Did menopause make you go off men

[whatisforteamum]

Recently I've noticed my colleagues and dh are getting on my nerves.They are all men,everything thing they do seems so childish. Weirdly I've always worked with men no issues .
Tbh the misogyny is rife where I work I just wondered if anyone else has been through similar in the menopause.

what I REALLY want is someone I can talk to about complementary cushion piping.

yup

I’m 53. All I want to do is cuddle my cats, eat toast and chocolate and read detective novels, and listen to the birds.
I don’t want to do the school run, the shopping the washing the listening the soothing the making cuppas the finding clothes the organising the relentless bloody effort of it all.
I do quite like hanging the washing on the line though.
We were sold a lie. I’m married with three children and I honestly wouldn’t recommend it.
I agree with a pp. Its exactly like the lights going on and the end of a party

Just Wtaf was that all about?
Really?
All that angst just to want to be by yourself looking at a garden catalogue?

I just want to garden for the rest of my life. I love plants and flowers.

I have sons and I have explained the menopause to them. As its shocking that its not on the national curriculum yet masturbation and how to deal with gonerea is...the think tank of men perhaps?

Gardening has saved my sanity, Arse.

48 here. Hit meno 5 years ago. My libido has gone but I do still respond if my husband wants sex. That's probably about once a fortnight really. His libido has dropped too. Still find him attractive but couldn't really care less about initiating sex. But I still enjoy the closeness it gives us.

Other men in general turn my stomach now. Was out having a walk by the river with husband yesterday when a bloke made a comment about my large chest. Honestly I went Mad!. Wanted to Chuck him in the fucking river!. Ten years ago id have just ignored it but I've no bloody time for these pricks now.

Also read its something to do with declining testerone in women.

Men, on the other hand, seem to get progressively grumpier, lazier, smellier and more pedantic

Oh this is absolutely DH. Not the smellier bit, he’s very clean, but definitely grumpier and more pedantic. I keep telling him he should just write out his rules into a manual and give a copy to everyone so they know exactly what he expects from them - he gets quite huffy at that.

My friend and I have discovered gardening and spend many happy hours pottering around gardens and garden centres, moaning about our husbands and children and going for overpriced tea and cakes in the cafes. Neither of us would contemplate marrying again if our DH’s were to sadly pass - a companion for days out yes, but marriage? Hell no.

@aquashiv me too. And not just my son but my daughters too as it's not something my family ever talked about when I was growing up or even as an adult. My gran told me about periods etc but no one ever mentioned menopause. Learnt everything I needed from the internet when symptoms hit a few years back.

Men put me off men.

@revampneeded

Yup, no interest. And I'm gutted: I've been looking for ages for a good, cheap upholsterer to rescue some of my shabby old furniture. Finally found a brilliant guy local to me, and he started asking me out. I'm not interested in him; I look like shite so God knows what he sees in me, and what I REALLY want is someone I can talk to about complementary cushion piping.

@aquashiv

I have sons and I have explained the menopause to them. As its shocking that its not on the national curriculum yet masturbation and how to deal with gonerea is...the think tank of men perhaps?

I believe it's going to be very shortly. Totally shocking none of us were told about it. I have told DD all about it.

My mother told me nothing and just behaved appallingly throughout her menopause, the rages were fearsome and she actually broke my nose. She is fine with this though. She was an unpleasant mother anyway, it wasn't just menopause, but her lack of doing anything about it certainly contributed greatly.

We are NC.

Sex drive is ok but I've had it with men. I'm with my husband but he annoys the hell out of me. He's grumpy and not fun. He is retired 😩
Too many men are sexist, selfish, grumpy and pompous. I don't have anytime for that shite

@whatisforteamum

Cats.they don't ask anything of us.😊

They bloody do! My cats are always on the wrong side of a door or window asking for me to open it!

When my dh tries to get pedantic about his silly rules, l tell him he’s the only that cares about them, no one else gives a shit.

That shuts him up

Dd and ds for some reason shake cereal into a bowl by grabbing the cereal as it comes out. Dh hates this and bought some special plastic cereal containers. where you can’t get your hand in. Except you can.

Dd grabs handfuls whilst looking pointedly at dh😁

sexist, selfish, grumpy and pompous sums it up absolutely perfectly.

Oh god - the plastic cereal containers. Plastic containers (that take up more room than the original packaging) for everything. Why???

I do not want, nor will be grateful for, a spray attachment thing to put on the tap in the kitchen so I can clean more effectively. It will break within the week anyway.

Mamelon

Exactly! Fuss and bother. They’re shoved at the back of the cupboard full of crumbs. No one uses them. Dh fills them up religiously and Dd just shoved her hand in anyway. Pointless waste of space.

Highly entertaining when dh kicks off about them and the rest of the family are

And yesterday l came in from the garden and ran up stairs desperate for a wee. I forgot his unwritten rule of removing shoes inside( well actually l ignored it)

He kept going on about grass on the stairs. Unbeknown to him, Dd picked some up and put it in is shoes.

That’ll learn him!

@revampneeded

Yup, no interest. And I'm gutted: I've been looking for ages for a good, cheap upholsterer to rescue some of my shabby old furniture. Finally found a brilliant guy local to me, and he started asking me out. I'm not interested in him; I look like shite so God knows what he sees in me, and what I REALLY want is someone I can talk to about complementary cushion piping.

I laughed way too loud at this Revamp....

I work in quite a male orientated industry. On more than one occasion there has been a male, y'know one of them...., pushing his luck, thinking as I am single I should fall about for his advances.

My favourite and unfortunately far too often used line is.... You are barking up the wrong tree here mate... I really just could not be bothered. Why would I want to go to dinner in front of a open fire with some cheating douche bag when I could be at home with my kids, who can at least hold a conversation, my dogs and doing exactly as I please, in my pjs.

This is a very interesting thread. Why am I not surprised menopause isn't taught in schools. Of course, it affects women! Most of us travel through this life and go through different stages. Im sure many of you still love your other halves, but I agree, menopause makes you put up with less sh* in general. Even though I went through hell with it, Im at my most content now. I read a lot, love spending time with my grandchild. However, if something happened to my husband (God forbid), I definitely would not marry again. Some, not all older men I find ignorant. They constantly talk about themselves , seem to think they have a God given right to make comments on people's appearance(no you don't) and are generally bloo* obnoxious. Like everyone here Ive had hard times, but, in the main feel fortunate. Im not now surprised by the amount of older couples breaking up, but find it very sad. I also think health issues as you get older can also play a part in difficulties in a relationship. I think you are all wonderful anyway. Ive really got something from reading these posts. During menopause I did feel very alone and also suffered with my autoimmune issue on top. Its heartening to find I wasn't as alone as I thought, but in my life still found women would not talk about menopause either. When I tried to ask or talk to someone about the difficulties I had, there was only one friend and my late sis-in-law would talk to me. The rest of the time it was brushed off/shut down and conversation moved to something else. I didn't understand that.

Men made me go off men. 😒

When I was in my 20s our 50-something neighbour left her husband and grown up family to begin a relationship with another 50-something woman who had also left her family.
At the time I was baffled that they could make such a 180 degree turn in their lives but now I'm approaching that age I get it.
As it is I'm happily married 99.9% of the time but if DH vanished tomorrow I wouldn't seek out another one.
I have a young teenage daughter and no idea of her preferences yet but I'm often tempted to tell her most men are over-rated and not to bother