Did menopause make you go off men

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Recently I've noticed my colleagues and dh are getting on my nerves.They are all men,everything thing they do seems so childish. Weirdly I've always worked with men no issues .
Tbh the misogyny is rife where I work I just wondered if anyone else has been through similar in the menopause.

Life made me go off men!

I haven’t gone off sex, just having to live with men. I was never considered attractive and made terrible choices as a result (just grateful for any attention whatsoever). Now I’m feeling angry and bitter and sad all at once. Sadly I’m still straight and horny! 😫

@GucciJackie that's so funny, and true.

Hi! I am more focused on myself and less on men or how they see me. I change my priorities and I feel like a new person sometimes. I love me but in a different way.

I'm 63 - still fancy DH but other men leave me cold. I still like to look good, but for myself, not for anyone else.

I hit peri and it was like a switch was flicked, I no longer want sex.
But I do believe that there’s some sort of deep down, Neanderthal type pull to reproduce and ‘keep your man’ to help you grow the offspring. Then when the job is done, you no longer need him.
I look at my DH and unfortunately he gets more and more like his father. I’d put up with years of his snoring, so now I’ve kicked him out into the spare room !
Someone wrote earlier in the thread that they wouldn’t marry again, and I agree. I would never get so legally, financially and emotionally tied up again.

Tbh my OP was more a general dislike of the guys I know, slobby,sexist so laid back about their health it hurts some never go to the dentist and you should see the loo where I work!🤮
I feel a bit like pre puberty where boys were disgusting.🤣
I've only gone off sex this last yr but that could be because my dh isn't always nice to me so I divert attention to baking and gardening now.

Thank goodness for this thread. I thought it was just me.

I have went off sex but i use my magic wand every few weeks when the urge takes me.

May I ask if some of you are the same and it’s actual sex turning you off and not not having orgasms?

All of it. No interest at all.

I’m in this gang too. After two very long relationships I’m proud to say I never want to get into a relationship with a man. Ever. Again. And that decision is a liberating life changer. I have started HRT so I’m dealing with the cruel side effects of menopause and gratefully getting my mojo back. My skin looks better and I feel younger. But with none of that pressure to pair off with anyone. Friends say give it a few years and I think what for? Why on earth would I when I’m much happier not catering to any useless sexist man-children. Like a previous poster said an occasional go with a magic wand does the job much better than a man anyway.

What do we do about wanting physical intimacy and hugs, support etc ? The nuclear family / 1-1 relationship that excludes others is still really the only model for that.

@MissScotland101

I have went off sex but i use my magic wand every few weeks when the urge takes me.

May I ask if some of you are the same and it’s actual sex turning you off and not not having orgasms?

It’s sex with my DH putting me off, not sure if I’d be up for it with someone else or not. But I do get the urge for the occasional DIY, so I suppose resurrection isn’t an impossibility 🤣

When not ill as in last week and still a bit today my libido has gone through the roof my fantasy sex is mind blowing so my orgasms are fantastic. Believe I have so much fun with my crushes and I no longer feel guilty. He’s not interested or bothered so why should I suffer.

What do we do about wanting physical intimacy and hugs, support etc ? The nuclear family / 1-1 relationship that excludes others is still really the only model for that.

Good question.

I have young dc so still get lots of hugs...going to miss that. Not sure otherwise. Heading off to therapy for support plus have a couple of friends but in my case (due to various reasons hence therapy) I feel I need a lot. Would love to get a dog but need to balance up commitment to caring for them.

I'm happily married, 48 however if he disappeared in a puff of smoke for any reason I'd not be bothered about meeting anyone else. I just could not be arsed. Most men my age are looking for someone ten years' younger and honestly, other than my dh have never met another man his age (56) who I find remotely attractive. They all look old and knackered. But I expect that's what they would think of me so.......

I can't say it's just men to be fair. I just have a low tolerance for people generally. I exclude my dd from this though.

I am single and quite happy about it. I had a gynae visit recently and everything is still in working order in the internals, so I don't know if my lack of dealing with bullshit is pre menopausal or just the fact I'm 51 and don't give a shit now.

I’m just furious all the god damned time. I have no time for anyone’s shit - especially not men.

Neednewkness that was me before Hrt 🤣

I wonder how many marriages survive this life stage.

I'm 36, still very much in the little children/babies stage and find this thread fascinating and terrifying in equal measure

It’s not terrifying in the least.

It’s a huge relief. And a sense of contentment. And empowerment and freedom.

Sex: just cannot be arsed
Sexist male shite- just laugheable and pathetic.

Also,

I loved clothes and make up.

Since the menopause l just don’t care anymore...

It's a bit terrifying that I might hate my husband and not want to have sex, no? That's how I feel in the first year after having each baby and it's miserable.

I also do like clothes and makeup, getting dressed up and looking nice. Not sure how I feel about not caring about that.

I'd like to think I'm already absolutely done with sexist bullshit, but that's more to do with have children and not wanting that shit in their world.

I do like the idea of being a bit ballsy and not giving a shit, that sounds quite good.

I’m 49 and just done with looking after my DH.
We have both had to fill in some paperwork today. Did my bit, no bother. He was asking me what he had to do for every question. Now I have the rage. Half an hour ago I was chilled watching tv.

Not menopausal yet (early 40s) but I have pretty much had enough of men. Even as friends, can't be arsed with them. I love and appreciate my DH but am equally annoyed and repulsed by him. I think it's partly since having kids; the biological urge to find a mate has gone now and it's like when the lights come on at the end of the party. Like, "Oh. What exactly was that all about?!".

I have been missing recently though, that women seem to get better as we age while.men get worse. More confident, more honest and open to new experiences and authentic friendships. More beautiful. I'm blown away by the brilliance of so many of my female friends, and by the incredible support we give each other. Men, on the other hand, seem to get progressively grumpier, lazier, smellier and more pedantic. Even the men I love.