support thread for people who find it hard as LPs...

[simpson]

just wondering if this has been done before...

I have 2 Dcs (2 & 5) and am bringing them up by myself (H allowed to have phone contact only due to his fuck wittery {I love that phrase })

Sometimes its soooo hard doing it by myself

DS had parents evening today and although his comments from teachers were fab most all of the other parents were couples.

Sometimes it hits me that I have to do everything myself

Glad you sound brighter today Hanni

I thought I had a night to myself but have one child ill and the other wanted to come home from his dads (sigh).

Tomorrow will be better!

Anybody know how long chicken pox takes to go??

I am still stuck in the house and it is seriously starting to do my head in

I was in all of last wk (well friday from the wk before) with DD and now with DS

He is very spotty but they seem to mainly have crusted over now but can't send him back to school really as he has lots on his face.

I was banking on him being well enough for thursday but that is now looking unlikely

Sorry for rant

Feeling abit better today

All his spots are crusted over but there are too many for me to be able to send him to school iyswim, so looks like he will be off until new Yr now

Weather pants here and am actually getting my act together and doing some chores

How is everyone??

Simpson - glad they are getting better, will b fit and well for the holidays atleast!

Ds2 put himself to bed at 630 tonite when the other 2 were in the bath... doesnt bode well for tomorrow!
DS1 has spots - just a rash I hope! Snowing but Im just begging that schools on tomorrow!

Feel really mean but if they are ill do I still send them to their dads for the wkend?
Need the space and know they will be fine (ex was never happier when glued to a dvd!), he has a tv etc I also know they just want mum when they feel poorly. Also dont want them worn out as have arranged a HUGE suprise for them tues and they need to be fit?
I dont know

Iwillmakeit - the weekend is a couple of days away yet to decide but tbh if it was me I would still send them unless really ill iyswim.

You could probably do with the break

can I just WAIL,FLAIL and then whimper in the corner...

my heating packed up 17 days ago.

in their infinite wisdom.. despite 10 days ago telling me we'd not ben forgotten and were on a list to be seen to...
the council have LOST all trace of our repair order...

someone is coming out on MOnday apparently..

dn;t get me wrong its all ery character building..

but its been almost 3 weeks since I felt WARM in my house.

I'm not happy.. in fact I was close to tears when they informed me...

I am grovelling to my MP via email to BEG for his help to get this fixed before bloody christmas..

and I shall making a formal complaint about it as well...

but..

aaaaaaaaaaaaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeee

emmaneezer - thats horrid. Have a big ((hug))

Have you got any heaters in your rooms, electric/oil heaters etc?

Hope this weekend flies by for you and everything is fixed on Monday...

Hey everyone,

I've been LP for nearly 2 years and find that most days I cope quite well, I'm almost proud of myself, however when I'm having a bad day it's very bad, the loneliness and the tiredness is overwhelming, my 2 kids (3 and 7) are unbearable and I just want to curl up in a corner and hide. The bad days are few and far between but they remind me how hard it can be.

I'm very lucky that I have my family nearby to help or to babysit on the rare occasions that I want to go out. I work fulltime to support us all and my job can be very stressfull.

When I sit and think about everything that us LP have to do it's very scary, it seems like a never ending cycle of getting kids to school, go to work, get kids home from afterschool club, dinner, bathtime, bedtime, little bit of housework if I can muster the energy then fall into bed myself, the weekends are spent trying to stop the kids from killing each other and trashing the house.

Sometimes I think it would be nice to have someone to make me a cup of tea after a stressful day or to wash the dishes (I hate washing dishes with a passion) and dare I say it I miss sex, it's been so long .

Anyway I will need this thread for my bad days but will help everyone on my good days .

It's my daughters 3rd birthday on Monday and we have heard nothing from father of the year, in fact we havne't heard from him since the beginning of september, I beginning to wonder if we will see him Monday, I try to ring him or text him but after being ignored a few times I gave up, shame really because when we were together he was a fantastic dad...I just don't know what went wrong xx

hello ATM - it'd be lovely if someone washed up and made you a cuppa wouldn't it.. it always hits me hardest when its been a really fantastically good day, and there's no one there to see it, or share it.. sure i can ring my mum, or a friend but its just not the same...

update on the Heating, or rather hte distinct lack thereof..

My County Councillor (also head of Housing management on the borough council) is on the War Path on my behalf... I should have had a call by 10am monday telling me WHEN its gong to be fixed - or when to expect some plug in heaters... but he's furious about it, and has ALWAYS sorted things within 2 days before so I'm quietly optimistic... he also told me off for going to the MP - who's labour, when the local council is Libdem..

