time - remember to keep breathing - slowly x
i imagine its hard zith the history you*ve got, but everythime is different x
HUGE hugs your way - & like ive said many times - be kind to yourself x you soooooo deserve it x (good stuff i mean x)
x
pixie

ps - as far as im concerned you can sttay here - im more thqn happy to keep supporting you x

ppps - dont knoz if i mentioned t hat im soooo very happy for you too x

Pixie You are lovely xxxxx

thinking your waterloo meet up might be a more sober affair than you were thinking! Hope everyone will be toasting to you .....sorry not to make it but ds's cricket that evening and London a bit of a trek for me now - will be raising a glass to you though x

I bagsy REALLYs glassesssss of wine on Thurs x hehehehehahaha

how do i get/make those faces, winks, smiles, glasses of wine etcccc on here - being thick again.

michy - how r u?

diamond - is it your dad whos been poorly - hope things getting better?

HUGS to everyone else -
apologies not to name you all - in my defense - ive got lots of (mad) french qround me speqking loudly in french - my brqin is most definatly spinning

pixie x

Ooh, how exciting Really - congrats!!!
LOL at "But I haven't been on the period podium yet"...!
I imagine we'll all want updates of your progress, but I can only speak for myself. One thing about someone getting pg again so easily after a mc is that it's heartening news for the rest of us ttc. (Well, it is for me!)

Glad you're feeling a bit perkier, pixie
I've had that French keyboard experience too. You get used to compensating for it, then you get back on a QWERTY your typing goes all over the place again.

Bon soir tous le monde! x

Really You have made me giggle it was 2 days ago when u told me not to worry about being naughty as u were sure u wernt pregnant lol :) I am very happy for you and have my fingers crossed all will be ok for you. Please stay here with us as ic said it gives us all hope.

pixie believe it or not it is possible i went for my scan thursday after i had stopped bleeding for just a week. The lady said that she though i may have already ovulated or about to ovulate. She said that your body does unusual things after a miscarriage so u may be right.

IC I am worried about starting to try again but i know its what i want. To get me started i googled succesful pregnancies after miscarriage. Reading some of the stories made me confident about it. Then if you research conception there are loads of theories you can look at and what other people did to help them. Have fun but once you start looking you can't stop i think i may be addicted.

Big waves to everbody

Not much to tell you over here. So glad i know there is nothing left although everone i read about seemed to have antibiotics to make sure they did not get an infection but i didnt so worrying i could have one? anyone else not have antibiotics? I was feeling ok today but had a call from my friends husband to let me know she had passed away. I had worked with her up untill she went on maternity leave and i visited her and her little sweethear just a few weeks ago. So now i am back feeling emotional and having a little cry xx

Aw, pnj I'm sorry to hear about your friend

I didn't have antibiotics, by the way. And all is well. x

Oh you're all lovely. Thank you IC

Pixie Your bonkers keyboard is making me laugh alot. It does actually seem to give you a French accent.

pnj I remembered that, I feel so sheepish! I am a big eedjit. I won't be getting a job at the family planning clinic anytime soon .

And I am so sorry to hear about your friend, that is awful.

i didn't hqve anti biotics & everything was fine...

& if i qm ovulqting thqt wld expain the bqck pqin, hormones & chocolate crqvging (qlong zith other crqvings:::::)

i really q, sorry for keyboqrd thing - on 2nd glass of zine this eve zhich zqs follozed by chq,pqgne qt lunchti,e - so i,m bit merry.

ill try to explain - the a & q r in different place as r the qzxm & other stuff.
i touch type so this makes life very interesting - especiaally once sozzled §§§§!!oooops x

PIXIE x

ps - (thnx cream for yur lovely message earlier? i missed it before x )

qoodqight everqone.

Tomoqrow we shoulq all tqpe like Qixie .

Oh, and I would love some zine!

really yep i agree dont be applying for any jobs there :) so nice to here tho. And thanks pixie and IC I think i was just concerned because when i went for first scan there was 2cm left and altough it was clear when i went on thursday i had to wait for 3 weeks so i worried that in that time i could have gotten an infection xx

pnjeff-
qs i understand - icecreqm & lots of it help along zith copuious q,ou,ts - a m o u nt s (sorry) of zine - & if you need to cry, then cry - lots - (it helps me) x

i really am zorry to hear about your friend x hugs sent your w a y x

pixie

ok - thqts it - im of to bed - bon nuit le tout x

Really how exciting!! Congratulations. I appreciate it must be a scary time for you but just believe in your body to do what it's meant to do, you've done your bit (being naughty with DH/DP) now it's all down to nature. Please stay on this thread as you can be our guiding light. As for the AF podium - that's so last season - you my dear go straight to the pg one. Although a mooncup trophy may have to be replaced by a gold prg test, a gold sperm, a gold.....? Suggestions welcomed.

pnjeff sorry to hear about your friend, how sad x

pixie you zertainly zeem a lot brighter todzy - and a little zozzled! To make symbols scroll down the page and it will show you how.

Hi to IC and mopey and free who's rather quiet at the moment. And hello to everyone else x

A gold sperm! That made me laugh alot!

Thank you cream.

Hello to everyone, how is your dad Diamonds?

And where is free?