Can I be really nosey and ask how much maintence you get?

[returningstress]

Just out of interest really, my dd is nearly 3 and I get £30 per week. And exp will pay for clothes etc when I tell him what she needs.

He has only recently started paying and I am finding from this amount of money I feel so much better off.

Perhaps he couldn't afford the £1.25?
It's a lot of money after all!

Oh and no help with the house (as it's mine and always has been)

He finds it a chore to turn up and see DD let alone pay for anything for her.

Think he has probably had his benefits stopped! No idea though, as he no longer phones his kids

Hope you finally get something sorted with your DDs dad, you've been waiting long enough!

Ex gave me £10 once.

DD is 5.

I receive nothing. I used to receive £315 per month for dd. That was until 2 years ago when he left his employment, the CSA took it out of his salary (he left northern ireland to work for the same firm in southern ireland) and because southern ireland is a different country the CSA cant touch him.

Been divorced 5 years, initially £200 a month via a court order. Walked out of his job 2 years ago, hasnt bothered getting another have received 0 since, nothing towards mortgage, school shoes, uniform etc. Its all down to me.

alisara, have you looked at reciprocal maintenance agreements?
It may be possible that you can still get something.
I am currently going through the Australian CSA and though I'm dealing with them directly now, I started off with a government department here that deals with reciprocal maintenance.

Epson I get nothing.

Nothing to feed ds, nothing to clothe him and certainly nothing to put a roof over his head.

As you say, Jack.

Obviously I think it's appalling that so many of you get nothing/a pittance. Have you been to the CSA, unsuccessful or chosen not to?

I'm also slightly surprised at how much some of you get, as I thought I was doing well with my £279 a month (never occurred to me he would contribute extra to rent, clothes etc.). I thought I was getting that much because my ex earns £50k+ (when we were together he always told me it was £38k, as part of our settlement I received a copy of his tax return).

Queen ... If your ex is on 50k you are getting way under the CSA worked out amounts, even on 38k £279 doesnt cover it

Of course if your happy with that then thats ok

Queenofwhatever, that is awful that he lied to you about it while you were together! Was a toad.

I suppose for every 'bad' absent father there must be a substantial proportion of 'good' absent or co-parenting fathers.
It would be interested to know accurate statistics and I sincerely hope they are more positive than this sample.

I have pursued the CSA and requested reassessment after reassessment. I always remember when we first split up and I raised the subject of maintenance, he laughed at me. I can't tell you how angry I was. I'm not a violent person but I wanted to inflict pain so very much.

I meant what a toad.

Queen, if you have one child with him, I'm sure you should be getting closer to £90 per week.

I'm currently waiting CSA assessment - contacted them a month ago. I will only get £5 a week as he claims benefit (although I'm sure he is also earning), but now its the principle. £5 a week won't even cover school lunches but even so ...

another here who gets eff all. my exh ran away to thailand with all our money. pays nothing. We hear nothing. he is having a lovely time scuba diving though (wanker is on facebook)

csa can't touch him.

He did leave everything howvere - house (i pay mortgage) ds is 2. He told his brother apparently that if I had sold the cooker, the fridge and the car I would be more than compensated

at least I can laugh about it now.

his loss.

ds is totally gorgeous

UA your ds, you and your doggie are drop dead gorgeous .

"why is nobody answering the question on whether their ex is paying for a roof over their childs head?"

[hollow laugh]

My ex pays a fiver a week for our two as she's on benefits and is apparently incapable of holding down a job for more than a month or two at a stretch. Before I got the CSA involved she paid cock all.

Not only does my ex not contribute anything else, I'm still paying off debts that she ran up when we were together.

Not a penny.......

£224 per month for a 5 year old DS

He is pretty good TBH

For those of us that get it, it does depend on his job as well if though the CSA - the 15% for the DC1 etc.

I got £150 for DS which went up when the idiot told me he had a pay raise, so I got the payments reassessed.

And I have no problem with taking his money. Better on DS than on drugs IMO.

Sorry, should have said, those payments are per calendar month.

you can't say what CSA would say based on an income without knowing the no. of dc's and the no. of overnights per week though.

Overnights makes a difference yes, but I was fully under the impression that if the CSA decide the amount it is 15% of earnings to DC1 and then 5% for each consequential child regardless of if they have the same mother or not.

i.e. XP pays 15% of earnings for DS (his DC1)

If he has another child and relationship ends, 15% to my DS and a further 5% from him to second child if that makes sense?

Am I wrong then?

sorry, wasn't meaning to your 15%, was to an earlier post about the amount someone should get based on their ex's salary.
although if ex has other children living with then then the relevant salary is reduced before the 15% is calculated.
If someone is the NRP for more than 1 set of children then the total maint is divided equally (so in your example although the total would be 20% you would each get 10% not 15% and 5%).

Oh sorry

But thank you for that explanation. I didn't know that. Very handy knowledge.