Ex H knows I have been out with another man

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He got DS1 to phone me on my mobile tonight, then got DS2, then spoke to me himself, asking where I was (he could hear background music), to which I said "Out with a friend"
He said "Put your friend on the phone then"
I told him it was none of his business who I was put with, and he laughed, sating "If only your boys knew"
He then text to say "Give him a kiss from me"

I know he is going to be a real git about this now, and worry he may get more difficult about having the boys so freely.

I know it shouldn't bother me, but I was quite shaky after all that.

((((((hugs))))))) hope you're ok hun.they are so out of line.you are a grown woman and you cannot be emotionally blackmailed by any of them ever again.they are selfish people who dont even care about you, if they did they would not treat you like this and want you to be with a man just because it makes them happy.tell them to eff off x>>>>>offers a big bar of choclit x

PC I think you need to refuse to discuss your exH with your family any more. They have their views, you have yours. You are never going to agree and, more to the point, who cares what they think about him.

As Freckle says, lock the door and forget about the whole damn lot of them for tonight at least. Bollocks to them.

I agree with trib,ex-h should be a subject you ban from all, bar essential, discussion,should there evr be one!!!?
I am stunned at your family,they should be on your side,my recent exes family have taken his side,despite knowing his abuse,they have decided im a liar etc,but i accept it because he is their son,and painful as it has been,i was close to his mum,its usually inevitable that families stick together.
You have a support network of friends in real life,and on here,you have to tell your family to let it alone,by reasoning with them you are leaving the door open for them to continue to hurt you.I hope you find the strength to gain some peace on this issue,you are a very sweet person and deserve to be treated with respect,trust,empathy and love.NOT derision and manipulation.

Couldn't get back online last night because I lost my internet connection, shortly after every blimmin light in the house blew!
Yesterday was not a good day, but some friends came to see me last night, with lamps and wine, which cheered me up a bit!

Thanks for all your posts. I know I should think "Stuff them" & haven't spoken to any of my family since the call from mum yesterday. They don't even know that DS had his first assessment today.

Tell your mum that you are perpetually gagging for it and the postman is lucky to escape each morning without being ravished you're so desperate!!!
Then explain that you are actually able to keep these needs in check - something your ex wsn't...
....I actually feel sorry for her if she really has never had 'needs'...!!

Was really tough going, Fio. Today they just asked lots of questions about DS, with DS in the room, which I didn't like. He had to be taken out at one point because he went pale & said he didn't feel well. I have kept him off school this afternoon.
They asked personal questions about the reasons for the marriage breakdown, and school have apparantly said that DS1 is not a happy child, and they are questioning possible depression on top of everything else. This was the hardest thing to take in today.

Its hard babe,(im having similar problems,with my 7 yr old),he has the love of his mother,always will,unconditionally,so know you are doing your best for him and by him,((((((hug)))))

It is hard, Tyedye. I hope things settle down your end.

((((((another hug))))))))) all the more reason to be stressing about the todge bags hun.just focus on you and dc hun x x x

my exe has found out now too pc,xx

quick hello courtesy of local library computer. hope you all ok, will try and get on mn again fairly soon when x i slooking after dd - i can't concentrate on mn!!!!!!!!!!

speak sooon x

fmxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

hiope yr ok fm,thinking of you,xxx

Take care, FM, I hope all is ok. Come back as soon as you can, and let us know how you're getting on.

Tyedye - what happened?

Hes gone super psycho.asked 3 yr old dd to pass phone to my new man,i intervened,hes texted telling new man i had sex with him(exe)3 weeks ago........he found me parked up outside playschool this morning and stared me out silently then told me i was evil,hes decided "affair"lasted 5 years.which would put our daughters parentage into question,all raving nonsense,hes working up to hating me so much he can justify anything he says or does to himself,which is scaring me witless.my fella is coming down to stay tonight,hes a 6ft rugby player,who although genial etc,wont put up with this crap.

hellooooooooooooooooooo!

i am back (well for a short time anyway!) again courtesy of library pc but well, beggars can't be choosers , i think i was about to say something nasty then but changed my mind

well, a lot has happened since i last on here.

