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Ok an update from OJ for those that have been asking

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onlyjoking9329 · 02/10/2009 14:13

You know how the last three years have been so bloody difficult and over that time i have shared a lot on MN which in turn has meant that i have had a huge amount of support which frankly still blows me away. you have walked beside me throu the tears so i think it is only fair that you get to share the joy
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The kids continue to make me proud and amaze me in equal measures they have coped with the death of their lovely dad far better than i could have imagined.
i am doing really well, it has been almost 16 months now and i have adjusted to the new life i didn't want or choose and.............................
i feel very lucky for what we do have now.
some of you have asked on facebook what it is that is making me smile and the answer is.......... i have been seeing someone who is very special and he has made me feel very special too.
He says that he understands that i will always love Steve and he doesn't want that to ever change but hopes that i have enough love to share with him

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FiveGoMadonTheDanceFloor · 02/10/2009 18:20

I am so pleased to here that life is treating you well. Be happy.

ChasingSquirrels · 02/10/2009 18:21

good news OJ - saw something you posted on another thread a few days ago and was pleased for you.

FabBakerGirlIsSURVIVED · 02/10/2009 18:21

Pleased for you too Yorkie.

herbietea · 02/10/2009 18:25

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popsycal · 02/10/2009 18:27

i thought of you yesterday when i saw trifleon schooldinners menu

glad life is being good toyou xxxx

barbarianoftheuniverse · 02/10/2009 18:29

That is lovely.

Good luck. I think of you every time I make chocolate orange cake.

However, just a thought, look away now if you like; it is far from romantic.

It might be sensible to began collecting character references for his mother...

chimchar · 02/10/2009 18:29

good on you oj....i'm really pleased for you all. yayyy!

SqueezyCheese · 02/10/2009 18:29

Just wanted to echo what leahgen said. Best of luck and wishing you lots of future happiness

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onlyjoking9329 · 02/10/2009 18:47

i don't need to worry about Toms parents as such, they both deid some years ago.
He does have a sister who i have yet to meet but is very pleased.

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ILikeToQuickstepItTangoIt · 02/10/2009 18:53

Lovely, lovely news OJ.

Other people always have good advice for others, but very rarely have they walked the same path as the people they pass comment on.

Live you life and live it well and with lots of love

differentWitch · 02/10/2009 18:54

OJ, I am so pleased for you- I think I said that last week as well. I wish you and Tom and the kids all the luck and happiness in the world. you deserve it.

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onlyjoking9329 · 02/10/2009 20:59

i think tomorrow will be a big day in many ways, the kids don't know about Tom, but they will do tomorrow as he is coming over to meet them. i do hope they behave.

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mumtofour · 02/10/2009 21:08

Dearest OJ
Where do I start to tell you how thrilled I am for you??? I have seen you go through so much over the last few years, I have been there to wipe a tear and to hold you when your world fell apart. My emotions for you, for Steve and for Elliot, Abbey and Bethan are so intense and you all mean the world to me. So many times we have spoken about your future or lack of it as to you it so seemed and hey just look at it now!!! I am over the moon that you have met Tom and the smile on your face is infectious! No-one can predict their futures, no-one ever knows what lays beyond the next corner in life and you have to grab oppportunites and sometimes take a risk. Even though I know you so well I would never say I know how life is for you because to go to through what you have dealt with is unimaginable. So now onto the future, a future that still holds Steve very close in your heart, a different future than you thought but nevertheless a good future...keep smiling. love you loads and loved meeting Tom also. xxxxxx

claireybee · 02/10/2009 21:12

How lovely, thank you for updating us.

Hope tomorrow goes well x

Jux · 02/10/2009 21:30

OJ, I have wondered how you were doing. Thanks so much for letting us know. Am so glad for you. Good luck for tomorrow, but if he's worth it, he won't mind the kids.

Lilyloooohhhh · 02/10/2009 21:33

OJ bloody fantastic

EccentricaGallumbits · 02/10/2009 21:33

i'm very happy tha you are happy.

and yes. actual real tears.

good luck for tomorrow.

gigglewitch · 02/10/2009 21:35

you've given me goosebumps, OJ. That's so lovely.
Can't believe how long it all has been. Huge hugs to you

EccentricaGallumbits · 02/10/2009 21:35

also you appear to have cured my very violent and painful hiccups. well done.

glitterandspangles · 02/10/2009 21:39

GrinGrinGrinGrinGrinGrinGrin

Friendlypizzaeater · 02/10/2009 21:39

Aw - I'm crying too - thats fantastic news.

Mt sister lost her hubby at 33 and was terrible on her own, shes never really done it very well so the whole family where pleased when she met someone - that was about 14 months.

Jackstini · 02/10/2009 21:39

Getting fabulous warm fuzzy feelings at that news OJ, I can't believe it has been 16 months already.
Thank you for sharing with us all and I wish you a wonderful future.

BecauseImWorthIt · 02/10/2009 21:39

Yay!

This is brilliant news, OJ, I'm so pleased for you.

I hope the meeting goes well with the DC tomorrow!

BecauseImWorthIt · 02/10/2009 21:39

Yay!

This is brilliant news, OJ, I'm so pleased for you.

I hope the meeting goes well with the DC tomorrow!

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onlyjoking9329 · 02/10/2009 21:51

i am hoping tomorrow goes well but............... i am a little worried about elliots questions, he recently asked our builder if he had hairs on his penis it is his current thing, will be interseting to see toms response thou i have warned him many times thou this is autism anything could happen!

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