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Ex H knows I have been out with another man

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Pinkchampagne · 01/10/2007 00:26

He got DS1 to phone me on my mobile tonight, then got DS2, then spoke to me himself, asking where I was (he could hear background music), to which I said "Out with a friend"
He said "Put your friend on the phone then"
I told him it was none of his business who I was put with, and he laughed, sating "If only your boys knew"
He then text to say "Give him a kiss from me"

I know he is going to be a real git about this now, and worry he may get more difficult about having the boys so freely.

I know it shouldn't bother me, but I was quite shaky after all that.

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Blu · 03/10/2007 16:03

A cupboard???

PMSL.

How did you keep a straight face?

Anyway, heaven forbid that she would appear to back down in her pov in front of you but I bet it will give her a little food for thought!

tribpot · 03/10/2007 16:03

Sorry - hadn't read the thread first. I cannot believe your mum is STILL defending ex H. So she'd be okay if you'd been randomly shagging some bloke in the back of a car, would she? Of course not. It's alright for him - he's a man.

Blu · 03/10/2007 16:06

Anyway, now he has his own place he can 'do it' anywhere he likes. Perhaps you should ask if he spent any time in the cupboard while he was living with them!

Sorry - am now creased up at my desk at a vision of your DH emerging from the cupboard under the stairs with fluff and bits of fuse wire all over him and your Mum saying 'would you like a nice cup of tea, now, dearest SIL?'

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Pinkchampagne · 03/10/2007 16:19

Lol, Blu, how funny!

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lou33 · 03/10/2007 16:32

in a cupboard?

is he boris becker? is that your mum's idea of a real man?

fransmom · 03/10/2007 17:49

happy birthday sweetheart xxxx

dd now has a throat infection what next????

not to bad today but then got home from work, dinner ready at tea time but the veg was cold (yuck!) and i was goig to tidy my room (it was a bit of a tip untidy ) - he had a lready tidied most of it i hit the roof. so i told him how would he feel if he as sharing with _ (someone he used to share with) and they tidied his room? he then replied alright (in a "have it your way" manner). i went to get some sleep cos i had been back at wor today after bug. just as i'm dropping off he opens door to tell me that he's taking dd out for some fresh air (she's POORLY FFFFFFFSSSSSS) but he doesn't know where eh's going. when pressed he says oh we need so and so from morrisons!

he's got to go.

happy birthday!

Nightynight · 03/10/2007 17:54

oh my goodness, pinkchampagne!
Does your mother know the meaning of the words family loyalty????

Happy birthday, btw!

I am not saying anything about other man to my children, because ex is always sniffing round trying to find out etc. I tell him absolutely nothing.
He has got right to know, eg if I was having orgies in my house iwht the chidlren there! but no more than that.

fransmomkenstein · 03/10/2007 18:21
fransmomkenstein · 03/10/2007 18:38

please tell me i am panicking too mcuh. with recent event snot sure what would ahppen

fransmomkenstein · 03/10/2007 18:38

door just gone hold on sec

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Pinkchampagne · 03/10/2007 19:29

Let us know if he's back, FM. Can't post properly atm, as friend is just about to come round & I'm rushing, but didn't want you to think I was ignoring you!
Will post properly later. Take care.

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fransmomkenstein · 03/10/2007 21:16

i feel like i hijacked your thread pc.
when i posted that the door had just gone, it was them. he didn't seem to thik he had done anything wrong! i told himt hat he had a go at me for taking dd out in summer and was then ill on hte night with croup (wtf? she wasn't ill in the day) she has throat infection and he takes her to the shop and his aunty (who btw is a heavysmoker - no offence to smokers meant) and he just doesn't seem to understand. i am starting to feel panicky again so i have to tell him that i want hi mout before i get even worse will try not to hijack pc - sorry.

ps i remembered afterwards that you couldn't post cos of your mom being there so that's ok sweetheart x
my own thread!

fransmomkenstein · 03/10/2007 21:50

a thread for pc if she ever looks at it!!!

tyeanddye · 03/10/2007 21:59

Happy Birthday to you,
Happy Birthday to you,
ex husbands nuts in a stew,
I saw a sad focker,
but i left him and flew.....

tyeanddye · 03/10/2007 22:01

doesnt scan......
Happy Birhtday babe,hope it goes better than mine did,ex dp was in the cellsxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

tyeanddye · 03/10/2007 22:04

I have this to look forward to.working up to telling ex h im seeing someone.

fransmomkenstein · 03/10/2007 22:06

hi tye (((((((tye)))))))))

do you even have to tell him? would he tell you?

tyeanddye · 03/10/2007 22:27

no he wouldnt..double standards rule,my prospects involve paedos to him.his are healthy,asshole

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Pinkchampagne · 03/10/2007 23:34

Hi Tyedye, good to see you back.

I am v tired (was falling asleep on friend!), so will respond properly tomorrow!

Glad your DD is back safely, FM.

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tyeanddye · 04/10/2007 14:06

mediation was delightful,walked out in tears,i bend over backwards,have driven 500 miles in 6 days for my kids,i had pnuemonia during moving house last week,still ill,and hes being vile,feral etc about how i dont deliver and pick up on time.which i do,and saying i shouldnt drive using bluetooth as its dangerous,unless he wants me of course.
PinkChampagne,how are things now?xx

fransmomkenstein · 04/10/2007 17:31

((((((((((((((((((((((tye))))))))))))))))))))))))))

for tye

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Pinkchampagne · 04/10/2007 21:16

Sorry you had a bad time at mediation, Tyedye. How many sessions have you had now?

I found mediation an emotional ordeal, but it was quite a positive thing for us, all in all.

FM - sorry you are having such a difficult time with your ex.
It is very difficult to live under the same roof once you have decided to separate, and when you have been emotionally involved with someone for a long time, it is unlikely that you can ever really treat each other just like lodgers.
We lived together for 11 months because I had little choice, but it was very very hard, and it really messed my head up.
I wouldn't recommend it if there is any alternative.

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Pinkchampagne · 05/10/2007 12:48

My mum has advised me to keep my phone away from ex H because it would be very upsetting for him to find a message from this man.
I told her it would be a lot milder than what was found on his phone, and she said "Well you shouldn't have been looking on his phone!!"

When I saw the message on his phone, he had just left my house, and it was still on the screen when I picked it up from the floor, but I can't believe the double standards!!

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Tinkerbel5 · 05/10/2007 16:30

PC if your ex reads something he dont like on YOUR phone then tough he should mind his own beeswax, I cant believe your mum still see's him as the golden child.

Freckle · 05/10/2007 17:00

Your mother is unbelievable, PC. Whatever you say, she will turn it round so that ex-H is whiter than snow and you are an ungrateful, selfish slag.

I wouldn't bother even telling her about anything that goes on in your life. If she asks, just say that you'd rather not tell her something which she can use to show that you are very low in her list of priorities and that all of her support is for your ex.