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Did menopause make you go off men

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whatisforteamum · 27/05/2021 18:12

Recently I've noticed my colleagues and dh are getting on my nerves.They are all men,everything thing they do seems so childish. Weirdly I've always worked with men no issues .
Tbh the misogyny is rife where I work I just wondered if anyone else has been through similar in the menopause.

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MaMelon · 01/06/2021 13:14

Last post @Chailatteplease

CandyLeBonBon · 01/06/2021 13:16

Yep. To be fair even my dog irritated me atm!

BlitzenandMikey · 01/06/2021 13:49

I don’t want to do the school run, the shopping the washing the listening the soothing the making cuppas the finding clothes the organising the relentless bloody effort of it all.
I do quite like hanging the washing on the line though

Totally agree. I bloody hate any kind of school run or lift to kids mates etc. I hate driving full stop these days anyway (meno has made quite anxious around driving fast!)

Not interested in any of the shit that goes with raising a family any longer but trying to keep going...

CandyLeBonBon · 01/06/2021 14:46

@BlitzenandMikey

*I don’t want to do the school run, the shopping the washing the listening the soothing the making cuppas the finding clothes the organising the relentless bloody effort of it all. I do quite like hanging the washing on the line though*

Totally agree. I bloody hate any kind of school run or lift to kids mates etc. I hate driving full stop these days anyway (meno has made quite anxious around driving fast!)

Not interested in any of the shit that goes with raising a family any longer but trying to keep going...

I just feel done with it all. Like 'I've been doing this shot for decades now. It's time for me. I just want to stop and be really selfish'

Like you, I plod on regardless.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 01/06/2021 15:13

I can’t take HRT either.

BlitzenandMikey · 01/06/2021 15:43

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

I can’t take HRT either.
I just feel done with it all. Like 'I've been doing this shot for decades now. It's time for me. I just want to stop and be really selfish'

Like you, I plod on regardless.

I know. I want to stop too, but can't yet. Feels like the whole putting others before me has been going on for long enough now.

BlitzenandMikey · 01/06/2021 15:44

whoops, didn't mean to quote you ArseInTheCoOpindow!

Musntgrumble2021 · 01/06/2021 20:45

I feel like right now I could get in the car and just go.

Worst hormone day of the month and it’s a doozy. Am in floods of tears. Feel like shit about myself. Feel like I’m failing at everything. I know it will pass and once my period comes I’ll feel normal again but right now I’m miserable, overwhelmed and can’t cope. Have a list as long as your arm of things I need to do and most by tomorrow pm but I’m working in the morning but I just can’t find the oomph. Exhausted. Totally exhausted.

Lost it with DH and DC today. Told them I’m struggling. I’m in my bedroom crying. DH comes in and asks me where something is!! FFFS!!! It’s annoying enough that he never looks for anything himself and just asks me, but to walk in, ignore the fact I’m clearly at my wits end and sobbing and still ask me where the X is!

Yes. I’m off men! Yes it’s Peri. It’s also because he’s intrinsically bloody annoying! And today, totally lacking in empathy.

Next week I’ll feel differently though. Hopefully.

Going to GP to see if HRT helps. I can’t do this anymore.

Holothane · 01/06/2021 20:59

Hugs I know exactly what you mean it’s always me that has to f8nd everything and I’ve got the bad eyes, sigh.

Musntgrumble2021 · 01/06/2021 21:28

Thanks Holo. I just needed to vent I think. Cup of tea. Early night. Tomorrow is a new day. Brew

Holothane · 01/06/2021 22:11

Yep I know that feeling as well, today he’s Ben excellent but some days I could just scream.

CandyLeBonBon · 01/06/2021 22:34

Feels like the whole putting others before me has been going on for long enough now.

That's exactly how I feel.

LovelyGirlCompetition · 01/06/2021 22:56

One job I worked in, my boss was beautiful. A strong, independent, multi lingual lady. About 50. She lived alone and often got asked out on dates. She said to me, she never took up the offers. She had had enough. She had raised two boys as a single parent and said she always found after around two dates, she felt like she was looking after another child. Men just want someone to look after them and expect you to be grateful for the chance. She asked why would anyone want that?

Journeynotdestination · 01/06/2021 23:17

Apparently oestrogen makes us want to care for others and when it decreases we become more focused on our own happiness and needs. I’d say that’s a bloody great upside to the menopause 😁

CandyLeBonBon · 01/06/2021 23:25

@Journeynotdestination

Apparently oestrogen makes us want to care for others and when it decreases we become more focused on our own happiness and needs. I’d say that’s a bloody great upside to the menopause 😁
Well yes. Except when you're the sole parent still bearing the brunt of it all eith no escape in sight!
C0nstance · 01/06/2021 23:53

Yupp

Nikki360 · 02/06/2021 07:27

@TO12T39FRQ

I thought it had, but then the tiktok guy happened...
Please tell me you mean Damiano ?
Journeynotdestination · 02/06/2021 07:53

@CandyLeBonBon I feel your pain. My two are teens and I’m 53, currently on HRT!

DahliaGardener · 02/06/2021 08:14

I do miss the oestrogen, though. If men knew about oestrogen, they would all be on it!

CandyLeBonBon · 02/06/2021 08:43

[quote Journeynotdestination]@CandyLeBonBon I feel your pain. My two are teens and I’m 53, currently on HRT![/quote]
Same (well nearly 52 but close enough!)

MaMelon · 02/06/2021 09:09

but then the tiktok guy happened..

Who is the TikTok guy? I deleted TikTok - no idea why but I kept seeing SNP (I'm not a nationalist)/'Karen' (hate hate hate that expression)/badly trained dog videos Confused

JinglingHellsBells · 02/06/2021 13:14

I think it's a bit unfair to write off a whole section of society ( ie men.)

What I think happens is that as we get older, we tend to be less tolerant of things and that includes the socks dropped on the floor.
Many women get married to have children and once that's happened and they are 'free' to an extent, they start to feel more independent, perhaps picking up a career again. When the kids leave home, cracks in relationships can appear and many couples split up in their 50s.

If you are single and are happy, then there is no reason to change anything especially if you don't want sex, which is what some posters here say.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 02/06/2021 13:22

I disagree.

I just can’t be bothered with self important men who drone on and on. Women don’t do this very much

FourTurnings · 02/06/2021 14:00

I wonder if when I was younger and my sex drive was higher, I was happy to take the unappealing traits on as I was concentrating on the physical appeal, excitement, butterflies etc.

Now that I’m older the rose tinted glasses have come off ?! Maybe.

Ylfa · 02/06/2021 14:07

I have a pretty fulfilling sex life all by myself most of the time, lack of access to schlong during the lockdowns was a mild concern but not very high up the list tbh.