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Ok an update from OJ for those that have been asking

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onlyjoking9329 · 02/10/2009 14:13

You know how the last three years have been so bloody difficult and over that time i have shared a lot on MN which in turn has meant that i have had a huge amount of support which frankly still blows me away. you have walked beside me throu the tears so i think it is only fair that you get to share the joy
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The kids continue to make me proud and amaze me in equal measures they have coped with the death of their lovely dad far better than i could have imagined.
i am doing really well, it has been almost 16 months now and i have adjusted to the new life i didn't want or choose and.............................
i feel very lucky for what we do have now.
some of you have asked on facebook what it is that is making me smile and the answer is.......... i have been seeing someone who is very special and he has made me feel very special too.
He says that he understands that i will always love Steve and he doesn't want that to ever change but hopes that i have enough love to share with him

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FiveGoMadonTheDanceFloor · 03/10/2009 20:57

Hope today went well OJ.

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onlyjoking9329 · 04/10/2009 18:15

it went really well, he got on great with the kids and the kids liked him too.
And he brought me flowers and a beautiful card

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MarsLady · 04/10/2009 18:24

Way to go OJ!

DrNortherner · 04/10/2009 18:35

Great news OJ. And thanks for your posts on my threads about my Dad - always much apprecieted. xx

differentWitch · 04/10/2009 18:37

Great news OJ

FiveGoMadonTheDanceFloor · 04/10/2009 22:27

That is such good news OJ.

ZipadiSoozi · 04/10/2009 22:32

GrinGrinGrinGrin

Lemonylemon · 05/10/2009 16:13

OJ - the road we walk is bumpy enough without people who don't walk in our shoes making negative comments.

Good for you, taking life in both hands and living it..... be happy!

glitterandspangles · 05/10/2009 16:20

This is fab to read.
Oj we know how difficult the path has been for you, Steve wanted you to be happy.
Please just ignore the evil in-laws, you won't ever get their approval for anything you do so don't waste time looking for it.
Walk tall and carry on being you.

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onlyjoking9329 · 05/10/2009 22:37

Thanks all, it is great to feel like this, i didnt ever expect to feel like this ever again to be honest.

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MummyTheQueenOfDarkness · 06/10/2009 10:49

Its lovely to see you happy again Oj !

Lizzylou · 06/10/2009 10:53

How wonderful OJ, good for you

fatzak · 06/10/2009 10:58

Great news OJ

Glad to hear your news YorkieGirl too - spookily I was talking about my first ever MN meet up just the other day which you were on

mrsmortenharket · 07/10/2009 12:36

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYY!!!

i am really pleased for you oj could you tell?
i agree that steve would want you to be happy

and pfft to outlaws

triffictits · 07/10/2009 12:51

so pleased for you OJ and so glad it went well with the kids.

Steve would be happy for you.

Oh this has made me smile today

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onlyjoking9329 · 07/10/2009 16:58

i have had a widescreen smile for a while now and it feels bloody good.
Tracey and Debs are so excited/pleased for us too, i still havent told the
postman/milkman/GP many people in RL, i am warming up to it thou and people are looking at me and wondering what i am grinning about!

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VaginaShmergina · 07/10/2009 20:42

Aha........... now I know a bit more !!!

Fucking brilliant news, I too followed your threads about Steve from very early days and have stood on the sidelines of your living hell !!

You so deserve this Jo, Steve would not want it any other way. Well back to FB now lol

Hulababy · 07/10/2009 21:54

Have been seeing the FB uodates OJ, and I am really pleased for you, and for your children.

MummyTheQueenOfDarkness · 08/10/2009 00:11

Hi to you vagina !!

elkiedee · 08/10/2009 00:24

Glad to hear your news and hope things continue to look up for you.

fortyplus · 08/10/2009 01:19

OJ you remember I told you about a dear friend of ours who died a few years ago? Hell for everyone at the time thought it didn't last a long time like you and poor Steve.

Well his wife has started seeing his best friend who has been single for years! And they are happy too, but she was really worried about what everyone would think - bless her!

Luckily she only has lovely friends not evil in-laws!

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onlyjoking9329 · 08/10/2009 06:45

Lovely to hear about your mate fourtyplus.
One of the things I struggle with is bumping into people that knew steve had cancer but don't know that he died, I would feel really bad if I were out with tom when that happened.
It's alway good to have a hat I think!
Tom luckily doesn't scare easy he is a nurse, elliot said I have always wanted to be a page boy and wear tophat and tails! Luckily tom thought it was very funny and agreed top hat and tails were very cool!

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mrsmortenharket · 08/10/2009 10:13

oh bless him strangely enough dd turned round about amonth ago now and told me, completely out fo the blue, that i wold be married soon i'm not seeing anyone atm either! when i asked her how she knew that she said 'i just knowed it in my head mommy'. omg. lol elliot saying that reminded me of what she had said, mayber there's something in the air?!

i am sooooo glad you're happy oj xx

MummyTheQueenOfDarkness · 08/10/2009 10:47

ponders on wether my hat will go with Elliot,s top hat and tails!