having sex with my ex who has a fiance,should i stop???

[steph1974]

hi,i'm steph,split up with my sons father when i was 8weeks pregnant cos he was nasty to my daughter(from another relationship),but i still am having sex with him 2years down the line and he has a fiance,my family tell me to stop?but we only split up cos we didnt get on not cos we stopped fancying eachother so we have been carrying on but he is living with someone else yet doesnt seem to mind cheating on her,does anyone else think i should stop???

latest update,things are much better now,we dont have sex anymore and we are getting on really well,i thought at first he was just using seeing his son as an excuse to see me but a few weeks ago i had a hernia op which meant i couldnt lift my son for at least two weeks,so i asked his dad if he would look after him for me and he jumped at the chance,he didnt want to bring him back!I can see now that he really does love his son,he still makes the odd comment about sex to me but thats it and he also said the other day that he still loved me as i got a bit emotional as it was my sons birthday and i could only see him for an hour the other week and me crying started him off too,so everything is ok at the moment!

good for you. you have done brilliantly turning this situation around. well done.

gosh,thank you!i am quite pleased with myself!

Wonderful news hope you are recovering well from the hernia op

Yes my hernia op went great thanks!

Anyway,latest update,i now have a new boyfriend,boy being the operative word in that he is 19!

I have told my ex and since that he keeps asking me 'Is it Love?' and 'Dont you love me anymore?' and then today the best one of all was (as he was driving away in the car!)'I could marry you!'

WTF!!!!

I know hes saying it all to try and get me to sleep with him again,not going to work though,my new fella is lllluuuuuurrrrvvvvvelllyyyyyy!

Glad that things are going so well.

just spent the last half an hour reading through this thread as i hadn't seen it before. i am so happy for you! good luck with the new boyfriend and i wish you and your children all the best!

steph, must admit to not having read all of it and sorry if I'm repeating but did you have low self esteem and maybe thought you wouldn't find any else? Maybe your ex. made comments like this to you to make you feel bad so you ended up sleeping with him? Just wondered as this happened to me many years ago, for some time I thought I was sooooo fat and ugly and no one else would ever look at me. Finally I found my brain and left. Good luck with your new man.

No,not at all,about him saying i was fat and ugly and all that,mainly because i am a size 6 so guess he knew i wouldnt believe i was fat and i know i am not ugly(not being big-headed there!!),it was quite the opposite,he used to say the reason was that he just couldnt resist me,i think it was just because he was a perv though!!I went to Turkey last week and when i got back i had three messages from him on my phone and he rang and said that he couldnt believe how much he missed me when he realised how far away i was from him,dont believe it myself,i know what he wants,still not getting it though!!I have someone else now,hes with me at the moment,hes from Camberley and hes only 19(oops!!!)but he is mature for his age and hes lovely,so hopefully things are picking up!!!!

was it him who had his new girlfriend pregnant or was that someone else?

anyway god luck with your new fella sounds great

Someone else Fio2,my ex had a vasectomy a year after we split,so he wont be having children with her i dont think!