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Did menopause make you go off men

202 replies

whatisforteamum · 27/05/2021 18:12

Recently I've noticed my colleagues and dh are getting on my nerves.They are all men,everything thing they do seems so childish. Weirdly I've always worked with men no issues .
Tbh the misogyny is rife where I work I just wondered if anyone else has been through similar in the menopause.

OP posts:
BillieSpain · 01/06/2021 10:45

@FussyLittleFucker, DD is 13. She recently declared herself gay, (to me only)

My only thought was 'good' and a feeling of relief. (I am aware she may change her mind though).

FussyLittleFucker · 01/06/2021 10:52

@BillieSpain - in all honesty I think would feel some relief too if that turned out to be the case with my DD.

MaMelon · 01/06/2021 10:56

I don’t know...can you imagine being in a relationship with another menopausal woman? I’d hate her too.

A cottage in the middle of nowhere, a dog and a garden is the only way forward.

BillieSpain · 01/06/2021 10:57

I think most of the girls in her class are utterly disgusted at the porn and derogatory things the boys look at on their phones (about women). I think they are already disappointed by it.

Sad really.

It is really cool to be gay! Specially on TikTok Grin

BillieSpain · 01/06/2021 11:00

@MaMelon

I don’t know...can you imagine being in a relationship with another menopausal woman? I’d hate her too.

A cottage in the middle of nowhere, a dog and a garden is the only way forward.

No I'd completely relate to her! Just as I relate to teenage girls starting their periods.

The male menopause I cannot relate to. I don't swagger round thinking 18 year old boys are attracted to me.

MaMelon · 01/06/2021 11:15

Perhaps I’m past the point of caring enough to relate to people - their dramas just annoy me intensely. I would find myself having to pretend to care in a lesbian relationship too when I don’t really Grin

rabbitcow · 01/06/2021 11:16

@BillieSpain

I think most of the girls in her class are utterly disgusted at the porn and derogatory things the boys look at on their phones (about women). I think they are already disappointed by it.

Sad really.

It is really cool to be gay! Specially on TikTok Grin

That is really sad. Why can't the male of the species get their act together?
Bovrilly · 01/06/2021 11:23

There is a particular type of man that I just cannot stand now, middle-aged, huge ego but also insecure. In my younger days I think I was happy to flatter them to keep the peace (and get whatever it was I wanted) but these days I just can't bring myself to do it. In my industry they are often in charge of much nicer, cleverer and more creative people, whose ideas they steal while crushing their self-esteem. Twats, the lot of them.

BlitzenandMikey · 01/06/2021 11:30

Let’s keep this thread going, it’s so apt for many of us going through this hormonal hell !

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 01/06/2021 11:43

I’m hoping DD is going to be gay. Then she won’t have to put up with shitty men.

Women on the awhile are the much nicer species.

Karatema · 01/06/2021 11:47

@abacusnights

I'm perimenopausal and it has made me sexually rampant . I'm absolutely loving it! Be interesting to see how I feel once I have actually reached menopause. I'm really hoping I can maintain my sex drive.
I wish for those days again! Loved it. I'm quite happy with once a week sex but, quite often, I begrudge him that!

Yes, other things do annoy me but, luckily, he has hobbies that keep him out of my way. BUT I wouldn't want to live without him and, I hope, he feels the same way about me!

BillieSpain · 01/06/2021 12:17

Oh my sex drive is fine as I am on HRT. TO PROTECT MY HEALTH! It is the man/men I chose in the past, who are the problem. It was clearly all about procreation only.

I am completely attracted a (very, very rare) type of man now. The rest leave me cold and frankly, disgusted.

Like a PP the stuff I have put up with!

I don't think it can all be blamed on menopause, I think it s when DC's are getting a bit older, we can pause for breath, we are much wiser and we look at the disrepect that surrounds us (and our DC's)

Revolts me.

If your sex drive is important to you then take HRT and buy a vibrator Grin because as men get older, as much as we are no longer deemed good enough, neither are they. (Mostly)

Chailatteplease · 01/06/2021 12:22

I find this thread really sad.

Will definitely be taking HRT when it’s my time, I like feeling in love with my husband.

Chailatteplease · 01/06/2021 12:24

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

I’m hoping DD is going to be gay. Then she won’t have to put up with shitty men.

Women on the awhile are the much nicer species.

This isn’t true. I was brought up by lesbians. Extremely toxic environment and deeply damaging to my sister and I.
BillieSpain · 01/06/2021 12:26

@Chailatteplease, I think this is probablt the wrong thread for you. You should come back when you are menopausal with teens.

Lesbians do not create a toxic environment Hmm

BillieSpain · 01/06/2021 12:27

There are many very happily married women in their 60's who have been through the menopause. There are also many who are not, or have been left.

NeedNewKnees · 01/06/2021 12:30

I emailed the GP to ask about HRT this week. The reply was "no appointments for the next 4 weeks, we'll be in touch."

Holothane · 01/06/2021 12:31

The woman who brought me up was a cow during her menapause so I decided hrt, a life save ogesten tablets as well, my libido has gone up so I’m happy he grumpy but I switch off I’m learning, let them get on with it,

justasking111 · 01/06/2021 12:35

@BillieSpain

I don't either and I am not more sensitive, I am more aware of their underhand attitudes towards women past 50.

My husband is 69, I am 50, he thinks I am 'past it', I look at him and feel hatred sometimes, the hipocracy, his false fucking teeth! (excuse me)

We have an age gap he has been impotent for 15 years now, big belly, balding, grumpy, repetitive, a real Victor Meldrew. He thinks I am over the hill to. To be honest I am glad he is impotent I had thrush recently and putting that pessary in was agonising.
Chailatteplease · 01/06/2021 12:36

[quote BillieSpain]@Chailatteplease, I think this is probablt the wrong thread for you. You should come back when you are menopausal with teens.

Lesbians do not create a toxic environment Hmm[/quote]
Where did I say they create toxic environments? I said my household was a toxic environment and I was raised by lesbians. Meaning it isn’t necessarily the best solution Hmm

BillieSpain · 01/06/2021 12:45

@Chailatteplease I am totally confused by your posts and their relevance to the thread.

BillieSpain · 01/06/2021 12:47

I was brought up by lesbians. Extremely toxic environment and deeply damaging to my sister and I.

Ylfa · 01/06/2021 12:55

The company of other women gradually became extra medicinal and almost sacred in the first decade post menopause, but that’s as far as I’m up to right now. It’s interesting how vital the knowledge of post menopausal animals (in the few species where that’s a thing) is to the survival of the group as a whole. There must be a reason why we are encouraged to see ourselves in competition with one another for male attention, even though we all know it’s bullshit, since when was that ever welcome or hard to come by?!

Chailatteplease · 01/06/2021 13:09

@BillieSpain

I was brought up by lesbians. Extremely toxic environment and deeply damaging to my sister and I.
I was responding to a poster who was saying she hopes her DD will be gay, because women are better than men. Maybe read the posts 🙄
MaMelon · 01/06/2021 13:13

If you plan to take HRT when your time comes I take it you’re not actually at the stage the rest of us are at?

You might also find yourself unable to take HRT (as I am) so don’t assume it will necessarily be an option.