Can I be really nosey and ask how much maintence you get?

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Just out of interest really, my dd is nearly 3 and I get £30 per week. And exp will pay for clothes etc when I tell him what she needs.

He has only recently started paying and I am finding from this amount of money I feel so much better off.

Zilch for five years.

Wassat then?

£0 from DS's Dad and, £0 from DD1's and DD2's Mum. I'm not sure who to be most disgusted with. At least DP and I know where we stand.

Big fat zero for the last 11mths...

My DCs get £5 a week from my ex. It would be nice if the ex would help out with the impending costs for secondary school uniform for DS but I'm not holding my breath.

Another one who gets nothing.

He always promises to get school shoes or pay for a new school blazer but it never happens.

same here a big fat nothing just pisses me off all the time CSA cant seem to find him

£269 a month. Difficult for me in light of the other posts because I might have to admit ex is not all bad. Nah, still a tosser.

£200 a month, it's never been increased. I do get the occasional little bit extra if the finances are dire, about £50. I don't ask very often though.

£50 for 2 dc's who are both now teens. He gives it to me when they see him, last time they say him was early March. Next time will probably be October.

He doesn't exist so csa don't bother anymore, nor do I, more trouble than it's worth.

£250 a month, never increased since it started about 10 years ago. He does buy dc lots though, mostly crap

£299 a month, got that within 8 weeks of starting the case with the csa. But he's been with the same employer for 10+ years so he was easy to pin down.

No idea how we've been so lucky with the money TBH as he's a raging monster who I would rather never see again. He refused to see the dc's at a contact centre and got kicked out of mediation for getting angry but at least he pays .

Currently waiting for new assessment from Aus CSA.
I've had a couple of random payments that they took from Ex's bank account but not much and that's all in over 8 years.

£12 a month for one 7 year old boy.

£305 a month he pays the nursery fees, he's a dickhead but when it comes to paying for his daughter I can't fault him! He also buys her shoes and some clothes if he see's things he likes.

for those that don't get anything xxx

I have 2 boys and he pays £30 a week. he doesn't buy anything else, except a birthday and Christmas present for them each

£16 a week for me, and he says that should cover his half of dc upbringing LOL.

id rather it was £0, then at least he couldnt have his puffed up self importance as he thinks even this is too much...

i asked for a contribution to some new shoes once and he said "you want MORE? on top of what i am already giving you??? pah..."

nothing here either.

my ex went back to college, so now has a very valid excuse, becuase he REALLY doesn't have to pay now.

doesn't see dc either.

nice

zero for 2 dcs

£20 a week for Ds1 13 and DS2 10. He will also contribute to expensive school trips like residential. And will buy the odd pair of cheap fall apart in a few
weeks shoes!

DD1 and DD2's dad zero!

Two DD's, total £5 /wk..... Ex self-unemployed, when he chooses to be.

Tooth - that's what mine is, self-unemployed!! Thanks for that coin of phrase.

Yes, to all you lovely mums that have tosspot ex's that won't pay for their own dc.

Mine isn't worth fighting with. Our dc know what he's doing. They don't respect him. That's his loss not mine.

Very sad for dc's though.

£12 a week for 1 DD and NO extra at all for anything -school trips etc

£500 per month for 3 dd, this includes arrears of £34 a month. But he refuses to see kids and is abusive and nasty to me all the time. Only been getting since Dec and he left 2 1/2 years ago.

Another one who gets nothing. I am shocked by the proportion of posters who are saying they get nothing tbh.