New West London Meet Thread

[Paddlechick666]

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Hope you all find this new one!

Our evening was great, had a lovely time. kids were all very well behaved. dd sleeping in our bedroom is a nightmare tho - she's sooo noisy!

we need a 3rd bedroom

we're off for Sunday lunch at The Botanist later YUM!

2cute, we're scheduled to have skids that weekend but not confirmed yet. if we do, not sure if i could come and don't want to invite 2 extra kids and dh as that'd be rather cheeky! if we don't then we'll be there

it's far too early for a Sunday!

well afternoon you smutty lot!

dd still being a royal PITA! every little thing brings on wails of winges!

but, she is currently scoffing the humous! YAY! i thought i'd put too much garlic in but she's enjoying it. she'll stink later LOL!

my car crash life continues:

mother has changed her CM days so I've been juggling things. She also booked a cruise on the Rhone which I said was okay.

Subsequently I have realised i am on a course (which i did know about ). So more CM juggling.

Told DH he must pay the extra CM or cover it. He said he'd pay as his day rate exceeds cost of CM.

Told DH he would have to be home that week to do drop offs as too hard for me to do and get to course.

He agreed - bloody amazing!

Then realised it's our wedding anniversary that Thursday and he's booked "something" down in the West Country which he only told me about early Feb. And I promptly forgot.

So am now feeling like shit. Partly because I will be to blame for us missing an anniversary treat but actually am getting that he assumed I'd just leave dd for a night for the first time.

He did this last year and we ended up booking an apart-hotel and taking my mother with us.

I am feckin fed up with juggling everything constantly!

But, I am chuffed dd is eating home made humous!

and adding half an avocado is also very nice and gives creaminess wihtout me trekking out to buy tahini

Paddle - oh dear. Never mind, we're going to the farm tomorrow!

CM has rung D is very happy and so entertained by dogs/children etc that she hasn't got him to sleep! Hurrah.

Had dreadful sinus trouble in Kaz (very prone to it) bought the russian equivalent of Otrivine - if you take it regularly (ie not just once then forget) it is brilliant. You have to wean yourself off though otherwise I always get "rebound" sinus trouble.

No now paddle, forgetting something that DH has done for you is the very very very least you owe him. If he was my H, he wouldn't be welcome on my telephone, let alone would I ponder celebrating a marriage I don't have with him.

I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but please stop beating yourself up. You give him sooooooooo much more than he gives you, and I feel it's high time he consider the possibility that you may not always be there for someone who can't be there for you.

He really pisses me off. Can only imagine how he makes you feel.

MEN ARE DUMB

Oh and Foxie, I have a garden shed for your DH to sleep if it really gets too irritating having him in the house

can't be bothered with kew today, dd asleep 2hrs earlier than normal so i will just pop to shop later

paddle - do you have high hope for the anniversary thing?

speaking of which ours is coming up in a month and i am hoping we manage dinner out together alone for the first time since dd was born

yes the farm will be brill! hope it stays fine tho - otherwise your ds might get soggy in the micro-buggy!

2cute - very sorry for nuisance phone calls. have reported dd to police and am hoping they arrive to arrest her very shortly!

mango slicers are crap you know.

and my mango is a tad unripe - d'you think now i've sliced and chopped it it will ripen up a bit more?

dh texted to say he will see if he can re-book.........

Paddle - glad your DH is showing some initiative again

Eleusis is correct - men are dumb. Mine will no longer be referred to as DH, but FUH - you can work out what the F and U stand for!

Sue - is your shed nice and damp? Glad D is having a good time - I knew he'd enjoy being with B's kids. Her 9 year old boy is lovely and gentle and used to really spoil my DD

SFX/Paddle - its our anniversary tomorrow. FUH won't remember but nevertheless will be in big trouble if I don't get some chocolate !!

i know it does seem stupid to celebrate something we barely seem to have but....

i dunno, i can only justify the way i continue by remembering that he's ill and he hates himself and his life. the texts i had monday night after his dr session were so full of self hatred i was scared he might think of suicide.

the tide is changing, albeit slowly. he knows i won't tolerate this forever.

at this rate if his meds and drs don't turn him around i'm going to push for him to be admitted and crack this once and for all.

Don't you mean bigger trouble?

How are you , Foxie? Any signs of a pending arrival? Do you have a bcak up birth partner, in case FUH is watching the footie?

afternoon all, so far crap day . Both playdates cancelled and now ds is refusing to sleep and generally being a PITA . I guess that's what three days of it just being us two does to us! Roll on tomorrow & adult conversation!

Sorry, self-pitying over!

Right then, happy puds is back .

N Paddle, I don't think what you are doing is tupid. I just think it is a level of generosity which he is choosing not to return. SO, if you miss this weekend away, it isn't your fault. It is his. I mean maybe if he lived in your house it would be atad easier to remember that he exists.

None of this is your fault. Some of it is due to his illness, and some of it is down to choices that your H has made and continues to make.

Stop trying to fix him. You can't. I'm sorry, I widh you could. But, you can't. He has to fix himself -- if he wants to. Please please please don't accept responsibility for his failures.

Tell me if I should shut up. I don't want you to feel bad about it. I just want you to remember this is not your fault. He left. You didn't.

BTW, DD is now covered head to toe in the pox. DH landed at Heathrow at 12:08 and has no idea. He doesn't know if he has ever had the chicken pox. I've veen talling him for many months that he should go get the vaccine because he really won't like it if he gets shingles. He didn't listen. So now, after being up for God only knows how many hours he is going to be greeted ny little miss spotty.... [evil cackle]

eleusis speaks wisely you can't fix him but i get that it is hard to let go

puds happy one or otherwise is ds moving on to one nap a day?

we popped out dd promptly jumped in a huge puddle and got soaked, back home dry having late lunch

sue what would you like to do about tomorrow / time etc? keep forgetting it is wednesday already

Ele - shingles is nasty nasty!

BTW, make sure you take a photo of DD all covered in spots so you can blackmail her with it when she gets her first boyfriend...

Paddle - Has his Dr responded to your letter yet?

SFX : "we popped out dd promptly jumped in a huge puddle and got soaked, back home dry having late lunch "

This is rather how I hope my labour will go - a woosh of water, popping DS out quickly then a nice dry lunch

Sorry to hear about dd eleusis - I had shingles and was off work for 6 weeks. Very very painful but at the time I got sick pay so I really played on it.

pc - I had a mental illness - very severely depressed - and eleuis is right, no-one and absolutely no-one, can help you but yourself and you must want to get better or else you might as well stay in that dark hole.

Foxie,
About an hour ago I spoke to nanny and suggested she take a picture of DD so we canbribe her later. Nanny laughed and said oh yes I'm going to do that.

foxie are you planning on a tidy birth just after the school run?
btw you can call during night have agreed with dh that either one can babysit if needed

Thanks SFX - do you keep your mobile near your bed?

Hopefully I'll get some "signs" beforehand

With DS I was having contractions for days - with DD waters broke about 36 hours beforehand...

will do just outside the door which is left open, if ok with you am volunteering dh as well just in case dd is having a bad time for whatever reason.

just got text from friend she had her baby this morning by c-section can't wait to see him

Thanx

Foxie - just tried the bizarre orange cream/mousse recipe you gave me. Does seem to be delicious - but a bit floppy - does it firm up if you put it in the fridge? I wonder if it will freese well as ice cream

And why did you say recipe for the adults - would have thought it is great for kids if they like oranges - made it with blood oranges so is a rather lurid purple!

SFX - why don't I come round for 10am and we will have 10 mins to put car seat in get going etc Would that work?