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Did menopause make you go off men

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whatisforteamum · 27/05/2021 18:12

Recently I've noticed my colleagues and dh are getting on my nerves.They are all men,everything thing they do seems so childish. Weirdly I've always worked with men no issues .
Tbh the misogyny is rife where I work I just wondered if anyone else has been through similar in the menopause.

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GucciJackie · 27/05/2021 18:19

It has made me realise how pointless all that effort was. Im single. A life time of hoping to meet somebody fgs. What a waste of my time. All the very ordinary men i tried to see through a positive lens. All the men who used me. My abusive x (chikdren's father). Love bombers. Men who only date women 10 years younger.

If i hadnt given up, id be looking at 60 somethings (im 50) and theyd be thinking i was menopausal. Fuck that!

When my dc were little i spent way too much on babysitters. I thought i had to at least try and meet somebody.

I could have had my kitchen extended or done a philosophy degree

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whatisforteamum · 27/05/2021 18:51

Yes same here.Tripping over myself to look good stay slim and a lot of time looking at them through rose coloured specs.
I'm starting to find them quite repulsive and some of their hygiene habits are dreadful.
I feel duped by my hormones.🤣

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ILoveFlumps · 27/05/2021 18:53

Totally agree with you both! I'm only 41 but going through the menopause. Happily single, and couldn't give a flying monkey about men. More than happy with my own company and my children Grin

Tootsey11 · 27/05/2021 19:00

Yes is the simple answer. Very much so.

I'm coming 46. Hit meno at 43. The years leading up to meno I found my 'D'p increasingly annoying. Everything he did wound me up, from the noisy eating to pointless stupid questions. Previously I was aware of his traits but they didn't bother me. Menopause has made me very intolerant of stupidness and nonsense.

We are still together but tbh I no longer care if we did split. It wouldn't bother me and if we do I will be remaining single.

noirchatsdeux · 27/05/2021 19:08

Yep. 52, been in a LDR for 11 years...we lived together for the 1st year, in London with a flatmate. Flatmate turned out to be in serious financial debt (think bailiffs calling at least 5 times a day). He had to stay in London for his job, I returned to my northern city...and it's been that way ever since. Up until I was about 46/47 I was bothered by it, wanted us back living together...nowadays I thank my lucky stars that because of one thing and another (mainly my poor health) it just hasn't happened. And I don't want it to happen now.

He comes to visit on average once a month, for about 4/5 days at a time. Takes annual leave and comes up for a couple of weeks...and by the end of that I'm ready to murder him! I can't stand the noise, mess, snoring, farting, lack of sleep...particularly now I'm having bad night sweats. I'm seriously thinking of getting rid of my sofa in the living room and turning it into a second bedroom. Sex went out the window about 3 years ago (due to his health problems, not mine) and I couldn't care less. Like @Tootsey11 I doubt I'd notice much of a difference if we did split and I seriously doubt I'd bother with a relationship again.

abacusnights · 27/05/2021 19:17

I'm perimenopausal and it has made me sexually rampant . I'm absolutely loving it! Be interesting to see how I feel once I have actually reached menopause. I'm really hoping I can maintain my sex drive.

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whatisforteamum · 27/05/2021 19:21

I was like that in my 40s abacusnights.
Now it doesn't cross my mind.

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GucciJackie · 27/05/2021 19:26

Oh so true, for years i stayed slim and now im 50 ive put on a stone but it's because i eat more because finally i cannot fucking be arsed about staying under 9 stone which seemed of paramount importance for decades. So this stone is menopausal but not in the way people might think

BillieSpain · 27/05/2021 19:30

@whatisforteamum

I was like that in my 40s abacusnights. Now it doesn't cross my mind.
I was too. post 47, couldn't give a shit.

Once the hormones are gone, they are the same as a 12 year old girl (unless you take HRT, but even then)

noirchatsdeux · 27/05/2021 19:34

Me three...from mid 30s to mid 40s, loved sex, was really keen. 5 years ago - so when I was about 47/48...couldn't care less.