(- we haven't got any electric heaters - its GCH, and the kind of heaters I could use - you know with safety cut outs and NOT noisy - ds2 would just turn thoe off, he's autistic and very sensitive to odd noises, he was GREAT company in a caravan in march this year brrrr- well they're well out of my budget, especially in the month leading up to christmas - I'd ordered their presents before it broke y'see...and really didn't forsee THIS happening)

I'm now ina state of dazed and confused its Sunday, but I've had post, I won a tenner on the lottery, my hair is defying gravity, teh kids are re-enacting 'little howards big question oh ANDtheres a cat food bowl in my washing machine - I wih I'd spotted it before I put a load in.. at least its plastic. oops

Sorry, but I did PMSL at the cat food bowl

Thats the type of thing that happens to me too

My mum was due back from Oz this morning and is not back obviously She is stuck in Bangkok.

Not been out of the house for 3 wks now (chickenpox/snow) so am going mad!!!

It has brought the cats bowl up a treat actually!

Hope your mum makes it back soon! bloody snow wreaking HAVOC... and that the chicken pox abates so you can get out before you go completely MAD... ideally before Chrstmas brings its own insanity with it...

who's for shortbread?I'm about to make a batch..

Drool at shortbread.

DS's CP pretty much gone, he is still a bit spotty but they have all scabbed over so he is pretty much back to normal

Unfortunately that means he has lots of energy

Thank goodness for wheelybugs and my new wooden floor

My dad has said he will try and pop round tomorrow so I can go to pet shop for food for kitties (impossible with DC and snow!!)

Also DD has not got any bread left She is dairy,soya & oat intolerant so the only bread she can eat is one type from M&S which is impossible to get to atm as it involves a bus journey.

anothermum - grr at your Ex

thanks

Well, just spoken to my dad who just so happens to live opposite a M&S (I had forgotten ) so he will try and get some, although he is not the best at things like this

he is also bringing over my old wooden sledge from when I was a child for my 2 to use which will make at least popping to corner shop easier

emma - have my fingers crossed for heating on tomorrow (must be cutting down the washing if you;re wearing everything though!) tho bit desparate to wash the cat bowl surly! Ha ha
Simpson - can you get the ingrediants to make bread for your dd? Have no idea but might help?

Did send my dcs to dads, who texted a few times with moans, no sleep , little one sick etc. Eventually arranged to drop them off early as struggling! DD seems fine to me bar a sniffle....

But to be honest didnt relax the whole time they were away coz of the snow and I miss them.

All home and 3 v v v tired dcs in bed ready for a big suprise tomorrow!

We have HEATING

Turns out all you have to do is email every tom dick and harry with a bitof clout.. who then bombard your councils repair section with enquiries on your behalf and notonly dothey grovellingly apologise - they also fit your new pump.. a job which took about 15 minutes.

I am actually person coloured this morning.

They fixed it at lunchtime yesterday.. but the ex came to see the boys, then his brother popped in for 2 hours.. then once I could stop with the smiling yeay visitors act..

I flopped.
moped and indulged in a cry...thank to the snow (which has i the main part GONE from hre at last - but more is forecast) and the ongoing issues with extreme cold, icy roads adnmy most hated of all weather conditions - freezing fog.. I'll not be able to 'nip' to my mums to drop all my families presents off.. so I won't see anyone of them before Xmas. This is the first Xmas since the ex and I split that he hasn't come and spent ALL of Xmas day here with the kids.. and much as I disliked that (felt like i was intruding on his time with them) it'll just be the thre of us here.. and cor blimey i don't half feel lonlier then usual right now...

anyhoo its the last day of term, and I've promised to ut the tree up for when they get bac from school..
so I'd best BLITZ the living room and get on with making it all a bit festive.

yay for heating

I know what you mean about being totally sick of the snow though.

My dad came round yesterday so I could go out to the shops and get supplies/cat food etc. I took my shopping trolley and it was a real effort pulling it through the snow, I could have sobbed

I mean, life is hard enough as it is without having to effort/battle of getting food in etc as I don't drive and have to do everything by foot.

But the good news is my mum landed late last night (although her heating has now packed up too & we are supposed to be at hers on Xmas day)

Totally fed up of being in the house and more snow predicted tomorrow DCs are sooo excited about a little boat trip booked for 23rd where Santa will make an appearance, I have to tell them that this is probably not* going to happen Ds will be so disappointed as he has missed so much this Xmas due to CP.

oops don't know what happened with the bold writing

Forgot to mention I have taken our Christmas tree down as I got fed up trying to keep 2 kitties from climbing in it!!