Staggered that school let my ex pick up daughter an hour early from school without contacting me until she had left the building.

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Been split for year and have a contact agreement reached through mediation..
He has dd every other weekend (although isnt having her next weekend as he is going away)

Anyway few weeks ago ex goes into school with our contact agreement tells the school he is picking dd up early, goes back an hour later and takes dd sobbing out of the school. Ex is not known by the school as he has never been in there and has never attended parents evening so they don't know him although he is an emergency contact on dd's forms.

Head spoke to dd on her own and dd told her that yes she does see her dad regularly but that I was picking her up that day. She was then carried out if the school crying.

I cant believe that the school didn't think to give me a quick call to check this out.

School said well he had a contact order with him- but this does not give clear indication of who has dd on which dates.

I realise that ex put the school into a very difficult situation but I am still shocked at this and think about it every day when walking to pick dd up. Not nice for dd either who was taken out in the middle of lesson completely unexpected.

There are also cases when mothers have done the same. The OP's ex didn't abduct the child though, as far as we know, so no need for catastrophising or trying to make out that NRP's (or, as you clearly judge - fathers) should have their every move cross-referenced by the mother. They are parents too, remember?

I've got DPs contact order in front of me - it is an order that exW is the RP and that she is ordered by the court to make the DCs available for contact at the specified times and any other times as agreed.
A contact order is not legally binding in any way on the NRP, who is named only for the purposes of identifying the other party.

The school are legally obliged to release a child into the care of anyone with PR - regardless of section 8 residence/contact orders.

Edited to add - a NRP designated by the court cannot remove a DC from the country without permission from the RP.
The RP can remove the DC for up to 3 weeks without permission.

Hi everyone x

Really surprised at some of the comments on this thread. We have a contact order which prescribes the pattern of contact, which includes ex collecting DC from school. As far as my lawyer advised me, so long as the school have been given the order they are obliged to comply with it and therefore not permitted to release DC to anyone other than me (or someone I appoint) unless its ''his'' time per the order as a matter of safeguarding. If there is no court order the child be released to either parent irrespective of whether the other agrees or not.