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whatisforteamum · 27/05/2021 19:50

I don't think I even like men so much in general now I'm more sensitive.
When I hear them tearing women down I think have you looked in the mirror yourselves!

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BillieSpain · 27/05/2021 19:59

I don't either and I am not more sensitive, I am more aware of their underhand attitudes towards women past 50.

My husband is 69, I am 50, he thinks I am 'past it', I look at him and feel hatred sometimes, the hipocracy, his false fucking teeth! (excuse me)

Mintjulia · 27/05/2021 19:59

No. I'm late 50s. My libido hasn't faded but my tolerance of of male fuckwittery has. It just speeds things up rather Smile

NakedBanana · 27/05/2021 20:02

To be honest I've gone off everyone particularly my teenage kids!

Even my friends :(

Just want to run away and live in beach hut somewhere warm with loads of books and music.

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whatisforteamum · 27/05/2021 20:13

🤣🤣billiespain mine is older and overweight.Doesnt stop him commenting though.

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Bagelsandbrie · 27/05/2021 20:20

I definitely think when you’ve got a lot of oestrogen floating about the biological desire to reproduce (even if we don’t consciously recognise it as that) makes us find men attractive and desire sex. When you’re post menopause who gives a shit about any of that anymore? Generally you just hate everyone and want to live in peace with a shit load of cats. (Disclaimer - grumpy menopausal woman).

GucciJackie · 27/05/2021 20:24

Im not grumpy. Im happy. Im freed from the tyranny of "hoping to meet somebody"
Im so fucking annoyed i spent 20 odd years hoping to meet somebody. I had a 7 year relationship with an arsehole.

GCAcademic · 27/05/2021 20:25

@Bagelsandbrie

I definitely think when you’ve got a lot of oestrogen floating about the biological desire to reproduce (even if we don’t consciously recognise it as that) makes us find men attractive and desire sex. When you’re post menopause who gives a shit about any of that anymore? Generally you just hate everyone and want to live in peace with a shit load of cats. (Disclaimer - grumpy menopausal woman).
Absolute rubbish.

Dogs all the way!

Bagelsandbrie · 27/05/2021 20:28

@GCAcademic GrinGrin

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whatisforteamum · 27/05/2021 21:03

Cats.they don't ask anything of us.😊

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queenofthenorthwest · 27/05/2021 21:22

I think I I am peri menopausal.
Some days I live my op more than anything but some days I want to be as far away from him as I can get.

Usually for a couple of days mid cycle and then just before my period.

I could literally kill him for chewing and breathing. I know I have some sort of issue I've googled it but most days I can deal with it. Some days I can't be in the room with him when he eats.

magnolia7545647 · 27/05/2021 21:38

Yes is the simple answer. Very much so.

I'm coming 46. Hit meno at 43. The years leading up to meno I found my 'D'p increasingly annoying. Everything he did wound me up, from the noisy eating to pointless stupid questions. Previously I was aware of his traits but they didn't bother me. Menopause has made me very intolerant of stupidness and nonsense.

We are still together but tbh I no longer care if we did split. It wouldn't bother me and if we do I will be remaining single.

Yep, another one here.

TheWeeDonkey · 27/05/2021 21:44

@NakedBanana

To be honest I've gone off everyone particularly my teenage kids!

Even my friends :(

Just want to run away and live in beach hut somewhere warm with loads of books and music.

Now this is exactly how I feel (although my son's okay in small doses) and if my mum is anything to go by it will only get worse.
ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 27/05/2021 21:54

Oh how l love this thread.

57 no interest at all in sex. Just none and don’t care.

HopelesslyOptimistic · 27/05/2021 22:05

@BillieSpain

I don't either and I am not more sensitive, I am more aware of their underhand attitudes towards women past 50.

My husband is 69, I am 50, he thinks I am 'past it', I look at him and feel hatred sometimes, the hipocracy, his false fucking teeth! (excuse me)

Jesus this has made me laugh so much! Thanks