Can I be really nosey and ask how much maintence you get?

[returningstress]

Just out of interest really, my dd is nearly 3 and I get £30 per week. And exp will pay for clothes etc when I tell him what she needs.

He has only recently started paying and I am finding from this amount of money I feel so much better off.

£30 a week for one DS, but he hasn't paid for a while, he does this and then gives it me in bulk when I nag enough. Unfortunately I am crap at remembering whether I have had it or not so I need to work that out.

£0 For 11 years.

Mugggle - Glad to see you are getting somewhere at last.

£5 a week between three dc, and he complained about having to pay that much

Absolutely sweet FA and never likely to either.

Me too SpicedGherkin, it's taken long enough.

I doubt he will ever willingly pay and I can see myself battling and getting the assessment changed repeatedly but hopefully now the CSA will get tougher with him and start taking money from him.
I'm just hoping it's a reasonable amount.

supposed to be 20 euro/wk but actually he pays when he likes ie 20euro a month. Given up asking him for it....never helped me provide when we were together so no real surprise.

Loads of losers in this world just a shame our kids have to suffer for it.

I give me ex £550 a month. That is a considerable amount of my earnings especially as it as after tax. If I gave less, then maybe I could afford my own place. But then she would not be able to afford the mortgage, bills or living costs and my son has to come first.

I cannot understand why so many blokes appear to be selfish gits. It's their child ffs, don't they have any feelings towards them?

Am truly and by this thread.

How can these bastards fathers sleep at night knowing they are giving nothing to their children?

I don't get any cash, but I'm spared childcare costs for two days a week as he either looks after her or pays for her nursery. And he does buy her clothes/toys. Could be worse, looking around at others on thread.

this is all awful reading. So many getting nothing.

When you say maintenance though - do you mean they are paying mortgage or rent etc and the maintenance is 'on top' or you get absolutely jack apart from maintenance?

NONE.

Got 1 yrs worth out of the wanker,dd is 15.

doesn't express it.

£10 a week. No extras bought.

I did think I would be one of the mums gettin zilch so am quite pleasantly surprised to be getting that!

are you getting rent/mortgage paid?

I really can't believe the amount of people who get nothing. Dh pays £500 per child per month, plus school fees on top, extras such as music/sports tuition exam fees etc. Plus alimony for his ex, about £400 per month. And when ds's needed a taxi service to/from school he paid that too (although conveniently this coincided wit his ex needing a taxi service too...)

Oh, just to add that is all on top of a mortgage free house (paid off as part of settlement) and car (although to be fair ex no longer has this car as it would now be ancient)

why is nobody answering the question on whether their ex is paying for a roof over their childs head?

I would find it almost unbelievable that those who get nothing or 5 or 10 pounds per week are getting nothing else. Surely you must have help from them?

I get absolutely nothing from my ex.

He does not contribute in any way to their upkeep either by maintenance or rent/mortgage payments etc.

It has been this way for nearly a yr (when we split up)

Dcs are 4 & 2 BTW.

EpsonPrinter - I get zero, no money towards rent or anything, absolute zero.
When kids go to exh at weekend he might buy the odd t-shirt but expects me to wash it and iron it and send it back there so they have a spare there. I pay for everything.

Epson, I very strongly suspect that the majority who are getting nil or a very low figure are getting only that, and not contributions to the rent/mortgage.

I get £1k pm from ex re our 2 children.

Epson , DD's Dad has pretended to have a breakdown so as not to pay and has never even sent a Birthday Card so no, he's not paying the rent either!

What is this thing you talk of???? Maybe I should link this thread into a email to EX

£50 per month. Should be paying £400. CSA won't get involved as I can't prove his income (self employed but can afford a substantial mortgage). Has been paying it for 5 years but no contact and has made it clear he wants none. A revisit to the CSA is on my list as now he will have filed 3 years of accounts for his business (was newly self-employed when I first applied).

I guess many are not responding though.
£166/ month from the "sole earner" for our family.

I was getting £1.25 a week, but it has stopped (no idea why!). That £1.25 really went far! lol