(((((((((((((((((((((((PC))))))))))))))))))))))

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((TYE)))))))))) )))))))))))))

short story (not much time left on pc!)
ex has moved out, we split about 4 weeks ago now, erm, someone i know thorugh work has been trying to get me to have his number, i didn't want it. then decided to text my colleague/mate who had it if i could have the number. text him this morning and have had a reply!!!!!!!!!!!! aaaaaaaaaaaagggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

am nervous now.

x is trying toplay games, and sometimes i do retaliate but i try not to.

pc i cannot believe your family sometimes. i think a poster commented earlier about blood not necessarily being thicker than water, it's not really is it unfortunately. have had to accept that my sis and i will never really be proper sisters, she has seen dd (supposedly her goddaughter) twice in one year

oh gawd, i sorry i don't have much longer on here - only 9 minutes left. hope to speak aagin soon xxxxx

Glad you're doing ok, FM. it is awful being without a PC isn't it?

So, you have an admirer already? Excellent! Is he nice?

Things have been calmish here recently, but then I haven't spent a lot of time in the company of my family.
I know Ex H sees quite a bit of my dad. They took the boys out together yesterday, and he has been doing more work for them.

I am still dating the same man. He has recently returned home from holiday, and I see him at the weekend, when boys are with their dad.
Ex H has been surprisingly quiet recently, and not asked anymore questions about it all.
He did ask if I wanted to go halves with him on my mum's birthday present though, which was very strange! If he wants to buy her a present he can, but we're not a couple anymore!

Anyway, take care, and pop back when you can, and let us know how you're getting on.

hi everyone! i am back for ashort time dd is sitting on my lap so please accept msispelelins etc lol

anyway.

`I HAVE A DATE TOMORROW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

yes, x knows, the town where i live is really small so everyone kind of knows someone who know someone else typ ething. so i told him as i didn't want him to find out from someone else. he reacted as expected and ia stil doing sdo, he tries to threaten me emotionally by saying he will get social into cm house as dd gets upset whne he leaves her. i happened to go home fo rmy dinner and found message on my mobile about him putting money in account. first of all how did he get my details and which account did he put he money in?????? well it turns out he set up the ddebit last month! to the wrong account aas it happens. we had row about it on phone. and guess who walked in 5 minutes later. x.

we had big row again with me tryin gto find out which account he had got, i thought he had put the money into dd's trust fund in which case it wouldn't have been much use for payin gbills and clothing her would it?! well i tell him to go in impolite terms and i end up nearly collapse sobbign in my hall after he had gone (of course). went back to work, ended up crying there in rest of break and had to force myself to eat something and took ages to get back to work. oops. well calmed down abit.

well this morning new bloke came into work and said after a chat, well are you going to kiss me then? and he kissed me so i got him to kiss me again by saying he had mssed the first time!!!!
he smellled goooooooooooood

hows everyoen else keeping? will try and post on saurday xxxx

Hi FM. Excellent news about your date - I hope he brings a smile to your face after the awful time your ex is giving you atm.

My ex is being very quiet about my dating situation, which is not what I expected at all.
He is out with my dad tonight. (Ex H that is, not new man)

Take care of yourself, FM, and try not to let your ex get you down too much. (easier said than done, I know!)
Come back soon & let us know how the date went.

hi pc hows you sweetheart? it's been longer than i thought since i was last here, gawd grief. well we didn't manage to go on the date, his xw had a hissy fit of some sort and just dumped the two boys on him. have met one of them and he is a lovely lad bless him. but i don't know what the situation is so i can't really say owt about it.

but we are supposed to be going out tomorrow, he has booked a babysitter just in case, only now the problem is my end!!!! the lady i would've asked is out for the weekend so am going to have to ask ex if he wants to see dd for a couple of hours on sun night though most of the time she will be in bed, i really want to go out so i'm not sure what's going to happen. he has asked today (we met for a chat to try and sort contact arranements out) if he could have dd a couple of days in the week and maybe look after her overnight. i did manage to keep the look of wonder off my face as i was wondering how to broach that particular topic of conversation!!!

he (newbie) has come round to my place during the week ahem not that far (yet!) and things got rather heated....

PC I think you should give them all a wide birth and only see your ex on handovers, you are going to make yourself ill if you have to keep fighting your corner, if these were friends coming out with this rubbish you would have dropped their friendships by now, somtimes families are just not worth it and I only bother myself with close family.

hi pc hows you? not sure if you still using this thread hope you are

newbie gone by the board and failed miserably. he w+as a time waster.
hope to hear fro=m you and tye soon xxx