having sex with my ex who has a fiance,should i stop???

[steph1974]

hi,i'm steph,split up with my sons father when i was 8weeks pregnant cos he was nasty to my daughter(from another relationship),but i still am having sex with him 2years down the line and he has a fiance,my family tell me to stop?but we only split up cos we didnt get on not cos we stopped fancying eachother so we have been carrying on but he is living with someone else yet doesnt seem to mind cheating on her,does anyone else think i should stop???

YES

Yes. I do. Stop! If he wants to be with you he should sort out his relationship with his FIANCE and then get back with you. But why should he? He's got it all, right now, hasn't he?

yes don't you want to be free to find someone of your own who doesn't just have sex with you?

you know you should not need to ask this as it is so bleedin obvious...

You're not cheating on anyone, it up to him to stop it.....

Ask yourself how you would feel if you were engaged to someone and they were having sex with an ex.

Not nice is it?

So don't put another woman in that position.

a more calm and measured response....

• he was nasty to your daughter, as a man he can't be worth much
• he has a fiance, so he has no commitment to you or presumably to her either
• you deserve more than this - someone who values you, will commit to you, and will value and respect your children
• what kind of a father is he to your son? what kind of an example is this to set your son in the future?

yes but i dont want to be in a relationship with anyone,happy on my own at mo,am using him for sex just as he is using me....

Ok, yes you should stop........

so your family know you're just using him for sex?

then do you think it is right to sleep with an engaged man? what about when he gets married?

putting another woman in this position,she went after him while i was still seeing him,she knew i was pregnant and we were going through a rough ptch, so i have sympathy for her cos she did it to me...

YES you should stop.

sorry,meant i have no sympathy 4 her...

what do your family say about this?

I think its a very sad situation and you need to move on with your life! Sorry to say it but this man sounds like a totally Ah and he has no respect for women. He is also probably loving life as he can have is cake and eat it.

Yes stop!!!

'Fraid so Steph

my mum says someone should tell his fiance but i said it wont come from me,cos i dont want them to spit cos i dont want him back,just have sex with him when he sees his son,dont contact him anyother time besides when he sees my son and i dont try to get him to leave his fiance,he takes my son to his house where his fiance is,its not like i am doing it for some kind of revenge,if that were the case i would have told her what he was up to by now...

Are you really that desperate for a shag, then?

what do you think you should do?

do you think it is ok to be complicit in his deceit? are you ok with that?

Howvere little you feel for the woman, it seems crazy to sleep with a man who obviously treats women like objects. How will you feel when he dumps you a second time to shag someone else?

And also sleeping with him to 'get even with' the woman is just plain sad.

Living well is the best revenge. Find someone that you can respoect to love

how can he be spending time with his son if he is having sex with you?

what message are you giving to your son though? He must be a bit confused that his dad is in bed with you, and then sees him in bed with his fiance?

So if he is only seeing your son where are you haveing sex? and wheres your son when it is happening?